My girlfriend and I have been happily together for some time now. The problem is, she suffers from depression which stems from a traumatic experience from childhood and so she gets sad from time to time. Up until this point, it has been reasonably manageable and it would go away. This past weekend however, an upcoming event (which reminds her of the traumatic event) and several mini interactions caused to flair to a point I haven't seen before. She has been sad since Friday but she never told me this until Sunday but I could sense that something was off. She goes to her family on the weekends so I can't physically be there to console her.
Last night after I got off work I FaceTime her and she explains the situation and how various things had triggered her; loss of friends and those who are there do not check in on her, feeling that she always has to be the one to initiate conversations. The way I am, I like to offer solutions to help (in my mind) but she plainly told me she doesn't want to hear that. People are always telling her what to do and not understanding how she feels. A bit later she can't fall asleep and she starts crying and I had no idea what to say without making it worse. No matter what say, it always back fires. This is killing me because I hate seeing her like this and she's asking questions like "what did I do to deserve this?"
I've never dealt with someone who suffers from depression and I don't know what to say or do in these situations. What can I do?
Last night after I got off work I FaceTime her and she explains the situation and how various things had triggered her; loss of friends and those who are there do not check in on her, feeling that she always has to be the one to initiate conversations. The way I am, I like to offer solutions to help (in my mind) but she plainly told me she doesn't want to hear that. People are always telling her what to do and not understanding how she feels. A bit later she can't fall asleep and she starts crying and I had no idea what to say without making it worse. No matter what say, it always back fires. This is killing me because I hate seeing her like this and she's asking questions like "what did I do to deserve this?"
I've never dealt with someone who suffers from depression and I don't know what to say or do in these situations. What can I do?