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My wife is pregnant and we’re stunned
- Thread starter j7vikes
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When you find an OBGYN, find an office that has multiple doctors. During my wife's 2nd pregnancy, her doctor had his license suspended and had to drop all his patients and it was a pain in the ass 30 weeks into her pregnancy to find another office that would take her.
Parenthood is incredible! Congratulations!
Babies love sound machines (white noise). And it helps the parents sleep too!
Babies love sound machines (white noise). And it helps the parents sleep too!
Best friend of mine had child super early, her and her husband tried for the next 15 years to have kids to no avail. They then had 2 in 3.5 years and their daughter was a senior in HS. Sometimes it's just a change in the body chemicals/chemistry and then it's on like donkey Kong.
Looking forward to you in the ParentERA group!
Looking forward to you in the ParentERA group!
I never got the feeling from the OP that they're excited for this, just outright stunned since this wasn't planned, expected, possible or intended. So with that being said, please have an honest conversation with your partner if you want to be parents. "We got pregnant suddenly" is a terrible reason to bring a kid into this world, especially the United States.
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Of course it's her body her choice. I've got lots of flaws but I'm not a monster.
Congrats, and thankfully it's a good time to look for a job. As a soon to be Dad with the both of you currently unemployed finding a job with insurance coverage should be your top priority.
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We have moved from the stunned to the excited phase. We did try to have a baby long ago and figured we would adopt one day so parenthood is something we have wanted to do at some point.
But when you're like 99.9% sure something isn't going to happen and it does it just took us both by so much surprise. We're good. Not planned, expected, possible, whatever but we're good to go!
You're good people. This is a story you will tell your kid someday and they will be proud, and know they will be safe and loved no matter who they love. It's an excellent foundation on which to bring a new life into the world. I'm sure you'll both land on your feet.
Fertility problems and then sudden pregnancy, my mind went to the worst place, hopefully thats not what happened.
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We maintain insurance coverage but yes will be looking a little quicker than my intended "I'll just help my friend out with his projects and take a little break." We're in a good spot and very lucky with our education, family and friend support.
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Glad to hear that, always awesome when people that want kids and didn't think it would happen catch a break.
First off, congrats! Second, it's going to work out and you will find a way to enjoy whatever happens after this
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I just saw the name change. Not sure who it was but my wife cracked up pretty good at it.
Congrats! My partner is currently 19 weeks pregnant with our first. It's amazing how pregnancy seems so long but at the same time the milestones come and go so fast. Try to enjoy the process as much as you can.
I was hoping you guys would like it. If you want something more specific send me an PM and I'll get it in the morning.
Soft cheese and sushi too.
OP it's good that you have a sister who's an OB - definitely get mileage out of that relationship - you're going to have so many questions leading up to the birth.
If she's not already, have your wife start taking folate (Vit. B9). Also have your OB check any medications for risk of neural tube defects (some anti depressants, and anti-seizure meds) or for any meds with bad interactions.
Congratulations!
CONGRATS I am so happy for you.
My son was born in January and the pregnancy + birth + last few months have been absolutely amazing. Lilith is an incredible mother and she powered through the pregnancy <3. It was draining and hard at times, but just…incredible. I am currently on maternity leave and he is so amazing, every day you can see how he becomes more aware of the world.
Oh and advice? Make sure to know what your wife can or can not eat. Find out what would be healthy for her and well… get cooking. In the first three months the consumption of spicy Indian food went through the roof lol.
Congrats.
Make sure to be there for each other (patience and support goes a long way) and realize that it's a marathon, not a sprint. One of my favorite activities at bedtime is to read books to your unborn baby. It's a nice bonding moment. If you are more musically inclined feel free to play music to the baby.
Make sure to be there for each other (patience and support goes a long way) and realize that it's a marathon, not a sprint. One of my favorite activities at bedtime is to read books to your unborn baby. It's a nice bonding moment. If you are more musically inclined feel free to play music to the baby.
My aunt and uncle also gave up on thinking they'd ever have kids. Now they have three.
It's a mystery.
Just be prepared as much as you can, be of as much support to your wife as possible and don't miss out on your kid too much. A lot of dads miss out on so much.
Best of luck!!!!
It's a mystery.
Just be prepared as much as you can, be of as much support to your wife as possible and don't miss out on your kid too much. A lot of dads miss out on so much.
Best of luck!!!!
Congrats! Parenthood is a wild ride and no matter how much you prepare you'll never be truly ready.
Seriously, wtf is wrong with some of you?
Congrats..
Something you should know is you will never have a night of continuous sleep again for years .. so enjoy your sleep now 🙂
Something you should know is you will never have a night of continuous sleep again for years .. so enjoy your sleep now 🙂
Congrats!!
There's never a perfect time, but they're always perfect.
Check out the parent era thread in OT. Lots of new and soon to be parents complaining about their kids not eating, not sleeping, not pooping, eating too much, sleeping too much, pooping too much.
One of my best friends was in a similar boat... Tried to have kids and couldn't for 3-4 years then randomly 2 years ago they're like... Wait wtf.... She's pregnant! And now they've got this chunky monkey who is a doll
There's never a perfect time, but they're always perfect.
Check out the parent era thread in OT. Lots of new and soon to be parents complaining about their kids not eating, not sleeping, not pooping, eating too much, sleeping too much, pooping too much.
One of my best friends was in a similar boat... Tried to have kids and couldn't for 3-4 years then randomly 2 years ago they're like... Wait wtf.... She's pregnant! And now they've got this chunky monkey who is a doll
Congrats. Times fly. Try to take pictures, because it only happens once. Unless luck strikes again.
Congrats on the sudden gift, Op. My wife and I tried for a decade and couldn't get one so I'm happy for you both.
Congratulations OP! Being a parent is awesome and scary, your kid will make you a better person.
And fuck your boss, I'm glad he got in trouble
And fuck your boss, I'm glad he got in trouble
Congrats!
And as a first time father of a 6-month old (so most things are still fresh to me), 9 months till you have the baby is plenty of time to plan, and it's also not enough time to plan. But, no one is ever fully ready. Just do your best, read the books/info available.
Two books that were great source of solid info for me (a husband and soon-to-be father) to be more ready was THIS (lots of detailed info) and THIS (a bit more light-hearted, but still great info).
And as a first time father of a 6-month old (so most things are still fresh to me), 9 months till you have the baby is plenty of time to plan, and it's also not enough time to plan. But, no one is ever fully ready. Just do your best, read the books/info available.
Two books that were great source of solid info for me (a husband and soon-to-be father) to be more ready was THIS (lots of detailed info) and THIS (a bit more light-hearted, but still great info).
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No way. Would never work for that fucker again no matter how good the money could be. I can't go home every night and ignore working for a bigot.
As I've said though we've got tons of friends who have things we can do while we land something better and we both have masters degrees and decent savings so we are in a good spot. I mean obviously if we were planning we wouldn't pick this time but we weren't planning and thought it was impossible. Guess not!
Congrats OP! My second child just turned 5 months today. Parenthood is the best.
I have the problem of being overwhelmingly fecund, and will get snipped now that I have 2, don't want a surprise like this down the track! There's a guy in town who does it called "Dick Beatty", definitely not going to him.
