... and I'm terrified.
To make a sad story short, my grandma and special needs aunt died due to EXTREME neglect at a nursing home a couple of years ago. My mom has been fighting them tooth a nail with her lawyers and is about to win a case that will net her 8 figures.
We've never had that kind of money in the family and my mom has always been terrible with finances. I've consistently had to loan her cash throughout my adult life. Which I have no problem with because... she's my freakin mom. Not to mention everyone in the family has constantly used her as a doormat my whole life (to include my siblings). I've already told her I want none of it. I'm single, no kids, with a really good paying job so I want to be the last person she has to factor in for this money.
My question for you ERA is how can I help her? She obviously sees this as a "blessing", but I can't help but be afraid of how much chaos this is gonna cause for her. Are there any financial advisors she should get? What are the do's and don'ts of what to do with it?
I don't want my mom to end up like the people who have won lotteries (in debt, family torn apart; etc). With how batshit her side of the family is and her history with finances I can see this getting extremely messy for her. Plus, she's already started having health issues and is only about to turn 60 this year. Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just don't see this not being extremely stressful for her. š
To make a sad story short, my grandma and special needs aunt died due to EXTREME neglect at a nursing home a couple of years ago. My mom has been fighting them tooth a nail with her lawyers and is about to win a case that will net her 8 figures.
We've never had that kind of money in the family and my mom has always been terrible with finances. I've consistently had to loan her cash throughout my adult life. Which I have no problem with because... she's my freakin mom. Not to mention everyone in the family has constantly used her as a doormat my whole life (to include my siblings). I've already told her I want none of it. I'm single, no kids, with a really good paying job so I want to be the last person she has to factor in for this money.
My question for you ERA is how can I help her? She obviously sees this as a "blessing", but I can't help but be afraid of how much chaos this is gonna cause for her. Are there any financial advisors she should get? What are the do's and don'ts of what to do with it?
I don't want my mom to end up like the people who have won lotteries (in debt, family torn apart; etc). With how batshit her side of the family is and her history with finances I can see this getting extremely messy for her. Plus, she's already started having health issues and is only about to turn 60 this year. Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just don't see this not being extremely stressful for her. š