I don't really know what's the situation with that game, can you tell me about it?
It sucks when we're second grade customers.
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I don't really know what's the situation with that game, can you tell me about it?
It sucks when we're second grade customers.
Hi everyone! I'm Aimi!
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Favorite music is dominated by Funk albums with a dash of Metal and Pop thrown in for good measure. Favorite games are Shadow of the Colossus and Dark Souls 2 (oops), favourite genre though is Tactics games.
If I'm not gaming in my free time, you'd find me on the Tennis court or window-shopping because I'm a sucker for fancy apparel and clothing. I also used to go to the movies a lot before the pandemic.
Nice to meetcha!
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If I'm not gaming in my free time, you'd find me on the Tennis court or window-shopping because I'm a sucker for fancy apparel and clothing. I also used to go to the movies a lot before the pandemic.
Nice to meetcha!
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I don't think people are saying you shouldn't be uncomfortable with this content, or that your discomfort is invalid. They are saying that it's a creative work and its plot deals with these themes. It is nice that the developers are adding content warning to tell you that this content is there, but it's not the industry standard to do that anyway. Queer works shouldn't be saccharine nor should they be held at a higher standard because they are trying to do better. If someone has certain triggers they probably shouldn't go blind into any piece of media without prior research.
Hello there! Hope everyone is well!
(Preferred pronouns?)
He/Him.
- Your gender? Your sexual identity?
(Preferred pronouns?)
He/Him.
- Your sexual orientation?
- Where Are You From?
- Where Do You Live?
- How Old Are you?
- Favorite Type of Music?
- Profession or Career interest?
- Favorite video game(s)?
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
Today i had my first sexual experience (at least, regarding anal intercourse) It was good! I really like this dude and it was sweet but also intense.
do you have any tips or resources to read about anal sex? I have mixed feelings about it, there was this pressure and pain involved so i don't really know how to work on it to be more comfortable and pleasurable…
do you have any tips or resources to read about anal sex? I have mixed feelings about it, there was this pressure and pain involved so i don't really know how to work on it to be more comfortable and pleasurable…
Ooh! Finally a topic I'm good at. I don't know nothin' about love.
As long as you're relaxed, you use plenty of silicone-based* or blended lube, and you bare down when they enter, it should be relatively painless and friction-free. I find that men don't use enough lube in general thanks to the way porn is edited, so things can be uncomfortable on both sides.
There are a few positions the penetrative partner can try as an starter position, but, ultimately, the position that gives the receptive partner the most control is the best position. That usually means Cowgirl, Reverse Cowgirl, Doggy, or Missionary.
And, remember, the anal sphincter can stretch to over a 7" diameter safely.
*I don't care if it "messes up" the sheets. Use a towel and soak the sheets in Dawn.
Hi, I'm new here. I'm trans and lesbian. I've been out since 2014 and living full time as a woman since 2015
- Male Cis man He/him
- Asexual repulsive to sex and gay
- England Rugby Warwickshire
- Same as above
- 18
- Video game music
- N/A
- The Great Ace Attorney Chronicles
- I like discussing politics, space and watching YouTube videos.
Thank you, I thought that I would be too late and no one would respond or even see my post.
Never too late! Such a good and accepting community on here. Welcome btw! =)
Intercouse with another human is what sex is and gay is attracted to the same gender.
I think I see a misunderstanding so I'll butt in. The repulsion he mentioned would be to sex, NOT also towards gay. He's a homoromantic asexual.
Yes, those are definitions to things.
Yes, I misunderstood the wording.
Yes, I see now.
