Why is Amber an "annoying little scrote"?
Some real insights into posters' gender politics rearing in this thread... in terms of how behaviours are judged differently based on gender...
I'd agree that Amber is annoying, but it's definitely nothing to do with her gender - it's to do with how she handles arguments/confrontations. Same with Anna.
Basically they're pretty sound amicable people, but the minute an argument begins, they regress to being 13 year olds. Snide remarks, smug smiles - and the worst - constantly interrupting, not listening, picking on specific phrases/actions and building straw men/ad hominems out of it. Anna's dialogue with Ovie was basically unbearable for this. My blood was boiling watching the conversation.
The exact opposite is Maura who is completely true to herself and the others around her, listens, is direct about what she feels/thinks, etc. Whereas Amber is a lot of teenage-level performative gunk.
HOWEVER Amber has definitely matured a lot even in the last week. Her "I'm hard nothing can touch me" facade has began to slip and she's clearly showing her emotions/true colours more.
Was so chuffed when he said that
This show makes me glad I'm in good relationship and no need to date because fucking hell all these rules you need now and none make sense.
These "rules" are basically bullshit. There are no rules. Be open and kind to people. Those are the only rules.
On Radio 4's Women's Hour the other day they had two young feminists on analysing the show and it was fascinating.
Talking about how the majority of "characters" on the show are firmly trapped within structurally sexist/patriarchal norms regarding relationships. For example the guys are firmly in traditional ideas of the "bro code" (bros before ho's, interventionist, relationship lines a little more blurred) and the girls firmly in "girl code" (nominally supportive but often just reiterate "what the girl wants to hear", stay completely in-lane regarding relationships) and that the dynamics are basically all two-dimensional because of that.
The only exception they noticed? Maura. Two times Maura broke out of "relationship lanes" and told boys they liked them even though it was another girl's "lane". Several times Maura has told the a girl in drama not what she wanted to hear but what she had to hear - was honest, harsh, where all the other girls were just trying to be nominally supportive ("you're in the right no matter what").
It's the fucking wild west, man!