I definitely think that the sequel trilogy is held to a higher standard than the OT and the prequels.That's a perfectly fair complaint. I'd argue it's Oscar-worthy nuance compared to the prequels and the dialogue of the originals, but Star Wars Jedi characters have frequently lived in the black and white.
The novels are where lots of the debate exists. "Gray Jedis" are a thing in the legends and new canon. But that's a bridge too far unless you're a fan of the series and themes.