Just went through it recently. Still dealing with it, actually. It's really hard. We used to talk all the time, now after laying it all on the line, not as much. No bitterness there between us, just sadness.
Yeah i have experienced both sides, confessing to a friend and damaging a friendship as well as confessing and starting a relationship with a friend. If you want to respect her current relationship, then is it possible for you to distance yourself from her a bit? Or do you think you can get over her while still maintaining the same level of contact?I sorta mentioned to her that I like her back a few months ago, but I didn't really go into things. Sometimes the worse thing to do is fuck up your friendship by confessing full feelings. Plus, she got out of a shitty relationship recently, and you can tell that she cares for him and he cares for her. I'm not gonna fuck that up.
Lol High school ain't shit.
It has got nothing on university life, it doesn't even come close. And I speak this as someone who was in the high school football team, so I did experience the best of high school.
i tried going further than friends with my best friend (we were friends for like 12 years) and i told her i liked her and wanted to date her and that was the end of all since she pretty much stopped talking to me and never responds my messages anymore.
that was over a year ago and she barely responded messages after that and hasn't responded anything since 6 months ago.
i just want to forget everything at this point.
worst is that i never even got a reason why. we never ever had fights of any kind or anything.
I'm 40 lol. I was feeling old, but then I just told myself...lol you'll be good my man.
Damn y'all.. Am I too old for this board now at 36?
Sorry to hear that. I've been there. We did become friends again but it wasn't the same as before. I don't really talk to her much anymore though.Just went through it recently. Still dealing with it, actually. It's really hard. We used to talk all the time, now after laying it all on the line, not as much. No bitterness there between us, just sadness.
Yeah i have experienced both sides, confessing to a friend and damaging a friendship as well as confessing and starting a relationship with a friend. If you want to respect her current relationship, then is it possible for you to distance yourself from her a bit? Or do you think you can get over her while still maintaining the same level of contact?
personally I had to stop talking to my friend for a couple months before i could move on.
You're so young...yes, this is painful now, but you will get through it. You may be in love several times in your lifetime, just try to focus on what you learn from each relationship to stay positive through the heartache.
Definitely not. College is so much better than high school. The only people who think high school was the best are the people who peaked then.TBH, doesn't feel like that. I've always been a loner during the summer, whenever I leave school. Now I'm leaving permanently. Plus, high school is always the most social part of life according to most adults I've talked to.
Ugh. I really, really hate this sort of thing. Plenty of people meet their SO at a young age. My uncle and Aunt did, my cousin did.
No, I'm not saying that this is absolutely real. It might not be. But saying that you don't know what love is at a young age is stupid.
You're talking to the wrong adults. If you're heading out to college or going into the job market, you're going to interact with so many more people it'll blow your mind.Plus, high school is always the most social part of life according to most adults I've talked to.
TBH, doesn't feel like that. I've always been a loner during the summer, whenever I leave school. Now I'm leaving permanently. Plus, high school is always the most social part of life according to most adults I've talked to.
Sounds like a good Era Weekend Thread
High School is only the most social time if you let it be.TBH, doesn't feel like that. I've always been a loner during the summer, whenever I leave school. Now I'm leaving permanently. Plus, high school is always the most social part of life according to most adults I've talked to.
Definitely not. College is so much better than high school. The only people who think high school was the best are the people who peaked then.
I'm not sure what relevance that has to what you are responding to or this thread.Hmm I remember that one post from that one thread....the one with the "girlfriend" working and sleeping with other men.
Not trying to diminish or minimize what you're feeling now, because that's rough. But it's better this is happening now rather than in your 20's or 30's, when the risk of them committing for good is much higher. Here you have the advantage of waiting their relationship out or you'll have plenty of time to move on and get past it.
Bit of backstory: Met J a few years back, and we actually dated for six months. We broke up because we thought I was moving at the time. Didn't really talk for a year afterwards because I was stupid. Got back in contact, actually messed around for a bit, but I never asked her out because I was afraid and now she's dating a different guy who treats her well. So I can't hate him, but ugh, I hate the situation.
I liked her before, but I realized recently that I love her. Fuck.
Era loves forcing a good backfire.lmao i love how the first 2 replies to this thread are bragging about marrying their best friends... give the man some sympathy
My best friend "S" is a wonderful girl. Beautiful even if she doesn't believe it. A good mother even if her boyfriend doesn't think so. She's great. We get along really well, do everything together, she comes to me when she needs to get away from the "love of her life" - a man she's been chasing for 7 years, has tricked into giving her two kids, (He doesn't believe in condoms.) has done everything for, even though he has cheated on her numerous times and every single time he does she knows he has done it and yet she still takes him back. I've known her for 5 years. Have loved her for just as long. But I'm "not her type". She knows I love her. We used to have sex. Until her boyfriend got out of jail and she pushed me to the side. Our sex was never as good as the sex she has with him. She has learned new things sexually just to keep him from leaving her. Anyway, I moved in with them. Not because I love her, but because I am 40 years old and I wanted to not live with my parents anymore. And it was my only choice. I've tried to move out numerous times before but it always fell through. This is the first time it's actually worked. So I'm here now. In love with my best friend who is in love with a guy who would cheat on her at a moments notice if he had a car and didn't have to watch the kids. But I love her so much. I do anything for her. I've done everything for her. I don't know if I could live without her. I did. For a couple years we didn't talk. But we still found our way back to each other.
I don't need advice. I've gotten plenty. I know you'll just tell me the same thing the stripper at the club told me a few weeks before I moved in. "You're in love with her, but you need to move to South Carolina with your parents. Do not move in with her." Blah blah blah. Let me learn my own lesson. lol (The three of us went to the club together that night)
I know I can probably solve everything by just walking away but I can't do it. My parents want me to go with them when they move to SC. My dad misses having me around. They're even looking for a house with an extra room in case I need to leave. So I have an option. So really the only thing keeping me here is my unconditional love for her.
