Ok, so I'm going to just start by saying I know I am probably being insecure and maybe even toxic about this but I honestly don't know what to say.
My partner has been doing tiktoks and has around 15,000 followers and has recently started an Instagram account. She has around 350 followers in Instagram split evenly male and female. I think a lot of her followers come from her tiktok but other come from Facebook. There are people I know personally who are following her on Instagram.
She mostly posts pics of herself, pics of our kids, occasionally a pic of me. Most of it is just selfies. But occasionally she post a sexy pic. Like pics wearing a t shirt and panties. I try not to say anything but I have in the past told her I'm fine with whatever she posts as long as she isn't posting in her underwear.
She recently posted a pic in her bikini bottoms and a crop top, where she standing kind of side on slightly away with her booty out looking back seductively. Like it would be pretty safe to call it a booty shot. I told I her I wasn't cool with it. She asked if I would have a problem if she was at the beach or pool, I said she isn't at the beach or pool, she is in our bedroom posting a pic on her underwear. She said it makes her feel sexy, but I don't understand how posting it on Instagram for everyone to see makes her feel sexy. She said she isn't posting it for anyone else just for me. I said she could send it to me if it were just for me. She said it's her body she can do what she wants and she won't take it down.
Like I said I know I am being insecure. I don't want to be controlling. I don't want to be toxic. I don't like the idea of other guys seeing my partner like that and positing fire emojis and things like that in the comments. I don't like the idea of people I know and interact with seeing her like that. When guys send her inappropriate messages she doesn't block them, she mostly just doesn't respond but she has in the past maintained friendship with guys who very much came on to her in sleazy ways.
I don't want to tell her what to do but the pic being up for everyone to see makes me feel uncomfortable. I tried to explain how I feel and she said I am being an asshole and insecure, which I probably am.
I don't really have anyone else I feel comfortable talking to about this so I'm hoping you guys can give me some advice either in speaking to her about how I feel or even just in getting over my own feelings about it.
My partner has been doing tiktoks and has around 15,000 followers and has recently started an Instagram account. She has around 350 followers in Instagram split evenly male and female. I think a lot of her followers come from her tiktok but other come from Facebook. There are people I know personally who are following her on Instagram.
She mostly posts pics of herself, pics of our kids, occasionally a pic of me. Most of it is just selfies. But occasionally she post a sexy pic. Like pics wearing a t shirt and panties. I try not to say anything but I have in the past told her I'm fine with whatever she posts as long as she isn't posting in her underwear.
She recently posted a pic in her bikini bottoms and a crop top, where she standing kind of side on slightly away with her booty out looking back seductively. Like it would be pretty safe to call it a booty shot. I told I her I wasn't cool with it. She asked if I would have a problem if she was at the beach or pool, I said she isn't at the beach or pool, she is in our bedroom posting a pic on her underwear. She said it makes her feel sexy, but I don't understand how posting it on Instagram for everyone to see makes her feel sexy. She said she isn't posting it for anyone else just for me. I said she could send it to me if it were just for me. She said it's her body she can do what she wants and she won't take it down.
Like I said I know I am being insecure. I don't want to be controlling. I don't want to be toxic. I don't like the idea of other guys seeing my partner like that and positing fire emojis and things like that in the comments. I don't like the idea of people I know and interact with seeing her like that. When guys send her inappropriate messages she doesn't block them, she mostly just doesn't respond but she has in the past maintained friendship with guys who very much came on to her in sleazy ways.
I don't want to tell her what to do but the pic being up for everyone to see makes me feel uncomfortable. I tried to explain how I feel and she said I am being an asshole and insecure, which I probably am.
I don't really have anyone else I feel comfortable talking to about this so I'm hoping you guys can give me some advice either in speaking to her about how I feel or even just in getting over my own feelings about it.