Human understanding complete 🤖
Why am I such a fucking alien 😭
In unrelated news, I just clicked on new tumbl and the first five images were relevant to my interests 🤔
i'm still really struggling with the break up i had with my first romantic interest… i'm going to therapy and taking meds, but still, it hurts. I feel so lonely…
i tried meeting new people, also Instagram and Tinder again but no one seems as interesting or moves me the way he did… This really is one of the hardest things i've ever dealt with, at 28 years old.
it does not help that i don't have many friends to actually bother with this… :( any advice on getting over this? He was my first everything, so that relationship is filled with symbolism and meaning, it was a taste of living my homosexuality without fears, living it as a real part of myself… i was so happy…
i tried meeting new people, also Instagram and Tinder again but no one seems as interesting or moves me the way he did… This really is one of the hardest things i've ever dealt with, at 28 years old.
it does not help that i don't have many friends to actually bother with this… :( any advice on getting over this? He was my first everything, so that relationship is filled with symbolism and meaning, it was a taste of living my homosexuality without fears, living it as a real part of myself… i was so happy…
I don't have that much experience with breakups, but maybe you could make more gay friends.
Living true to yourself shouldn't be tied to your first relationship, you're still you even after the relationship ended.
Talking openly about these kinds of topics might help you to dissociate "living your homosexuality" with your first relationship.
I know it's not very helpful but those are my two cents.
How long was the relationship?
As the song goes, you will survive.
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How long was the relationship?
As the song goes, you will survive.
Gloria Gaynor - I Will Survive [Official Video] 1978
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We were dating for like 2 months, talking every night for more than 2 hours, and constant messages and videochat and stuff. We spend the weekends together.
We were never really boyfriends but i still fell for him, and the importance is that it was my first experience so i'm devastated…
Today i learned he's dating another dude, so i've been crying myself to sleep. I'm just really sad that i could not make him like me the way i liked him…
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) Female/she/her
- Your sexual orientation? AroAce
- Where Are You From? California
- Where Do You Live? Missouri (hope to move back to NY)
- How Old Are you? 32
- Favorite Type of Music? Random but usu 1-3 songs from a single artist (example: I only like Bohemian Rhapsody or I believe in a thing called love—nothing else from the artist)
- Profession or Career interest? Work as auditor but would rather draw all day but then if I make drawing my job—I might hate it
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Drawing, cooking, and reading
So incidentally I drew a comic for everyone in this community
welcome!!!
i feel the same about drawing. I love it and it's my passion but i'm afraid i'd hate it if it was my full time job…
So, the guy that cut me off because of "lack of time from his part for us to keep going out" has a new guy in his life and shares pictures holding hands and shit, stuff he never did with me.
So he never told me the truth and just lied to me. I'm really devastated… i had to take one anxiolytic and change the therapy session for today in order to cope with this…
i never thought my first love would hurt this much…
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) ---> Male, He/Him
- Your sexual orientation? ---> Heteroromantic Asexual
- Where Are You From? ---> Québec
- Where Do You Live? ---> Somehwere in the Québec province
- How Old Are you? ---> 30s
- Favorite Type of Music? ---> Indie Rock
- Profession or Career interest? ---> work in games
- Favorite video game(s)? ---> Hades, Obra Dinn, NHL games, Chrono Cross, Suikoden 2-5, Trails in the Sky 2, Grim Fandango
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? ---> Writing, improv
Without entering into too much details, I'm not sure "asexual" is a perfect definition of who I am. I experience sexual needs, I just don't feel any particular attraction towards anyone. It feels like an itch that I need to scratch. I feel very uncomfortable at the idea of having intercourse with another person unless I really trust them, and even then it's just another way to "scratch the itch". It led to some weird situations the few times I've been in commited relationships. Always tended to satisfy my need whenever I had it and I could, which sometimes led to ... let's call them "underperformances" or situations where it was pretty clear what I had been doing. I also just ... don't like having sex. It always felt uncomfortable. It feels good but uncomfortable, and there's tons of pressure associated with it.
For the longest time I just thought there was something that wasn't right in the way I was approaching things. I spent some time thinking that I might be gay and that maybe that was the cause of my sexual woes with women. Then it got me thinking that I don't feel any attraction towards men, which scratched that out. It's over the years that it dawned onto me that I didn't feel actual sexual attraction towards women also. I'm attracted to them romantically, I can be flirtatious, I like to cuddle, kiss, all that stuff. But when it comes to sex I just want to do my own thing on my end. At the end of the day, I think I should at least consider my partner's needs the next time I have a relationship.
