This is endemic to Hollywood. Brian Singer, Weinstein, the infamous casting couch. Older men with power. Younger attractive actors who need a leg up. It's ripe for abuse.
Nice straw man. The point is that not all creeps fit the profile you're painting nor are all people who "look like that" creeps.
One of the stupidest things I've read on these forums, and that's saying something.
More specifically, a power problem. Regardless, it just sucks that people can't be fucking decent to each other.
Err I think it's more about assuming any guys who look similar to creeps are creeps themselves purely because of appearance...surely you can understand how dumb this is
The guy clearly has an incest kink/fantasy. It's not one I share, but I don't think there's *inherently* anything wrong with it, any more than a more "typical" kink.
Way to miss the point. Which is that by suggesting that there's a certain "look" for sexual predators, you're a) including your attacks on men who share that look but who are NOT predators, and b) neglecting or handwaving predators who do not share that specific look.
Are you seriously conflating the sexual harassment of young women with a power imbalance with kinks? Are you fucking for real right now?
Because as a director he was essentially their boss and a gatekeeper into the industry they work in. If a guy high up at Google with connections in the tech industry kept contacting two young employees asking for a threesome, it's fairly obvious what the implications are. I feel like people forget that, yes it's Hollywood, yes it's celebs, but it's also a work environment where there are often high level people and young people trying to advance their careers.
I'm trying to choose my words carefully here, but grooming in a sexual context specifically refers to getting close to a child to have sex with them when they are an adult. You can argue that inviting someone over to want to have sex with them is manipulation, I suppose, but I don't read it as predatory in the same way as grooming a child.
I'm sorry that my post did not take this into account. Of course it is dehumanizing to be treated solely as a sex object. I don't know that we can confidently say that's all that went on here, particularly as the relationship was hot and cold for three years.
Where is the power imbalance? He had finished directing them in the show they met on, and Loesch clearly says one of them wanted to be in a relationship with him. Yes, he's a director and they're actresses, but Loesch outright says they weren't fired from anything or made to do anything against their will.
Because I think there should be clear separations between narratives of "grooming" and "was bad at a (potential) relationship." The latter happens to adults all the time, and conflating it with the former is a dangerous thing to do while the word is being used by right-wing MAGA-heads to attack gay people.
You or I can find something gross/bad without it being pedophilia, grooming, or abuse. I don't think this particular story is emblematic of any of those.
