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People in relationships, how often do you have sex?
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26, she's 24. She moved three+ hours away for job and I visit twice a month if I can afford the trips. Sex maybe once a trip I guess. I have low testosterone and other hormone problems, so I dont get in the mood much anymore.
Btw 5 years together and engaged
Btw 5 years together and engaged
20-40 minutes I guess. I feel embarrassed tbh. I'm going go out on a limb though and blame her because she likes to wear yoga pants and those small shorts a lot.
Married with 3 kids, all younger than 4. Usually squeeze in about 1-2 times per week, especially if we're both up late and can't sleep, or if we both wake up early. Sometimes we'll get a sitter just so we can eat in peace and have sex.
It's tough when you have a family, but we both go out of our way to keep each other feeling important. Physical affection helps keep that drive alive, and it also has the bonus of the kids seeing the genuine care and emulating it. Every married couple with kids should do as much as possible to set aside a little time just for each other, no kids if possible.
There will be, but as long as you two prioritize time for each other, the drive will stay alive. Don't be afraid to call a parent or an extremely trusted friend or family member to babysit if you feel you need the time for each other.
It's tough when you have a family, but we both go out of our way to keep each other feeling important. Physical affection helps keep that drive alive, and it also has the bonus of the kids seeing the genuine care and emulating it. Every married couple with kids should do as much as possible to set aside a little time just for each other, no kids if possible.
There will be, but as long as you two prioritize time for each other, the drive will stay alive. Don't be afraid to call a parent or an extremely trusted friend or family member to babysit if you feel you need the time for each other.
Married, 2 children and both work full time.
We go at it around twice a week, sometime more, sometimes less dependent on how hectic it is.
Some of you guys are freaks haha. 14 times, holy shit!
Entirely normal. Nothing to worry about dude.
We go at it around twice a week, sometime more, sometimes less dependent on how hectic it is.
Some of you guys are freaks haha. 14 times, holy shit!
Entirely normal. Nothing to worry about dude.
Been with my GF for 2 years and three or four months. We see each other three or four days a week, so... three or four times a week.
Been together a year.
See each other 2 to 3 times a week.
Sex is once a week but sometimes less. 3-4 times a month, I would say especially since we don't usually have sex when she's on her period.
Personally would prefer to have it 2-3 times a week but our libidos are mismatched.
See each other 2 to 3 times a week.
Sex is once a week but sometimes less. 3-4 times a month, I would say especially since we don't usually have sex when she's on her period.
Personally would prefer to have it 2-3 times a week but our libidos are mismatched.
I'm confused how being less prude would make a couple have more sex than normal. Like a couple having sex 4 times a week versus your 14 probably doesn't have a problem with being prude. Are you saying people from New Orleans just fuck like rabbits? haha
Been with my girlfriend for 2 years, i'm 26 and she's 27, we tend to have sex once or twice a week. We'd like to do it more but we both work the same schedule for the most part and always come home tired so it's been a lot harder to find time to actually do it.
Our first 6 months together we were so sleep deprived from having sex so often that we had to kind of slow down for our health. I mean we were doing it maybe 12-15 times a week, so often that we broke her bad within the first 3 months of being together lol Her libido is much higher than mines so I had to tell her that we were doing it too much and it was starting to become all we did in our free time which wasn't healthy. I think it's important to find a healthy balance between enjoying each other's presence and having sex.
Our first 6 months together we were so sleep deprived from having sex so often that we had to kind of slow down for our health. I mean we were doing it maybe 12-15 times a week, so often that we broke her bad within the first 3 months of being together lol Her libido is much higher than mines so I had to tell her that we were doing it too much and it was starting to become all we did in our free time which wasn't healthy. I think it's important to find a healthy balance between enjoying each other's presence and having sex.
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My answer is somewhat complicated, being polyamorous and on the asexual spectrum(though I may simply be demisexual or something else, considering...). I've classically been averse to intercourse, but I've tried to keep my partners happy. Though I've had a number of relationships over the years, I can count the number I've had intercourse with on one hand.
My (current) nesting partner and I are both 35. We've been together just under 15 years and currently see each other every day, and our relationship isn't sexual.