The concept of asexuality was never really on my radar until a few years ago, and only recently did I start investigating it and thought I might fall in that spectrum. What cemented it was learning that high-libido Ace folks were a thing. It also helps explain a lot of the behaviors that I've had over the years. From lying about "conquests", to giving myself a really sexually driven persona, to successfully flirt with women only to back out when it became serious because I literally have no desire into mixing genitalia with another human being. I've written so much bullshit about my love life on forums, even lied to friends and basically invented myself a life.
I'm worried about how that post might come off, but I just had some things to get off my chest. I recently talked about it with a friend too explaining everything to him and he's been really supportive.
So yeah, a bit stressed about this post.
Ah, the first one?
Well, I would suggest to make yourself concern yourself less about thim. What does that mean? Look at other people, play games, watch movies, whatever. Start talking to others casually. Try to start by making a few new friends. Maybe go on a date.
You will survive!
I know this is going to sound sharp, but you are simply overthinking it!
Everyone is welcome here. Being ace is queer.
I think you might have some unresolved tension given that you say that you do have to scratch some kind of specific itch. Maybe you have a particular sexual trigger or you do experience a sexual orientation under specific circumstances.
Whatever you feel romantically is cool, too.
- Your gender? Your sexual identity? (Preferred pronouns?) Male (he/him)
- Your sexual orientation? Bisexual
- Where Are You From? Upstate NY
- Where Do You Live? Hudson Valley, NY
- How Old Are you? 33
- Favorite Type of Music? Jam Bands (Phish, Goose), Indie, Prog Rock
- Profession or Career interest? Technical Support/IT
- Favorite video game(s)? League of Legends, Civilization, Portal
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)? Magic the Gathering (EDH), Live Music, Hiking
So, this is all a bit new and slightly confusing for me still. Over the last few months I've been thinking a lot about certain emotions and feelings I have and despite having identified as straight for my whole life I have finally accepted that I am pansexual. My wife pretty much knew where the conversation was going when I started talking to her about it the other week and that settled it in my mind.
I don't want to make a big deal about it because it doesn't change everything much (even though it changes everything at least a bit). I'm happily married to a woman, and she is the only person of any gender or orientation I want to be with, but I am definitely realizing this is who I am, and while it's going to take me a little while to say something to my parents and I might not approach it with my 93-year-old Grandma, I am going to come out publicly.
I've never been into manly men. I think that's why it sort of stayed in the background for so long. But as people more at the fringes and in the middle of the gender spectrum have become more and more visible I have to admit to myself that there are men and people of other gender identities than female that I'm very much into emotionally and physically. Even if they aren't typical (whatever that means), under other circumstances I would be no more hesitant to be intimate with them than I would women I find attractive.
I've never been the sort to find lots of people attractive. Even among women only certain people get my attention, and that's true for every other kind of person I now see I'm attracted to. The handful of times where chances arose to pursue something intimate with a guy, I was already dating women and I'm hard wired monogamous, so nothing ever happened. So, I don't have any significant queer experiences to speak of, and I hope to stay with my wife for the rest of my life, so there is a degree of feeling like an imposter, but I've always lived by the principle of never being shy to speak up about liking something, and that applies as much here as it does to various TV shows or movies.
Even as a moderator, I've never even peered in here because it has always been important to me to let queer folk have their own space and it never occurred to me that I might be queer. I don't know, maybe I was hesitant to ask myself those question. Scanning through this thread, I know a lot of your names from the rest of the site and I see people that I have a lot of respect for and it feels like it would be a greater wrong not to stand alongside you and to say that, yes. This is me. I've come out privately to my wife, my boss, my sister and a few close queer friends. Reactions have ranged from 'yeah I know' to genuine surprise. But as far as where to come out online, ResetEra is my community and I've always loved its breadth and vibrancy. I haven't even told any of the other mods yet.
This feels like the right place for this.
At the age of 41 I'm finally embracing my pansexuality. It's something I'm still feeling my way around, a new facet of myself to finally acknowledge. At times it feels like some giant thing life altering thing. At other times it feels like I'm being stupid to think anyone else would even care.
But it feels true either way.
