Hi Everyone,
I recently revealed that I am learning about myself and might be identifying myself as polyamorous. My husband and I have converted our marriage into an open marriage (which is common here in Seattle). The thread did not go well as people teased me, but I saw some comments of support from other poly people that it gave me the thought to make this thread.
You may be wondering what this is all about. Basically I discovered that there is room in my heart to both love my spouse unconditionally and choose to live with them as my family for the rest of my life, but also there is room to have sex and infatuate with other people without jealousy or destruction to the main couple relationship. That's the gist of it for me.
I have some reading materials my therapist gave me to support our journey as a polyamorous couple. I've found them very enlightening:
The Ethical Slut
The Poly Handbook: A User's Guide
Does anyone else have poly or open relationship experiences to share? Some in my last thread said it was very beneficial to their lives.
yesterday my husband and I talked about how I'm developing a crush on my new best friend. He fulfills my personality clashes and needs that I don't get from my husband in a new way, and since I'm kind of a demisexual I guess I am developing feelings for him now. He might be too, we're both kind of obsessed with each other and spending time together. But my husband listened openly and was not jealous, he was just happy for me that I had another love growing in my life. Similarly he is starting to crush on another guy we recently met and his heart is growing tender and fond for this person too. I'm happy for him. There's no jealousy. We're still committed to being each other's soul mate and we don't love each other any less. We're just excited to explore this together.
I recently revealed that I am learning about myself and might be identifying myself as polyamorous. My husband and I have converted our marriage into an open marriage (which is common here in Seattle). The thread did not go well as people teased me, but I saw some comments of support from other poly people that it gave me the thought to make this thread.
You may be wondering what this is all about. Basically I discovered that there is room in my heart to both love my spouse unconditionally and choose to live with them as my family for the rest of my life, but also there is room to have sex and infatuate with other people without jealousy or destruction to the main couple relationship. That's the gist of it for me.
I have some reading materials my therapist gave me to support our journey as a polyamorous couple. I've found them very enlightening:
The Ethical Slut
The Poly Handbook: A User's Guide
Does anyone else have poly or open relationship experiences to share? Some in my last thread said it was very beneficial to their lives.
yesterday my husband and I talked about how I'm developing a crush on my new best friend. He fulfills my personality clashes and needs that I don't get from my husband in a new way, and since I'm kind of a demisexual I guess I am developing feelings for him now. He might be too, we're both kind of obsessed with each other and spending time together. But my husband listened openly and was not jealous, he was just happy for me that I had another love growing in my life. Similarly he is starting to crush on another guy we recently met and his heart is growing tender and fond for this person too. I'm happy for him. There's no jealousy. We're still committed to being each other's soul mate and we don't love each other any less. We're just excited to explore this together.