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Whatever works best for you! :) There is no wrong answer.
You and me both!
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Married Era: Do you have a Hotwife?
- Thread starter TaySan
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"A woman is much like a car". At least you found a way of living that isn't coated in misogyny like those patriarchal monogamous relationships.
Yes it does, because this particular thing has nothing to do with cuckolding and the fact you went straight to that reveals your insecurity in bright, bright lights.
It would be really unwise to post any PII here, even when people post their IRL pics I grimace.
it was just a joke, you know people always say ' came for the pics'...
btw - what makes you concerned about IRL pics?
I don't want to sidetrack the convo, but there are forums with losers dedicated to harassing members here, I believe they archive posts as well- but even aside from that it's just a bad idea as you need to assume everything you post will always be online, you need to think ahead to ten or 20 years from now. Weigh the pros and potential cons, you get a day or two where you put yourself out there and maybe people comment or whatever or you feel like you contributed and it's all cool, but is that worth potentially 10, 20, 30 or more years of having that out there where you don't know what could happen and who might decide to use it against you or your family or your employer, or whatever? IMO it's just not worth it for what you get out of it.
From a branding perspective, I think there's too much interference with "hot wife"
Like, a space shouldn't carry that much weight, and it's too easy to lose when spoken aloud.
Like, a space shouldn't carry that much weight, and it's too easy to lose when spoken aloud.
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I agree with you. which is why i don't post IRL pics online. Sucks to hear the harrassing problem exists on Era and I didn't think it would be that bad.
Is it really right to call arrangements like these an open relationship if only one person in it is doing the err, opening? Like if I ever feel like I couldn't satisfy someone in bed I would at least like some refresher courses myself too.
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I would classify it as another sub genre of an open relationship. Every couple is different i'm sure of how they go about it.
As long as one person is having sex outside of the relationship it's an open one.
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Console timed exclusive=Partner
PC=Husband
Yeah that sounds about right actually.
I don't know why so many people are treating it like it's a situation where one person says they're going to do it, but then won't allow the other person to do it, even though the other person wants to.
There are open marriages where only one of the people is even interested in sleeping with someone else.
This. The standards of behavior in a relationship have to go both ways.
The whole thing just doesn't make any financial sense to me. They're messing around with someone else either way, so why not just kick em out and save all your money? Same result, but they have to live off their own money or their lover's money and you save your hard-earned cash. Go treat yourself instead of someone who is uninterested in you
Some folks in this thread aren't getting the concept. In a Hotwife situation, the guy gets off on his wife being a slut, it's a fetish. He'll watch or she'll video it or even just tell him about it in detail and he nuts like a fountain off this stuff.
Also something that hasn't been said much is that Hotwife could mean being in a mfm threesome. The guys are not doing anything with each other but let's say one doing the wife and the other one getting oral. Being "spit roasted"
My wife and I joke around it but not gotten to the point of adding another person just toys.
In a way to explain it. Your wife is your porn star she turns me on and to see her happy and fulfilled makes me happy. I'm not in the boat to have her play around on her own but I do like it in a sense that I can show her off and guys would leer at her and I knows she's into me.
The people that say this is cucking. Has no clue as this isn't being about humiliated. It's a completely different fetish or term.
My wife and I joke around it but not gotten to the point of adding another person just toys.
In a way to explain it. Your wife is your porn star she turns me on and to see her happy and fulfilled makes me happy. I'm not in the boat to have her play around on her own but I do like it in a sense that I can show her off and guys would leer at her and I knows she's into me.
The people that say this is cucking. Has no clue as this isn't being about humiliated. It's a completely different fetish or term.
Yes. It's an interesting experience for sure. Makes you really develop a thick skin and self-control. She's very jealous though and won't let me anywhere near other women.
Edit: /joke, if that wasn't obvious
Edit: /joke, if that wasn't obvious
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This is some 1950s ass thinking about who is the money maker in marriages.
That isn't in the OP, but if that's part of it, I don't have a hotwife.
Which I'm happy about, because wow, what a dumb term.
I'm not married, but in a serious relationship and an open one at that. With different rules for each, like, for instance, she can bring over a date home and sleep over in her room and it's okay, but she's not comfortable with me doing the same. And that's fine.
She would only be a Hotwife if you were into that stuff. In your case she would just be a cheater.
Having a Hotwife is mostly a man's fetish.
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I would hope they would have protection/birth control and not doing it bare with a stranger if they were smart.
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Loser shit. Anyone doing this deserves to have their wife get pregnant by the other dude. Breed that weakness out of the gene-pool.
Even birth control isn't 100% effective though. I just wonder if people that get into this consider if or how they'd handle a pregnancy.
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Cuck=Humiliation and belittling. Too pathetic to be with my wife
Hotwife=My wife is my very own porn star and i get to direct the movie.
Only because you're thinking in terms of reciprocity - that or I didn't explain very well: she's not interested in meeting the other people I fuck with nor hearing us fuck. I, for my part, don't have an issue with that (with some exceptions), so it made sense to us to go ahead with this seemingly uneven deal and not let a simple quid pro quo insufficiency get in our way. It doesn't mean I can't go to the other person's place or even have them over when she's not around. She just doesn't like to meet them.
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Sorry I did not read the OP. I don't want to be that kind of hot wife!
It was very clear what you said in your innocence. People are horrible at comprehensive reading.
They read what they want to read. You just want to be considered hot by your future spouse.
People who claim to be monogamous are usually just serial monogamists who will sometimes end their relationships or provoke the end of the relationship so they can go be "monogamous" with someone else, and a lot of the time they already have someone in mind before the breakup with the person they've been "faithful" to. If they haven't already cheated and justified it by "being on the way out". But there is an upside, when your monogamous partner only feigns interest in having sex with you, at least you know why. They're hot for someone else. So if a hotwife is your thing, congrats, you're halfway there.