For those of you that have already deleted their Facebook accounts, do you have any tips for communication with family & friends (outside of Phone calls, texts & emails) that they would actually use? I deleted my FB account before and nobody made much of an effort to use other methods other than Social Media for keeping in contact, so I ended up back on the platform (sadly) to keep in-touch and really want off again, but trying to find alternatives. I apologize if this is a dumb question.
I had noticed a few years ago that Facebook was causing me to like people less, people who I genuinely liked in real life, I liked them less knowing them on Facebook. I think this was a mix of a flaw of mine (probably some weird insecurities), but also a flaw in the algorithm, and a flaw in how people I know used Facebook. I found the algorithm was promoting content to my feed of people who I wasn't really close with, while hiding content from people who I genuinely wanted to see their content. The mix was that Facebook was just making me unhappy... I'd have more anxiety when using it, would have anxiety about it after going to a party and getting hammered, would have anxiety about someone posting something weird on my wall that I didn't want up there. At the time, and now, I describe this as "negative value" in my life. I was always a little suspicious of Facebook's data accumulation and surveillance, but I had long considered Facebook to give me "positive value"; that is to say, I got more value from the service than the cost (my data, privacy, etc). But, increasingly, my anxiety over the service, how it caused me to feel about people who I genuinely liked "in real life," and Facebook's surveillance capitalism flaws started to shift to negative value: I thought of the cost as greater than the value I was getting out of it. So, I decided to drop the platform, and all of their related products (I never had WhatsApp and while I was on Instagram from the start, I wasn't active in it and don't like it for similar reasons).
I found that the people I genuinely want to keep in contact with, I'd already do that via SMS/messages, email, or seeing them in person. But I'm old, 35, an early FB adopter back in ~2003/2004 or whenever it became available to my college. I don't feel the need to keep in touch with people who I'm only acquaintances with, or who kinda know but don't really know. And, better yet, I find that because I'm not on Facebook getting mad at those people, when I do see them, I'm genuinely happy to see them instead of being annoyed at their social media personalities or having a sense of anxiety about how they feel about my social media personality... or what have you.
If I really had to keep in touch with someone who I'm not really friends with, like some guy from college or something who I'm not close with but still want to connect with somehow, I'd be in a tough spot. I'd probably go to email, as I'm old and most people in my generation still use email or have email or check email incessantly. But, I might be genuinely out of luck with a lot of people, and wouldn't be able to contact them. I think I've just kind of accepted that reality as a preferential reality, for me. Any sense of loss I've felt by not being able to "keep in touch" with someone who I was friends with 15 years ago has been more than made up for that when I run into that person by chance, I'm always way happier to see them and we have much more to talk about than if I was snooping on their social media presentation every day or week or month.