So when a Trump voter says "I'm not racist, my best friend/wife/doctor/dog is black/gay/female/Jewish", I assume you all just sagely nod your head and go "he said The Words, he is Accepted".
Since my morality was called into question which is a pretty serious thing I'll just link you two posts of mine which should illustrate my stance.
https://www.resetera.com/threads/michelle-obama-george-w-bush-is-my-'partner-in-crime'.74223/page-19#post-13702101 (I was actually warned for this one)
https://www.resetera.com/threads/ge...-at-the-age-of-94.84380/page-21#post-15588010
If that is not enough to understand, and since this "normal social norms" thing is a particular peeve of mine...
It is "normal social norm" to respect the dead, even if the dead is a warmonger like HWB, or someone who bombed civilians in an unjust war like McCain. It's abnormal to bring up these character failings during times of grief, which are brushed aside as "just part of the job". So, when you accuse me of not following social norms, I say, absolutely!, because nearly all modern social norms are idiosyncratically blind to injustice against minorities/women/indigenes/LGBT and only seek to perserve the negative peace that allows the privileged to stockpile their wealth and influence. It's normal to send criminals to prison. It's normal to discuss humanitarian issues in terms of business viability. It's normal to support Israel. It's abnormal to raise the implications of the Prison industrial complex and the New Jim Crow. It's abnormal to consider that maybe businesses shouldn't be the arbiters of humanity. It's abnormal to extend your empathy to Palestinian children.
I do not identify as socialist because I recognize the legitimacy of standard liberal norms (having been raised in that infamous liberal enclave, NYC). I identify as socialist because I've rejected all the norms I learned, once I realized their inherent contradictions, and in the process of rebuilding my own personal framework, I stumbled onto socialism as the first morally consistent political stance, being irrevocably opposed to everything I learned as a child and grew to hate.
TL;DR: You can take all your "normal norms" and shove it up your morally compromised ass.