So, my girlfriend is totally sick of her job. She doesn't like the work, has annoying coworkers, and deals with lots of petty office politics by the sound of it. I want her to get a new job so she'll be happier and more fulfilled. However, she says she's nervous to step outside her comfort zone because she's been at her current company for over 6 years, even though she wants to leave. Basically, she's fearing failure and rejection and doesn't want her dreams of leaving to be crushed. When I send her job postings I think she'd be good for, or offer to set up some networking meetings with people I know, she get's actively upset with me and tells me she doesn't want to discuss this because it makes her too stressed out to even consider the things I'm talking about.
I'm like, "You need to at least try. You'll face some failure and setbacks on a job search, but you need to apply, and network, and interview. Let's figure out what active steps you can take to change your situation."
She says things like, "If I'm still in this role in 10 years, it's my own fault!" And I'm like "Well yeah, but I want you to be happy. I don't care about blaming you in 10 years if you stay in your job lol."
I want to help her, but I feel like she's paralyzed, and just doesn't want to deal with momentary negative emotions that come from stepping out of your comfort zone. Any tips on how to help or be encouraging. Or should I just back off and let her do her thing?