I have a close friend that is recently divorced from a man, and is now in a relationship with a woman. This is her first same-sex relationship, and she seemed to be happy for while. Then she started telling me bits and pieces, and I began to warn her that this sounded like another toxic, shitty relationship and that she was just doing this to herself. Yesterday, she told me her throat hurt and I ask why -- her girlfriend grabbed her by the throat and they had a physical altercation -- she proceeded to laugh about it.
I was fucking horrified. I know that for her, all of this shit is a form of self harm. For all of her bloviating about toxic relationships, I think she's attracted to them, and I've tried to tell her that one day all of it's going to blow up in her face and result in more than a broken heart.
I'm at a loss, and don't know what to do. I'm tired of trying to help guide her, but I'd feel complicit if I simply washed my hands of it.
I was fucking horrified. I know that for her, all of this shit is a form of self harm. For all of her bloviating about toxic relationships, I think she's attracted to them, and I've tried to tell her that one day all of it's going to blow up in her face and result in more than a broken heart.
I'm at a loss, and don't know what to do. I'm tired of trying to help guide her, but I'd feel complicit if I simply washed my hands of it.