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My friend/Crush blocked my number…
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So the Dad basically woke up with his daughters Drunk friend staggering out from his baby grandaughters room......did your friend atleast take her daughter out of the room before you went to sleep?
I mean wtf is wrong with her. Letting a drunk dude sleep with her baby.
I mean wtf is wrong with her. Letting a drunk dude sleep with her baby.
I mean, despite the unsolicited flex of the "oh I don't even need that $4k back, I got $43k just chilling in the account right now, that's chump change!" aura here, OP you are a hot fucking mess right now. Like shit man, when I was 22 I was beating myself down for loaning $350 to someone I was seeing/sleeping with at the time because they also seemed pretty down on their luck. But $4k....
I know for a fact that you will not take her to court because when you escalate it, she's going to give a some kind of sob story and you are going to give her some leeway. You seem to really do genuinely like her no matter how nonchalant you try to play this off. But here's the order of possible things I think is happening right now:
1. She is probably still not in a position to pay back any of that $4k and she panicked and is blocking you/leaving you on read
2. You are her rebound and her father catching you in the morning (hell, depending on how drunk you were, you might have even alerted him if he was at home while you were vomiting your life choices for the evening down the toilet) coming out, hungover, out of the goddamn nursery probably made him go off on her and her life choices, leading her to blocking you
3. You did/said something in blackout that she doesn't want to deal with
I know for a fact that you will not take her to court because when you escalate it, she's going to give a some kind of sob story and you are going to give her some leeway. You seem to really do genuinely like her no matter how nonchalant you try to play this off. But here's the order of possible things I think is happening right now:
1. She is probably still not in a position to pay back any of that $4k and she panicked and is blocking you/leaving you on read
2. You are her rebound and her father catching you in the morning (hell, depending on how drunk you were, you might have even alerted him if he was at home while you were vomiting your life choices for the evening down the toilet) coming out, hungover, out of the goddamn nursery probably made him go off on her and her life choices, leading her to blocking you
3. You did/said something in blackout that she doesn't want to deal with
I have only finished page two, so I dunno if there was some reveal, but my guess is OP didn't pay his phone bill, so his provider cut him off, thus why the messages were undelivered.
Will come back to this once I have caught up.
Will come back to this once I have caught up.
The parents are helping for immediate expenses, she can either pay it off over time with consolidated debt or file for bankruptcy. She doesn't need 4k of your money now, I don't see the urgency.
No bankruptcy court is going to raid her parents house or raid her personal belongings needed for a baby. It would probably all be waived, ruin her credit score which is probably already tanked and cause CC companies to not lend. She'd only owe the bankruptcy lawyer probably $1-2k that could be paid over months.
She is living with her parents. Let them worry about that.
Exactly, whether she's in debt to the credit card company or OP, she's still in debt. Maybe it saved her on interest, but fuck that, let her family bail her out. She's got no rent and minimal expenses while living with the family, right?
This thread has been a wild ride.
Summary of sheer tomfoolery
Thread summary for those just joining us:
• OP has anxious attachment style.
• OP had sex with this person two weeks ago despite this person literally crying over their ex of six years. Oh, and she has a child with this ex.
• OP gave her $4,000.
• OP doesn't know not to give people $4,000.
• OP's crush/beneficiary lives with their parents.
• OP had an awkward encounter with her parents when leaving their house hungover because apparently Bowling for Soup was right and high school never ends.
• OP doesn't know about boundaries.
• OP got drunk and may have done/said something that caused them to get blocked. They know they threw up in her house, in her baby's room, and that may just be the beginning.
• OP seems to think this still may end well for them, thinks love can bloom, is wrong.
• OP has anxious attachment style.
• OP had sex with this person two weeks ago despite this person literally crying over their ex of six years. Oh, and she has a child with this ex.
• OP gave her $4,000.
• OP doesn't know not to give people $4,000.
• OP's crush/beneficiary lives with their parents.
• OP had an awkward encounter with her parents when leaving their house hungover because apparently Bowling for Soup was right and high school never ends.
• OP doesn't know about boundaries.
• OP got drunk and may have done/said something that caused them to get blocked. They know they threw up in her house, in her baby's room, and that may just be the beginning.
• OP seems to think this still may end well for them, thinks love can bloom, is wrong.
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Trust me I didn't lol. I only texted her twice. The second was just to see if the delivered icon would pop up under the text. Which it didn't unfortunately.
Even ignoring the "socially awkward" part, these threads almost always start with "my friend/crush/partner/whatever stopped talking to me and I didn't do anything" and 200 replies later, we find out that the OP did, in fact, do something.
I think it's just done to get a big, popular thread on the site at this point.
Leaving everything else out of it just for everyone to be aware accidental blocks do happen. I'm super cool with my wife's best friend and I accidentally blocked her a few months ago without realizing it.
Thread is fun though troll or not.
Thread is fun though troll or not.
I lent about $10k to a significant other once. She ended up paying most of it back, but is currently being sued for embezzling something like $250k from her employer, so I'm pretty sure I was paid back with stolen money. Kind of wild. It was a very foolish relationship and many lessons were learned the hard way.
Also why do you have 42k in checking as a single adult? Like 10-15k max. Put the rest in something that will grow.
If you aren't panicky with temporary drops in stock valuations during recessions, here's a solid one. Open a Vanguard brokerage and grow it.
investor.vanguard.com
If you aren't panicky with temporary drops in stock valuations during recessions, here's a solid one. Open a Vanguard brokerage and grow it.
Vanguard Mutual Fund Profile | Vanguard
Also it's foolish to say how much money they have in their account. It could easily put a target on the OP back.Also why do you have 42k in checking as a single adult? Like 10-15k max. Put the rest in something that will grow.
If you aren't panicky with temporary drops in stock valuations during recessions, here's a solid one. Open a Vanguard brokerage and grow it.
Vanguard Mutual Fund Profile | Vanguard
Still my all time favorite thing - I'm still chasing that high today.
Thanks for this
Bad idea! Period!
Leave her alone. If she wants to talk to you again, she will. Is she doesn't, move on.
I got you, bro
Okay, so I imagine the girl as a redhead and her ex having green eyes (like, glowing green eyes like he crushed up and snorted a bunch of kryptonite)
She's holding a baby and also one of her arms is detached because
Also, her ex-boyfriend is flexing but he has no muscles because
I just feel like a friend asking for a loan of thousands is a red flag unless it's something incredibly obvious. I've lent friends money, most at once being $700 but it was a buddy of mine I had known at that time for 17 years and knew why it was needed given his situation. Someone asking me for 4 fucking grand...
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No we both went to sleep at 2 am. I was never alone with the baby. She slept with the baby on the bed while I crashed on the floor.
From the dad's perspective, it did look bad tho
Thanks for this.
Hot mess all around. Sounds like he's young enough to learn at least.
Maybe talk to the ex and see to see if everything is okay. If not, talk to the dad?
Or you just accept you lost a friend and move on?
Or you just accept you lost a friend and move on?
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