That's really great to hear and it does give me a little bit of hope. I seriously just want to fall in love with someone and have him fall in love back with me. That seems like such a hard thing to do, right? Attraction that must be mutual? It's scary for me to think about how all the stars have to lineup in order for it to happen.
And with the pandemic, it feels like it's even harder. How did you date around? Just using apps? I tried my hardest to meet people IRL rather than apps, but with Covid that seems impossible, at least for this year.
I live in a decently sized city with a big gay population, and my career is here (Columbus, Ohio), but recently I can't help but just think about moving to NYC or LA and just.....start all over. It would be so hard especially with my skill set just being in working in a public utilities company, haha. Also, who's to say NYC or LA even look the same after the pandemic ends?
It took moving from rural NY to Seattle to get me out of my comfort zone and start dating; I knew several gay people through work in NY (and our town's mayor was gay) but I was too reserved and uncomfortable in my skin to ever pursue anything. The fresh start was certainly beneficial to my psyche, as was the feedback from an lgbt therapist I was going to for a few months.
I set up an OK Cupid account, went on my first date after a couple weeks (we parted ways after dinner, he texted to express regret over not kissing me, so I suggested he come back to try again and we ended up spending the night together lol). After realizing this was less complicated and stressful than expected, I stopped overthinking things and just went out with all sorts of people. Not, like... anybody, but not limited to some ideal I may have conjured up in the past. There were good dates and some weird dates (the guy who showed up in a floor-length fur coat and then left me with bite marks and bruises!), but I honestly don't think there were any genuinely bad experiences: they were all positive ways of expanding what I actually wanted from a relationship.