Since that post seems to have stirred people, I didn't mean to offend. I personally don't like it, but yeah, I shouldn't have said it was creepy, I should have specified that I don't like it, or that it's creepy to me.
It's good to talk to them about this, it's not the biggest sin in the world to use whatever they're comfortable with.I did. My daughter listens to a lot of hip hop and she suggested "my bitches". But my wife didn't like that as it is too informal. (I think it is disrespectful).
I'm really confused.
I used to introduce my wife and daughter to people by saying:
"these are my women",
but I stopped as I was told it was offensive ("possesive", I think?). So usually now I would say :
"these are my females"
And now this is not OK? I have literally got no idea how to introduce them now.
The 'my wife' thing in context is when I know the person.What else am I supposed to say when describing my wife then? I mean, she's my wife. I'm her husband. I guess I could say, "The woman that I made my marriage vows with," but that seems like a mouthful when, "My wife," suffices.
Pretty sure the phrase "my wife" or "my boyfriend" is simply for telling others what relation that person is to you. It's not meant to show or imply that you have ownership over someone. I'm sure you obviously know that and I get what you're trying to say but...come on.These are the women in my life?
'My wife' is a creepy term actually, and I hear that a lot.
Woman refers to a human female.
Female refers to the child bearing sex of any animal.
If you say Karen is a women. There is no confusion that Karen is human (and adult as well).
But if you say Karen is female. Now the question is what kind of female? Human? Dog? Chimp? How old?
It become more clear when some refers to Steve as a man, but Karen as a female. Why does Steve get the classified as human, where Karen is put on the level animal?
The man had sex with the female. It this a consensual relation ship between two adult humans, or human man having sex with with say a female horse?
Language matters.
Oh so you're an extremely unfunny troll?I did. My daughter listens to a lot of hip hop and she suggested "my bitches". But my wife didn't like that as it is too informal. (I think it is disrespectful).
The 'my wife' thing in context is when I know the person.
Let's say we're at the pub, and I know your wife Sarah, and she's not there, and you say 'my wife had a terrible day at work', instead of 'Sarah had a terrible day at work'.
At this wife thing... can't you just you just say "this is my wife, X" and "this is my daughter, Y"? Are you pressed for time or something?
I'm really confused.
I used to introduce my wife and daughter to people by saying:
"these are my women",
but I stopped as I was told it was offensive ("possesive", I think?). So usually now I would say :
"these are my females"
And now this is not OK? I have literally got no idea how to introduce them now.
My wife actually corrects me, in front of everybody (from across the room), if I refer to her as "my wife" in the company of people who know who she is. She'll say "I have a name!!"
I definitely do think that saying "that female did something" or "she is a female" (or just using female instead of woman) is derogatory. I'm more curious about female being used instead of woman (i.e. she is "female" or "there are 20 females in my astronomy class), and/or using female simultaneously while using male. This is something I have heard a lot of my friends, whose first language is not English, do, and while it's always struck me as odd, I've also ascribed it to linguistic unfamiliarity instead of sexism.I've definitely heard it used in a derogatory sense, by men and women. Obviously if the full context is "male/female" there's no issue, but it's weird hearing the mismatch.
It's fine to ask question about language if it's not your first language or whatever.
But I admit I'm a bit perplexed. Both of you are good enough at English to communicate in full sentences here, so surely you know the difference between nouns and adjectives, right? Or is that concept not present in your mother tongue at all? Serious question, because otherwise I don't understand your confusion.
To reiterate: Female as adjective is fine. Female as a noun (which is where adding the "a" come from, that makes it a noun) is generally not, unless speaking in a very clinical context (military, medical, etc.).
English is my first language, I'm American, and yes I know the difference between nouns and verbs but literally no point in my life was this ever an issue. Like why is it offensive to refer to someone as a Male musician or a female musician? I do it often, and I've never had anybody say that what I was saying was demonizing or anything.
It's confusing because I went my whole life calling people Male and female and nobody was ever offended.
Well, I think in your example, "male" and "female", while having the article "a" attached to them, are still adjectives, not nouns. So, for instance, they are modifiers to the subject, not the subject(s) themselves. Imagine, if instead of saying a female musician, you instead said "a talented female"; in this case, female is the noun (and the subject), with the modifier attached to it. Definitely a case you want to avoid, especially if you are pairing it with the usage of "man" for the masculine counterpart in the same sentence or instance.English is my first language, I'm American, and yes I know the difference between nouns and verbs but literally no point in my life was this ever an issue. Like why is it offensive to refer to someone as a Male musician or a female musician? I do it often, and I've never had anybody say that what I was saying was demonizing or anything.