I don't want to make a big deal about it because it doesn't change everything much (even though it changes everything at least a bit). I'm happily married to a woman, and she is the only person of any gender or orientation I want to be with, but I am definitely realizing this is who I am, and while it's going to take me a little while to say something to my parents and I might not approach it with my 93-year-old Grandma, I am going to come out publicly.
I've never been into manly men. I think that's why it sort of stayed in the background for so long. But as people more at the fringes and in the middle of the gender spectrum have become more and more visible I have to admit to myself that there are men and people of other gender identities than female that I'm very much into emotionally and physically. Even if they aren't typical (whatever that means), under other circumstances I would be no more hesitant to be intimate with them than I would women I find attractive.
I've never been the sort to find lots of people attractive. Even among women only certain people get my attention, and that's true for every other kind of person I now see I'm attracted to. The handful of times where chances arose to pursue something intimate with a guy, I was already dating women and I'm hard wired monogamous, so nothing ever happened. So, I don't have any significant queer experiences to speak of, and I hope to stay with my wife for the rest of my life, so there is a degree of feeling like an imposter, but I've always lived by the principle of never being shy to speak up about liking something, and that applies as much here as it does to various TV shows or movies.
Even as a moderator, I've never even peered in here because it has always been important to me to let queer folk have their own space and it never occurred to me that I might be queer. I don't know, maybe I was hesitant to ask myself those question. Scanning through this thread, I know a lot of your names from the rest of the site and I see people that I have a lot of respect for and it feels like it would be a greater wrong not to stand alongside you and to say that, yes. This is me. I've come out privately to my wife, my boss, my sister and a few close queer friends. Reactions have ranged from 'yeah I know' to genuine surprise. But as far as where to come out online, ResetEra is my community and I've always loved its breadth and vibrancy. I haven't even told any of the other mods yet.
This feels like the right place for this.
At the age of 41 I'm finally embracing my pansexuality. It's something I'm still feeling my way around, a new facet of myself to finally acknowledge. At times it feels like some giant thing life altering thing. At other times it feels like I'm being stupid to think anyone else would even care.
But it feels true either way.
You're only an imposter if you lie to yourself.
Being honest to yourself about your desires is basically the queer experience.* Tell your wife how you feel. If she's truly the one you're going to be with forever, she'll understand or try to understand you. You can then make moves on what you want and where you want to go from there.
*Plus, countering or combating all the phobias ingrained in society at large.
She was the first person I told and she has been amazing. I don't think I have loved her more than I have these last few days, seeing her unable to bite her tongue whenever someone reacts to the news in an ignorant or hurtful way makes me feel like the luckiest person alive. I didn't worry about her for a moment.
She's the only person I want to be with. I don't need to play with all the equipment I find sexy. If I can make her feel good with what she has, that's enough, because ultimately that's what I want from intimacy.
Couldn't sleep last night so I started watching an Argentinian movie on Netflix. Thought it was gonna be a nice coming-of-age story. And then the ending killed me and I couldn't sleep for the rest of the night cause I was sad.
Here's a scene:
The movie is called "Yo Adolescente" but it's called "Memories of a Teenager" in English.
Here's a scene:
The movie is called "Yo Adolescente" but it's called "Memories of a Teenager" in English.
First post here, so sorry for coming here asking for your help out of the blue, but in the last few days I've been talking to this guy in the mental health thread that's severely depressed and thinking about suicide, and I'm trying to convince him to seek help. He's gay and fat, and thinks that he's hideous and no one wants to be with someone like him. I know for a fact (because of reasons, don't ask) that there are tons of people that are super into big guys. I even googled communities aimed for this group and told him about them. I told him to come here into this thread so maybe some of you guys could help him, but he finds himself undeserving of being here. I really don't know what else to do, but right now he's in the city he travelled to commit suicide. I feel so sorry for him, it's breaking my heart, but I'm on the other half of the planet and I can't do much to help. Maybe some of you guys could help him to find some of these groups of chubby bear admirers or something like that. Personally I don't think that a relationship is necessarily what he needs right now, but this seems to be such a big deal for him, so... I really don't know what else to do to help him. I won't link his profile here, but if you look over there, it's the user with the Japanese letters on his nickname (he's American tho).