My fiancée and I have been together 20 months. She's 25, and we see each other on average twice a week(though we're working towards getting a place together). She has a much higher drive than I do, and we were together over a year before I felt ready for full-on intercourse. Since then, it's been like a dam has broken, and I suddenly have a drive of my own and actually enjoy sex for once(at least with her). I believe we average between 2 and 3 times an evening, and that number actually tends to increase if she stays over for longer stretches of time. I think one recent 3-day stretch together had us at either 11 or 12 times(which left us both extremely sore for nearly a week). We've joked that our first week of living together will likely kill us both, though I suspect the realities of such will help us moderate.
My (current) nesting partner and I are both 35. We've been together just under 15 years and currently see each other every day, and our relationship isn't sexual.
My fiancée and I have been together 20 months. She's 25, and we see each other on average twice a week(though we're working towards getting a place together). She has a much higher drive than I do, and we were together over a year before I felt ready for full-on intercourse. Since then, it's been like a dam has broken, and I suddenly have a drive of my own and actually enjoy sex for once(at least with her). I believe we average between 2 and 3 times an evening, and that number actually tends to increase if she stays over for longer stretches of time. I think one recent 3-day stretch together had us at either 11 or 12 times(which left us both extremely sore for nearly a week). We've joked that our first week of living together will likely kill us both, though I suspect the realities of such will help us moderate.
Nah that's a valid question. I didn't really explain our situation all that well.
She actually was completely off BC from August to late November. This was pretty annoying on her part because I hate condoms and she can't really get off when I wear them, but she was doing it to prep getting an IUD installed. She was just lazy about getting the appointment set up. So during that time, it was weekly condom sex. Once she got the IUD, she was crampy and spotting for a like a week so we couldn't take advantage of it yet. In early December we fucked like mad one night on a little weekend trip. But since then, we haven't been able to because of traveling to our families houses and our families are prude as hell.
We've talked and we want to be more sexually active this year because we're both willing and able, but the last month or so has been hectic with her body and our families.
Ah, good times.
We've been together for close to 10 years, married for close to six, have a 10 month old, and he sleeps in our bed since he still wakes up several times a night, so my wife takes the bed and I sleep on the sofa bed in the living room. We have sex twice a month if we're lucky, and when we do have sex, it has to be in the living room and one of our golden retrievers gets jealous and keeps interrupting us and licking us...
Ahhh that makes a lot more sense. Didnt realize she had a complete no BC period before the IUD. I get you now my man!
And yes, condom sex is the absolute goddamn worst.
My GF and I have problems that we're working on...
Been together 6 years, haven't had sex in almost two of those. :(
Been together 6 years, haven't had sex in almost two of those. :(
I feel terrible when I have to wear one because I know I'm not going to be able to finish. And even though we've talked about it, she takes it personal sometimes when I don't finish while wearing one...I sometimes can't even keep it hard with one on. It's not at all her fault though. Thank god we don't have to use any anymore.
3 kids, been together 16-17 years. Twice a month , maybe.
in our mid to late twenties we used to be like that 10-14 times a week person
in our mid to late twenties we used to be like that 10-14 times a week person
A few times per day at minimum. Usually morning once, if weekend and staying in then mid day and a couple at night. Normal day with work then have dinner and bang at least once. Absolute bare minimum would be once per day. Even with someone for a year or more, if she's hot and naked in bed next to me it's hard not to have sex. I only ever have seriously dated girls who felt the same.
I've been married with my S/O since 13 months but we're dating 10 years.
Well, it's pretty rough here since she has a lot of childhood traumas and some problem with intimate contact so i normally only have one session of sex maybe every 3 years.
She has psychologic help for some years now but it's a hard process but there's slow and steady progress.
Well, it's pretty rough here since she has a lot of childhood traumas and some problem with intimate contact so i normally only have one session of sex maybe every 3 years.
She has psychologic help for some years now but it's a hard process but there's slow and steady progress.
Married for 19 years with 3 kids and we go at it about 3 times per week on average. Most recently a lot more. Something is in the air in my household.
Are you the one with the higher libido or the lower one?
How do you feel about it?
Mine is definitely higher.
It can get frustrating, but my partner tries, and that means a lot. If they were just like "deal with it", i would have a much bigger issue with it.
How do you cope with that frustration? I have the higher libido in my relationship and I don't think I could manage only a few times a year even if they were trying. If they were working through some issues, I could wait but not for too long.
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Don't be embarrassed dude, as long as you're both having fun it's awesome. We'll occasionally have weeks where we hit double digits, like over the holidays. But after a few days doing it 2-3 times I generally feel like I need a break for a day or two haha.
