People who confidently talk out of their asses/assume things

[pleaseinsertdisctwo]

My mom does this so often it's honestly alarming. Like is this how you get by in life? How exactly do you function at your job?

She just always makes assumptions. Almost every day she assumes that I haven't fed our dog. I just heard her loudly complained from downstairs (to herself) "oh my god he didn't feed her"

BASED ON WHAT??? How do you know I didn't feed her??? If anything I left behind evidence that I DID feed her, because I only gave my dog half of the food tray and stored the other half (I'm only supposed to give my dog half of the food tray a day).

She'll confidently say things about stuff she has no idea about, like medication. I'll ask her "what's your source? Did you get it from credible doctors and scholarly journals?" And she'll say no, unsurprisingly. She will reveal that she got it from her ass.

I find her assuming things almost every day. Like it's incredible.

She does this with foods she doesn't recognize. Like she'll say "oh my god will you stop buying this unhealthy garbage?" to low calorie gluten-free stuff that I'll buy lol. She's not the type to even consider looking at ingredients for her to even really know what's healthy and what isn't.

I just don't understand.

I'm sure I could've come up with 4738282 better examples but this is all I could think of at the moment.

What is the mentality behind this? A fear of acknowledging to yourself and to others that there's information out there that you *gasp* don't know?

 

[Randolph Freelander]

So if I understand correctly, you fed your dog half of what it needs and you claim that as proof that your mother is irrational.

 

[loco]

Control and manipulation.

 

[cursed knowledge]

So if I understand correctly, you fed your dog half of what it needs and you claim that as proof that your mother is irrational.

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OP, this is everyone's experience with their family lol i just got used to this

 

[Nepenthe]

So if I understand correctly, you fed your dog half of what it needs and you claim that as proof that your mother is irrational.

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It could be that the food is portioned out, and that the dog only eats one half at a time.

 

[pleaseinsertdisctwo]

So if I understand correctly, you fed your dog half of what it needs and you claim that as proof that your mother is irrational.

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No, I'm supposed to give my dog half. Why the hell would I complain about my mom claiming I didn't feed my dog if I, in fact, did not properly feed my dog?

 

[Starshine]

Control and manipulation.

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As well as the discomfort and fear of admitting that you do not know something or that you are wrong about something so that you don't have to face that element of weakness within oneself.

 

[Yerffej]

So if I understand correctly, you fed your dog half of what it needs and you claim that as proof that your mother is irrational.

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You don't understand much here, it seems.

OP, my dad is kinda the same. He'll just start talking out of his ass about things and it drives my brother and I up the wall. In the last fifteen years it kind of came out of nowhere. He wasn't always this ridiculous. We live in the land of hyperbole around him.

 

[Hoa]

You don't understand much here, it seems.

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I'm confidently assuming the post was done sarcastically/purposely like that because the OP doesn't like it.

But you never know...

 

[pizzaparty]

There wouldn't be internet message boards without people who speak confidently based entirely off of assumptions.

 

[Yerffej]

I'm confidently assuming the post was done sarcastically/purposely like that because the OP doesn't like it.

But you never know...

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I'm in a bad mood so I shouldn't have even responded. I'd probably type out something similar (in jest) on a given day. *shrug*

 

[ThereAreFourNaan]

I feel extremely bad when I'm wrong about something and I try to be accurate as I can because of it (obviously this is not always possible since I'm human). My parents are / were both know-it-alls about many subjects and I distinctly remember the exact time in primary school when I repeated something they told me which turned out to be completely, verifiably wrong, and the associated shame. So from about grade 6 onwards, whenever my parents told me a salacious piece of information, I would usually try to verify it independently somehow, whether in a book or the internet or whatever.

I've also dated people who can't stand being corrected ever. I get there's a time and place, and nobody wants to be well-achtuallied all the time, but if you're lecturing me on something, and you're making core, fundamental errors, don't get shitty at me when I point them out in a polite manner (in private). IMO learning to accept the possibility that you might be wrong without feeling like it's an attack on your person is an important life skill.

 

[Chopchop]

Some people care more about looking right than being right. Or they care more about doing things their way, instead of the right way.

It's a power/control thing, but it could also be an anxiety thing. They don't want to look weak (ignorant) so badly that they'll overcompensate and act like a know-it-all instead.