You are super young. Trust me, it sucks now, but in 5 years you'll be amused by how heavy it all felt. It's less likely that you Actually realized you were in love, and more likely that you are infatuated with something you now can't have.
My best friend "S" is a wonderful girl. Beautiful even if she doesn't believe it. A good mother even if her boyfriend doesn't think so. She's great. We get along really well, do everything together, she comes to me when she needs to get away from the "love of her life" - a man she's been chasing for 7 years, has tricked into giving her two kids, (He doesn't believe in condoms.) has done everything for, even though he has cheated on her numerous times and every single time he does she knows he has done it and yet she still takes him back. I've known her for 5 years. Have loved her for just as long. But I'm "not her type". She knows I love her. We used to have sex. Until her boyfriend got out of jail and she pushed me to the side. Our sex was never as good as the sex she has with him. She has learned new things sexually just to keep him from leaving her. Anyway, I moved in with them. Not because I love her, but because I am 40 years old and I wanted to not live with my parents anymore. And it was my only choice. I've tried to move out numerous times before but it always fell through. This is the first time it's actually worked. So I'm here now. In love with my best friend who is in love with a guy who would cheat on her at a moments notice if he had a car and didn't have to watch the kids. But I love her so much. I do anything for her. I've done everything for her. I don't know if I could live without her. I did. For a couple years we didn't talk. But we still found our way back to each other.
I don't need advice. I've gotten plenty. I know you'll just tell me the same thing the stripper at the club told me a few weeks before I moved in. "You're in love with her, but you need to move to South Carolina with your parents. Do not move in with her." Blah blah blah. Let me learn my own lesson. lol (The three of us went to the club together that night)
I know I can probably solve everything by just walking away but I can't do it. My parents want me to go with them when they move to SC. My dad misses having me around. They're even looking for a house with an extra room in case I need to leave. So I have an option. So really the only thing keeping me here is my unconditional love for her.
Did you make a thread about this? Your story sounds familiar. In either case, holy shit.My best friend "S" is a wonderful girl. Beautiful even if she doesn't believe it. A good mother even if her boyfriend doesn't think so. She's great. We get along really well, do everything together, she comes to me when she needs to get away from the "love of her life" - a man she's been chasing for 7 years, has tricked into giving her two kids, (He doesn't believe in condoms.) has done everything for, even though he has cheated on her numerous times and every single time he does she knows he has done it and yet she still takes him back. I've known her for 5 years. Have loved her for just as long. But I'm "not her type". She knows I love her. We used to have sex. Until her boyfriend got out of jail and she pushed me to the side. Our sex was never as good as the sex she has with him. She has learned new things sexually just to keep him from leaving her. Anyway, I moved in with them. Not because I love her, but because I am 40 years old and I wanted to not live with my parents anymore. And it was my only choice. I've tried to move out numerous times before but it always fell through. This is the first time it's actually worked. So I'm here now. In love with my best friend who is in love with a guy who would cheat on her at a moments notice if he had a car and didn't have to watch the kids. But I love her so much. I do anything for her. I've done everything for her. I don't know if I could live without her. I did. For a couple years we didn't talk. But we still found our way back to each other.
I don't need advice. I've gotten plenty. I know you'll just tell me the same thing the stripper at the club told me a few weeks before I moved in. "You're in love with her, but you need to move to South Carolina with your parents. Do not move in with her." Blah blah blah. Let me learn my own lesson. lol (The three of us went to the club together that night)
I know I can probably solve everything by just walking away but I can't do it. My parents want me to go with them when they move to SC. My dad misses having me around. They're even looking for a house with an extra room in case I need to leave. So I have an option. So really the only thing keeping me here is my unconditional love for her.
Do you ever get the feeling that there is more to life than just being someone else's emotional pillow?My best friend "S" is a wonderful girl. Beautiful even if she doesn't believe it. A good mother even if her boyfriend doesn't think so. She's great. We get along really well, do everything together, she comes to me when she needs to get away from the "love of her life" - a man she's been chasing for 7 years, has tricked into giving her two kids, (He doesn't believe in condoms.) has done everything for, even though he has cheated on her numerous times and every single time he does she knows he has done it and yet she still takes him back. I've known her for 5 years. Have loved her for just as long. But I'm "not her type". She knows I love her. We used to have sex. Until her boyfriend got out of jail and she pushed me to the side. Our sex was never as good as the sex she has with him. She has learned new things sexually just to keep him from leaving her. Anyway, I moved in with them. Not because I love her, but because I am 40 years old and I wanted to not live with my parents anymore. And it was my only choice. I've tried to move out numerous times before but it always fell through. This is the first time it's actually worked. So I'm here now. In love with my best friend who is in love with a guy who would cheat on her at a moments notice if he had a car and didn't have to watch the kids. But I love her so much. I do anything for her. I've done everything for her. I don't know if I could live without her. I did. For a couple years we didn't talk. But we still found our way back to each other.
I don't need advice. I've gotten plenty. I know you'll just tell me the same thing the stripper at the club told me a few weeks before I moved in. "You're in love with her, but you need to move to South Carolina with your parents. Do not move in with her." Blah blah blah. Let me learn my own lesson. lol (The three of us went to the club together that night)
I know I can probably solve everything by just walking away but I can't do it. My parents want me to go with them when they move to SC. My dad misses having me around. They're even looking for a house with an extra room in case I need to leave. So I have an option. So really the only thing keeping me here is my unconditional love for her.