I quite enjoy reminding my SO, brothers and male friends that they are very beautiful, and while it might make some of them uneasy from time to time, or they do straight up answer to me with a self-deprecating answer, I'll keep doing so because I know words have power, and that time does help with self-esteem and being at peace with someone's outward appearance, as I've seen it with my SO over the years, as well as with myself.
But yeah, most people are truly beautiful, they just don't fucking see it, or can't see it because they're mentally stuck with shitty narrow beauty standards.
Yeah, I used to answer sarcastically and snarkily at my SO giving me compliments about my appearance, because of my insecurities. But it just kept on feeding them, and didn't help at all. At some point I got tired of it, and started to just say "thanks" and try to mean it, and at some point, after doing so for a while, I truly meant it, and then, I started to feel better overall about myself. People underestimate just how much words have power, even if we're the ones saying it to ourselves.
But yeah, most people are truly beautiful, they just don't fucking see it, or can't see it because they're mentally stuck with shitty narrow beauty standards.
Ironically enough, my wife actually told me to lay off the self deprecating humor, and I've actually felt a lot better about myself since I've done so.
Yeah, I used to answer sarcastically and snarkily at my SO giving me compliments about my appearance, because of my insecurities. But it just kept on feeding them, and didn't help at all. At some point I got tired of it, and started to just say "thanks" and try to mean it, and at some point, after doing so for a while, I truly meant it, and then, I started to feel better overall about myself. People underestimate just how much words have power, even if we're the ones saying it to ourselves.
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