Personally feel the minimum for me would be every other day if we lived together, and more is great. Amazingly my gf is usually more horny than me and sometimes I feel a little bad when I'm not up to doing it multiple times on a work night lol.
Still only a year into my current relationship but it would be about every day/every other day. We don't live together so it's hard to really say for sure but that's what current stats would bear out.
And I've been in previous relationships were about twice a year. That shit sucks so bad and makes you feel unwanted. Sorry for those that are in those situations
Edit: I'm 42
And I've been in previous relationships were about twice a year. That shit sucks so bad and makes you feel unwanted. Sorry for those that are in those situations
Edit: I'm 42
Honestly, i have no clue sometimes. most of the time, it's just grading papers, homework, and gaming that keep me sane. It has definitely put some rough spots on our relationship, but you just keep trying.
Nope. not going to happen. Our lives are busy enough as is to add another.
It really depends on a lot of factors.
We are both 44, and have been together for 12 years, married for 5.
We are both still really into each other, but the frequency does wane as you get older, maybe once or twice a week, but we can go weeks without any if one of us is sick, or hard a tough week at work.
It actually gets quite a bit harder physically as you get older, so you can't (well, at least we can't) smash out spontaneous shags day in day out, I'd rather get quality in rather than quantity at our age!
We are both 44, and have been together for 12 years, married for 5.
We are both still really into each other, but the frequency does wane as you get older, maybe once or twice a week, but we can go weeks without any if one of us is sick, or hard a tough week at work.
It actually gets quite a bit harder physically as you get older, so you can't (well, at least we can't) smash out spontaneous shags day in day out, I'd rather get quality in rather than quantity at our age!
Before my wife and I broke up (together 16 years), it was about every other/third day. We have kids together, but they didn't change it much.
Thing is though, neither of us were really happy with how we connected. Fucking was nice (because...yeah, duh), but it wasn't properly fulfilling either of us.
In my current relationships, one I've been with a little over a year. We see each other maybe a few times a month, and I'd say end up having sex about once a month. Sometimes more if we see each other more, but don't necessarily always have sex when we get together.
The other partner, we've been together almost 5 months, and see each other a couple times a week and fuck like rabbits. I'd say most times we see each other, we have sex once or twice, and if it's an overnight, it ends up being more like 3-5 times.
edit: to speak to the OP though, I don't think there's a "normal" outside of obviously calculating something statistically. You should be having the sex that works for you, whether that's nonstop 24-hour humping or an occasional roll in the hay. Normal doesn't matter.
Thing is though, neither of us were really happy with how we connected. Fucking was nice (because...yeah, duh), but it wasn't properly fulfilling either of us.
In my current relationships, one I've been with a little over a year. We see each other maybe a few times a month, and I'd say end up having sex about once a month. Sometimes more if we see each other more, but don't necessarily always have sex when we get together.
The other partner, we've been together almost 5 months, and see each other a couple times a week and fuck like rabbits. I'd say most times we see each other, we have sex once or twice, and if it's an overnight, it ends up being more like 3-5 times.
edit: to speak to the OP though, I don't think there's a "normal" outside of obviously calculating something statistically. You should be having the sex that works for you, whether that's nonstop 24-hour humping or an occasional roll in the hay. Normal doesn't matter.
Married (9 years), 2 kids, house, both working, both kids in sports, dance, scouts etc etc...
Once a week usually but typically 3 times a month at the very least. It basically depends on day, energy we have and when our kids go to bed lol.
Once a week usually but typically 3 times a month at the very least. It basically depends on day, energy we have and when our kids go to bed lol.
Together for 15 years and 2 kids under 5 years old, so...erm........Yeah.....Well.... *ahem*
Just be aware, if you have kids... sometimes... well, yeah.
Just be aware, if you have kids... sometimes... well, yeah.
Married
2 kids in grade school
We both work full-time (although my wife may decide to work part-time soon)
We probably average 2-3 times a week. Usually on the weekend....in the morning as we're getting ready for the day out with the fam.
Every once in a while, we'll both take an extended lunch during the week to smash for the hour.
2 kids in grade school
We both work full-time (although my wife may decide to work part-time soon)
We probably average 2-3 times a week. Usually on the weekend....in the morning as we're getting ready for the day out with the fam.
Every once in a while, we'll both take an extended lunch during the week to smash for the hour.
I remember when my daughter was young, you really do have to be creative to make the time!
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heh, no reason to be. If it works for you, do it up!