Well you have learned a new lesson. I had a friend that gave a long distance "girlfriend" upwards of 10k over 3 years before I talked him off the ledge.
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My friend/Crush blocked my number…
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You are not alone.
Definitely don't do this. If they don't want to talk to you, they don't want to talk to you, period. Trying to skirt around the obvious message they are sending and try to make contact is only going to make things worse by not respecting their wishes. If by some unlikely chance it was by accident they'll figure it out eventually and you can laugh it off as assuming you did something wrong while drunk you don't remember.
Just move on and maybe reflect on how alcohol impacted this friendship.
I'm not saying this isn't the proper way but it's kind of sad that this is the accepted way now. Like I'm pretty sure it didn't used to be this way people used to communicate in the past didn't they?
Its kind of no wonder people are all confused and screwed up with this ghosting stuff.
Seems real petty and weird to just block someone if they did something uncomfortable while being drunk unless it was something horrific. Feel like a decent friend would explain the situation and then maybe block if they still felt uncomfortable by your response. But maybe i'm wrong.
Otherwise it seems like you're leaving out a crucial detail lol
Otherwise it seems like you're leaving out a crucial detail lol
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I feel like this is the type of thread where OP acts all coy and it comes out hours from now that he pissed in the friend's late grandmother's ashes while blackout drunk or some shit.
This. I slapped the ass of a good friend while drunk and that was a wrap on that friendship. And I deserved it.
Good point. But I don't even think he's blocked.
He likes her--clearly. He's not dating her since he refers her as his friend.
She hasn't replied in only 2 days. That's nothing, especially with friends. Sounds like an anxious attachment style from the OP.
Also sounds young given the scenarios.
Does she know you are crushing on her? Maybe she got word that you are crushing on her and your actions that night and you lending her money gave her a bad taste in her mouth that she doesn't want to associate with you and just straight ghosted you if she is worried about any kind of blowback from you.
Or she is just busy and hasn't responded and you are thinking she blocked you.
Or she is just busy and hasn't responded and you are thinking she blocked you.
A stripper that lives with her parents
Also apparently OP and this girl have zero mutual friends? I'm assuming he would have asked them first but instead he created a thread on ERA
Plot twist: crush got so depressed OP didn't make a move, they got blind drunk and dropped their phone down the toilet while vomiting, and hasn't got a replacement yet so hasn't seen the messages.
Move on dude
Everyone's giving you shit for this, but I think it's a good idea and you should go to her house unannounced and definitely record the interaction and post it here
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- we met a year ago at Amazon
- I went to all her family birthdays, we went on 4 dates
- we had sex 2 weeks ago
- she's very emotional. She had a child with her ex, they were together for 6 years. Ended a year and a half ago.
- I have suspicions that she has deep feeling for him still. She cries to ex lover songs :(
I'm sorry, but how good of a friend is someone if all it takes to end the friendship is that while being drunk? No apologizing, talking it out, just boom done?
We also didnt have nearly as much access to other people back then. Knowing when they're "online" or just having access to entire conversation histories, things like that. Accepted social behavior has changed because the way people interact with each other has changed. Or just the way information about us is available to others. It all has its limits and it's more acceptable today for people to just say fuck it, and not owe someone else an explanation for why they don't want to interact with them anymore.
Much much more of our relationships are maintained digitally these days, I don't think there's one single explanation for the advent of "ghosting" but I think the relative lack of face-to-face interaction compared to before social media or the internet has a lot to do with it. We have more relationships but they're generally valued less than when we were younger.
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A lot of really weird vaguely sexist posts in here about this money.
Anyway, OP, if this is a serious amount of money that you care more about than the friendship, that's going to be messy. If you care about the friendship too, give it a week and try again. Ask if you did anything wrong or made her upset. Sounds like she wasn't comfortable with your drinking or something you did while drunk.
Anyway, OP, if this is a serious amount of money that you care more about than the friendship, that's going to be messy. If you care about the friendship too, give it a week and try again. Ask if you did anything wrong or made her upset. Sounds like she wasn't comfortable with your drinking or something you did while drunk.
sit down and let Barry teach you about loaning people money
- "Friend/Crush"
- Drank until you got sick
Sorry OP. Just let it go.
And life lesson, don't lend anyone money and expect to ever see it again. Even family.
And life lesson, don't lend anyone money and expect to ever see it again. Even family.
Don't lend anything you can't afford to lose.
Don't initiate any further contact. Don't lend out anything more if she reaches out again.
Don't initiate any further contact. Don't lend out anything more if she reaches out again.
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jfc, there's money, sex, AND a kid involved. Just write that money off and move on. She'll be back in your DMs next time she's broke.
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