She's was right over your shoulder as you typed this, wasn't she5/5 for sure. Extremely happy and we have an amazing connection. Been together for 6 years and every day feels fresh and new.
j/k
She's was right over your shoulder as you typed this, wasn't she5/5 for sure. Extremely happy and we have an amazing connection. Been together for 6 years and every day feels fresh and new.
I also voted 5/5 and this is basically the description of me and my wife. It makes me sad that some people are so jaded or cynical or unhappy themselves that they can't even fathom to believe that others can be in a happy healthy relationship long term.I voted 5/5 too. My husband and I have been together 21 years, married 13 on July 1st and started dating when we were 15 and 18. I love my husband more than anything and besides being my husband he is my best friend and after 21 years together I am happy when he is home from work and I love doing things with him, even if it is something as simple as watching TV or playing a game.
Sure, there are times when we don't get along but those are incredibly infrequent and last a very short amount of time, like an hour or less. We keep our lives simple and don't have people in it that cause stress and drama. We don't have children so we don't have that added stress and financial commitment. We 99.9% of the time are on the same page about life, finances etc and we enjoy being happy and not arguing over stupid shit.
For those who say everything is roses 5/5 - either they are lying, in denial, or too inexperienced to see the deep water from far away.
We've been together that long too, married in 2000 though. Kids in 2005 and 2006. And your description of her being social and you and your alone time is the same as us as well.We started dating in 1992, married in 1996. So together 27 years. First kid going to college.
We both work and give each other space when needed. She's more social with her friends and I prefer to have me time for gaming and stuff. So it works out great.
I've been poly. Outside of my own relationship, I've been in with others who are both married and single. Married people I meet are struggling almost always and single people are struggling to find someone they can just base-level respect.
It is a meat grinder out there - if people would simply be clear-eyed and honest.
For those who say everything is roses 5/5 - either they are lying, in denial, or too inexperienced to see the deep water from far away.
I also voted 5/5 and this is basically the description of me and my wife. It makes me sad that some people are so jaded or cynical or unhappy themselves that they can't even fathom to believe that others can be in a happy healthy relationship long term.
How can you say this when you are not inside everyone's relationship?
People in shitty situations, shitty jobs, shitty relationships, etc. are going to be less likely to post about it leading to a skewed thread and poll.The fact that 85%+ of Era is perfectly happy or quite happy with their relationship really goes against divorce rates.
Think about it. Why would people stay in a bad relationship these days?
Think about it. Why would people stay in a bad relationship these days?
She's was right over your shoulder as you typed this, wasn't she
j/k
I divorced once and now am perfectly happy.The fact that 85%+ of Era is perfectly happy or quite happy with their relationship really goes against divorce rates.
Divorce rates have been going down. That divorce rate stat also includes those that remarry. The divorce rate increase every subsequent marriage.The fact that 85%+ of Era is perfectly happy or quite happy with their relationship really goes against divorce rates.
Well put. Nothing is perfect in this world but you if you are going to judge things you have to base it on how well it works for you. It's like GamePro's old "fun factor" rating except applied to relationships.5/5 doesn't mean perfection. Just like a 5/5 movie or game means it has no faults.
Hey, what do you mean
Everything is true
Let's not second-guess someone's post
Please
Man, it's great to be married
Everyone should do it
Alot of killjoys in here. Perhaps you were just never with your ideal partner?
How can you say this when you are not inside everyone's relationship?
The fact that 85%+ of Era is perfectly happy or quite happy with their relationship really goes against divorce rates.
So for those of you who claim to be 5/5 or even 4/5 and claim so honestly and with no naivete - enjoy it while it lasts. Truly. What you have is rare.
Been with her for 28 years, so I guess our relationship is due to explode any minute!
Seriously, it wasn't always a 4 or 5. We had a few years of a middling relationship, and then a brief period where I thought we were over. Then we figured it out and have been crazy satisfied with each other since. No, we aren't always happy, but we are almost always happy with each other.
I have been inside and privy to many people's relationships. People generally struggle. What amazes me is how most people in this thread gloss over it so easily.
The funny thing about relationships is how they can go from 5/5 to 2/5 in an instant. Say your girlfriend loses her father or someone close to them and then they suddenly change. Most women with children go through chemical changes where they are predisposed to share emotions with their children while neglecting the husband - happens all the time. I've seen it everywhere.
I've literally talked to thousands of women. That is not hyperbole. I've talked to them candidly about their wants/needs, their relationships, their struggles. I've done this since I was a teen and I am almost 38 years old. Thousands.....no exaggeration.
In my experience people paint rosy colors on their relationships to strangers - I know this for a fact because most women would do just that and then eventually become honest with me over time and the actual picture would become clear. Lots of women have cheated on their partners (sometimes with me) because they simply were not happy.
Don't conflate happiness and love. I love my wife. We are often unhappy because of the circumstances of our lives. We do our best - sometimes our personalities work to sabotage happiness if it appears. We work through it.
My parents love each other. They fight and bicker all of the time.
My wife's parents divorced and remarried to other partners. Each of them struggle with their partners.
My wife's best friend struggles with her partner.
My wife's other friend had a partner die on her due to alcoholism and remarried - has struggles
My wife's other friend has someone who have anger issues and destroys stuff in the house.
My best friend has struggled
My other married friend struggles sometimes.
My grandparents struggled when they were alive.
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I don't know a single relationship I've ever encountered in my life personally or by proxy that was a 5/5 or even a 4/5. Maybe young me when I first met my wife, but like I said all new relationships are 5/5 until the moment they aren't and we almost never can see the deep water from far away - it almost always smacks us in the face suddenly.
So for those of you who claim to be 5/5 or even 4/5 and claim so honestly and with no naivete - enjoy it while it lasts. Truly. What you have is rare.