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Man Marries Daughter's Bridesmaid and Childhood Friend, Daughter Demands House, This Leads to the Worst Advice Column I've Ever Read
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oh it's an impossibly shitting situation lol, yeah. It is likely fake, but it's still an interesting scenario to think about and discuss!
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He literally says in his letter that his new wife has loved the house since she was a child dude
I mean, it's a financial advice column. Sure the whole thing's creepy, but it's not really the columnist's job to comment on that, it's not some general life advice section
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And admitting he's torn about giving his daughter the house because his wife has also loved it ever since she was a child
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Yes, that's possible. Feels like this is a situation that could be talked over and resolved without getting to the level of threats.
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Does a guy who hooks up with his daughter's bridesmaid and childhood friend and then quickly proposes and move her into his daughter's childhood home seem like someone rational
He didn't bought the house, it was a gift from his inlaws (that probably didn't intended for this to happen)
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I tend to agree.
The daughter seems awfully entitled to me.
Though a question, what is the default inheritance rule when one parent dies in the US?
I believe in Germany at least the surviving spouse gets half and all the children then get the other half. This can obviously be changed but baring any other will/testament/paperwork that's what happens.
I thought this was a particularly rubbish bit of 'insight' from the columnist:
Like, no shit she would have different expectations if her dad married a woman in her 50s with little prospect of kids as opposed to a woman in her 20s. Talk about stating the obvious.
No, that's not what happened. The house was gifted to both the father and mother from the mother's parents.
I'm pretty sure in the US a spouse gets everything of their dead spouse unless there's a will that specifies otherwise
Its deeply disappointing the number of people focused on the house part of the story and not the part where this old fucking creep married his daughter's childhood friend that he knew since middle school.
Like if this situation leads to him being cut off from ever seeing his grandchildren that is honestly a good thing, since past behavior suggests he'll be sniffing around their friends for his third wife.
Like if this situation leads to him being cut off from ever seeing his grandchildren that is honestly a good thing, since past behavior suggests he'll be sniffing around their friends for his third wife.
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So generational wealth is bad except for when it benefits the husband
Oh okay. Does this change things? As in do you know what excelsiorleaf was getting at with asking?
I don't see how these kinds of estate issues are solved without just liquidating the assets and dividing the proceeds. If somebody wants to buy out the other beneficiaries and retain the home then that's fine.
I can't really get behind the idea that the new wife/potential children just get to eat shit.
I can't really get behind the idea that the new wife/potential children just get to eat shit.
What if the dad is only twenty years older than the daugher. Would it make it any less awkward? Probably not.
Crazy story though.
Crazy story though.
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You know what's entitled hooking up with your daughter's bridesmaid and childhood friend at your daughter's wedding, quickly proposing and moving her into the home your daughter clearly loves
I think when you marry someone you're uniting your finances, personal lives, etc. So I see spousal inheritance different from parental inheritance, yeah.
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The house came from his wife's parents
It's literally generational wealth
Being gifted a house from the mother's parents is a form of generational wealth which you seemed against. That's how the house came in to their possession to begin with.
Is it entitlement when it's his house? She supposed to live in the shed?
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I mean you probably shouldn't be marrying your friend's father.
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If the father sold the house prior to all of this, do you think the daughter is entitled to ask him for the selling price of the house?
I think it's a bit unfair to use terms like "pushing up on", that bring the implication of sexual assault into the equation.
Why not take on the hard version of the situation? Why not assume that the young woman is a reasonable person and desperately wants to be in a relationship with the older man?
Don't get me wrong, if it was my daughter, I would think it is almost certainly a bad idea. And I would tell my daughter that. It's her bad decision I would try to prevent, not his. Also that man wouldn't be my friend anymore, since he obviously makes bad decisions himself.
So the new kids are just screwed?
Nah that's messed up regardless of the circumstances
This is just an AITA story probably written in order to create outrage. How many clicks do you think this brought in?
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He's not selling because his wife has fond memories of the house when she was a kid
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You shouldn't, but the guy did. That is the reality now. Do you think that it is moral for the potential new children to be excluded from the value of the house?
Why not :s? I'm confused by these kind of replies.
Why would I be entitled to my parents properties? Why would my children be entitled to my parents properties?
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The Dad is a fucking creep and his wife is top 2 worst friends of all time
We are talking about this specific case where the father is a creep, not every house ever
There's an additional emotional element of the daughter being attached to the house she grew up in (understandably), and that was passed down from her mother's parents to her parents and then growing up thinking that it was likely going to end up with her as an only child. And the weird equivalence added here where creepy dad is claiming new wife has a similar emotional claim. Which is laughable.
The legal element of who is the owner isn't debatable, but the lack of emotional intelligence from the dad here is stunning.
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Generational wealth is bad unless it's a means to please your new wife who grew up playing with your daughter in the house
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