Should I be annoyed at him? I am pretty fucking annoyed he didn't try to teach me any life skills
But I still had a dad so I don't want to be ungrateful
But I still had a dad so I don't want to be ungrateful
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My Dad was a good provider and he was there but he didn't give me 1 single sklll to how to deal with the world
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Parenting is probably the hardest fucking thing in the world
If you wanted "life skills" you could've also chased them yourself.
If you wanted "life skills" you could've also chased them yourself.
No? At the end of the day it's up to you and you said he was in your life and provided
Also no follow your dad's example and provide life skill right there
Era threads are odd
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Neither did my step-father. Have never known my real dad. Step-father is just a sleazy piece of shit.
I guess the only thing I learned from him is how not to be a piece of shit by him being the biggest example of one I know.
I guess the only thing I learned from him is how not to be a piece of shit by him being the biggest example of one I know.
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I have. He's had a bad stroke now so he can barely do anything and Im there to help him at the parents house
I feel the same op
Don't know why others are being slightly antagonistic.
My dad didn't really teach me anything, or ever ask if I wanted to learn anything.
He mostly just worked
Don't know why others are being slightly antagonistic.
My dad didn't really teach me anything, or ever ask if I wanted to learn anything.
He mostly just worked
My dad tried to teach me stuff but we were 2 diff people.
He loved fishing and wilderness stuff etc. I didn't.
I'd give anything to have that time with him again.
Which is funny because my step-son doesn't like any of the stuff I like. Except for horror films, and even then he'd rather be in his room alone 90% of the time.
He loved fishing and wilderness stuff etc. I didn't.
I'd give anything to have that time with him again.
Which is funny because my step-son doesn't like any of the stuff I like. Except for horror films, and even then he'd rather be in his room alone 90% of the time.
I feel you OP. My real dad was so angry at the world and that's all he passed down to me, how to hate and hurt everyone around me, my stepdad doesn't see me as his responsibility, and my mother has been addicted to prescription pills since I was in middle school so I've just floated blindly for the majority of my life hoping I'm making the right choices. What can you do except go back in time, become your own parent and teach yourself everything vital for living a successful, healthy adult life?
sorry this thread is going the way it is.
sorry this thread is going the way it is.
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There's no manual for conflict resolution on a day-to-day basis, general rules, don't throw the first punch, but don't back down if you're in the right.
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Do most people deal with their most horrible problems on their own?
Eh, that's the case for me too, but I wouldn't shift the fault onto my parents. That's my own responsibility
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Parents never taught me anything about conflict then get angry when I drink. Lol.
Need some more context here. What exactly are these problems? I feel like I learned conflict resolution skills through a combination of life experience, education, friends and family.
Go see a therapist. Drinking to deal with problems isn't healthy, and I say this as a big craft beer fan.
Because a lot of people on ResetEra have zero empathy for others and find it impossible to put themselves in other's shoes. Aka they're trash.
OP I had an upbringing similar, you gotta learn that you have to teach yourself these things. It's easy to sit around and think about why your dad didn't teach you, but just know you are capable. It won't be easy, I still hit my head a lot learning things in life, but you can do it. I believe in you.
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Your dad is just human and was figuring out shit just as much as you are now. The thought that you needed the skills you think you need may have never crossed his mind or he may not have known how to do it.
People here generally aren't going to understand, but I know where you're coming from.
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This is true and why I would never want to bring kids into this world
Holy fuck the shit show they would have to deal with
were you an only child OP? Most of what i learned as a kid I honestly learned from siblings, I was in a family of 8 and my kids were in a family of 3 kids (+2 adults). I think having only 1 kid is maybe not ideal.
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For some reason, I feel like it is relevant.
Nobody can confidently teach how to be a good parent, so being there for you is already something, if not the most important thing.
And yeah, I don't know how to have a barbecue. *shouts at the sky*
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This all feels pretty vague. Conflict Resolution is a broad term, and there are professionals that actually teach these things. I doubt your dad felt so knowledgeable on the subject that he would sit you down and give you a lecture. That type of thing is usually something you learn yourself gradually anyway, by partaking in and observing interactions with others.