It's confusing because I went my whole life calling people Male and female and nobody was ever offended.
Eehhh, I kinda see what you're saying, but that's still a bit picky picky. Saying "my mom/dad" are the go-to for that relationship anyway, because no one's going to refer to their own parents by name, so... You know. It's not uncommon to just use relationship status instead of names to refer to people close to you. And I still say "my brother" to people that know his name, because it's possible he wouldn't be the first person they think of since he's not around all that often.The 'my wife' thing in context is when I know the person.
Let's say we're at the pub, and I know your wife Sarah, and she's not there, and you say 'my wife had a terrible day at work', instead of 'Sarah had a terrible day at work'.
I'm really confused.
I used to introduce my wife and daughter to people by saying:
"these are my women",
but I stopped as I was told it was offensive ("possesive", I think?). So usually now I would say :
"these are my females"
And now this is not OK? I have literally got no idea how to introduce them now.
Yeah, "These are the women in my life" is fine. Alternatively, a good old "This is my family" is perfect for any situation.These are the women in my life?
'My wife' is a creepy term actually, and I hear that a lot.
Is 'My husband' Creepy to you as well?These are the women in my life?
'My wife' is a creepy term actually, and I hear that a lot.
This is kinda overboard. "My" is being used to denote relationship between the speaker and subject, not possession.These are the women in my life?
'My wife' is a creepy term actually, and I hear that a lot.
I don't know, I've never heard it in the same context that bothers me.
Yeah, I refuse to believe an American with English in their first language doesn't get tvisEnglish is my first language, I'm American, and yes I know the difference between nouns and verbs but literally no point in my life was this ever an issue. Like why is it offensive to refer to someone as a Male musician or a female musician? I do it often, and I've never had anybody say that what I was saying was demonizing or anything.
It's confusing because I went my whole life calling people Male and female and nobody was ever offended.
Why is everyone acting like a bunch of female cunt cock dickhead asshole titfucking queers in here? Words only have the power you give them, you nightfighting coon dago wop kike bastards.
Why is everyone acting like a bunch of female cunt cock dickhead asshole titfucking queers in here? Words only have the power you give them, you nightfighting coon dago wop kike bastards.
This is kinda overboard. "My" is being used to denote relationship between the speaker and subject, not possession.
What context? "My wife" is just.. A title.I don't know, I've never heard it in the same context that bothers me.
I support this post. A bit hamfisted, but I've had a different version of this conversation IRL about whether it's okay to make offensive jokes good-naturedly. Is it okay to joke about racist stereotypes among friends who you know all agree that people who use them seriously are absurd? I'd say there's nothing wrong with that as long as everybody's on the same page.Why is everyone acting like a bunch of female cunt cock dickhead asshole titfucking queers in here? Words only have the power you give them, you nightfighting coon dago wop kike bastards.
Please say "canine companion," not "dog."
I get the OP but the blanket statement with no explanation was bound to result in this ridiculous thread.
Should've done a little more explaining about what context using female is problematic in.
English is my first language, I'm American, and yes I know the difference between nouns and verbs but literally no point in my life was this ever an issue. Like why is it offensive to refer to someone as a Male musician or a female musician? I do it often, and I've never had anybody say that what I was saying was demonizing or anything.
Apologies, I don't have the full context there. In general usage, however, I would say that "my wife", "my girlfriend", "my husband", and "my boyfriend" are not unacceptable or creepy in any way.Not in the quoted post the statement was made in response to. The person you're quoting just made their point badly, but they do have a point.
No it's notYour examples are not offensive because you're using male and female as adjectives instead of nouns. "Wow that female guitarist is really good" is fine, "wow that female is really talented" is weird and dehumanizing. It's like if you introduced someone as "your woman" that's cool, but you'd never introduce someone as "your female".
Hah? Have you even read the op?god damn, the term "female" is now offensive? did the dictionary definition change or something?
I support this post. A bit hamfisted, but I've had a different version of this conversation IRL about whether it's okay to make offensive jokes good-naturedly. Is it okay to joke about racist stereotypes among friends who you know all agree that people who use them seriously are absurd? I'd say there's nothing wrong with that as long as everybody's on the same page.