My wife and I are expecting our first baby at the end of November. Through my employer, I get up to 12 weeks of FMLA, which I could use for "paternity leave". My current job is constantly busy, as I work for a large health system in the US and I lead a team in providing data and analytics for the system, specifically for our employed physicians. I'm awaiting an official managerial title that is in the approval process, so that my lead role will be more formalized officially as the team's "manager". All this to say, it's always busy and I am receiving more responsibilities, and I fear being away from the workplace for too long. I'm not worried about the pay, because I can use PTO to get paid during this time and I'll have about 6 weeks of PTO saved up by this point. My parents also live with us and they're both retired and can help with the baby as well, so I do have that support. But this is our first baby, and I do want to be there and help raise him.
So my question is, what would be an appropriate amount of FMLA to take? How much paternity leave have you all taken when you've had a new baby? I don't need the full 12 weeks. But is 4 weeks reasonable, or more/less? I feel like there's a stigma sometimes in "paternity leave" so I'm just struggling with how much time off is generally considered acceptable?
EDIT: I should also add that I can stagger the 12 weeks, it doesn't have to be continuous. So I've also thought about taking a few weeks up front and then maybe a couple days a week for a while after that.
EDIT2: Also, I am working from home now because of COVID and they've announced this is pretty much a long term thing as they're send us computers to use at home. So wanted to mention that in case that's a factor.
So my question is, what would be an appropriate amount of FMLA to take? How much paternity leave have you all taken when you've had a new baby? I don't need the full 12 weeks. But is 4 weeks reasonable, or more/less? I feel like there's a stigma sometimes in "paternity leave" so I'm just struggling with how much time off is generally considered acceptable?
EDIT: I should also add that I can stagger the 12 weeks, it doesn't have to be continuous. So I've also thought about taking a few weeks up front and then maybe a couple days a week for a while after that.
EDIT2: Also, I am working from home now because of COVID and they've announced this is pretty much a long term thing as they're send us computers to use at home. So wanted to mention that in case that's a factor.
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