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Damn, that's tough!
Everyone's welcome here; this is totally a safe space.
Hey, I'd like to post here for the first time.
I am male but don't entirely feel like a male if that makes sense. I always felt like a feminine male as I'd excuse myself from locker room talk and all that jazz. I'm not of a dominant mindset which I think a lot of men possess. I've been quite comfortable with other feminine looking men and trans women. I think I'm bisexual in this nature as I do find men attractive, but I'm not overwhelming attracted to them and I think I'm more so attracted to women. But I think women like masculine men, which I am not. So hey!
I am male but don't entirely feel like a male if that makes sense. I always felt like a feminine male as I'd excuse myself from locker room talk and all that jazz. I'm not of a dominant mindset which I think a lot of men possess. I've been quite comfortable with other feminine looking men and trans women. I think I'm bisexual in this nature as I do find men attractive, but I'm not overwhelming attracted to them and I think I'm more so attracted to women. But I think women like masculine men, which I am not. So hey!
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- Your gender? Your sexual identity?
- Cis male
- Your sexual orientation?
- Gay
- Where Are You From?
- Brazil, Rio
- Where Do You Live?
- Brazil, Brusque
- How Old Are you?
- 29 (almost there lol)
- Favorite Type of Music?
- Jazz
- Profession or Career interest?
- I am a physician and soon to be psychiatrist.
- Favorite video game(s)?
- The Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time
- The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild
- Dark Souls
- Shin Megami Tensei IV
- Persona 4
- Persona 5 Royal
- Sonic Mania
- What are your hobbies (other than gaming)?
- I have ADHD, so basically everything lol
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This was probably the biggest takeaway from the video for me, too!
and he's been making Zelda announcements for decades now and it was just now that it made me think "well, that is one damn fine looking gentleman" lol
Hello! First post in here. I'm a hairy bear, burly type, still closeted and interested in chubby guys, and to add a little spice in my rather boring life I recently started posting NSFW pics on Reddit, and it's been WILD! I never felt desired before, and having guys commenting on my body gave me such a boost of self esteem! I've been sexting and trading nudes with a lot of them (most of them absolutely gorgeous!), but I gotta say: despite the adrenaline rush, I'm not sure if I should continue doing that. I mean, some guys are really sweet (and being able to just be gay and talk dirty with other guys feels amazing, I never had the chance to do that!), but others start conversations and ghost me out of the blue, others come like "help me release" and I do my best, show myself and waste a lot of my time, and not even a "thank you" I get in the end. Others sound so effin lonely that I end up scared with the possibility of hurting their feelings. I mean, I'm doing this just for fun, but I also deal with depression and anxiety on my own because of my shitty real life situation, and certain things trigger some bad stuff in me.
I don't know why I'm saying this, but I just wanted to put it out.
I don't know why I'm saying this, but I just wanted to put it out.
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Hello, welcome!!
You know i can relate a lot regarding what you are feeling! I was still closeted a year ago but i used to do that thing with pictures and talking with guys… i think that as long as you are feeling comfortable doing it there shouldn't be a problem! It's nice to explore one's sexuality! And regarding your anxiety and depression, have you tried therapy? It has helped me a lot with that, tbh. Wish you the best in your process!!
For the other folk in the thread, i wanted to ask, i've had a couple of sexual encounters and it hasn't been that great… i wanted to share my experience and ask for advice, if anyone can share their thoughts it would be great :)
Does anyone feel some kind of pain or unbearable pressure in the colon/lower abdomen while bottoming? i don't know if it's air being pumped in or something like that but it really takes me out of the experience and forces me to stop…
And also, i've tried being a top but i really can't seem to remain hard enough to do it… i don't know if it's some kind of erectile dysfunction or not, but it's a bummer…
Still, after the guy i liked left me, these experiences have been with guys that i don't really know as well as i knew him, so i wonder if there's a psychological component there that might be affecting my ability to have pleasure during sex… Has anyone experienced something like this when you first started your sexual life?