I wasn't saying they were right, and yeah, I won't raise my daughter that way. I think we've taken things that were considered the "polite thing to do" (whether wrong or right) like everybody getting a valentine on valentine's day, and formalized them into policy.
But of course, this is also Utah, and I should remember it's definitely not the norm.
Yeah, there's a line there to be sure.
I don't think this is a good policy, but I think many kids and even adults could stand to understand a little more about courtesy and kindness. I'm not saying that in cases of actual uncomfortableness, bullying, negativity, or any other forms of abuse should you be FORCED to do something or even obliged to, but at the same time, you don't have to just be a cold, heartless person when it's just something casual and harmless. I get it though, most men are pretty entitled and even showing a bit of courtesy is often taken as some sort of unwritten contract or something and that's just messed up too.
Nobody is owed anything, let me be clear, but we could all learn to be a little less heartless from time-to-time on an entirely voluntary level of our own conscious choosing. The other side of that coin though is of course that we shouldn't expect to be owed anything in return and somebody being nice to you doesn't give you carte blanche to do whatever the hell you want either.
TL;DR: Just don't be shitty people all around.
