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DiscoShark

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Oct 26, 2017
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Yes? What about the ton of rape victims who weren't able to go get a rape kit, and even then they may not have witnesses or anything to verify their story. You're saying if because someone can't definitively prove something that it didn't happen?
Whether it happened is secondary, I'm just curious about what form that justice you're describing would (or should) take in an environment where there's nothing backing up their accusation. I understand the enormous pressure and stress the accuser has to go through even to get to the point of being able to talk about these events openly but I'm not well versed on how these types of cases proceed in the first place.
 

ry-dog

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Oct 25, 2017
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Wasn't she arrested for domestic violence with a previous partner too?
I don't understand why people sided with a previous abuser, over someone who hasn't (to my knowledge) been accused of anything in that like that before.
 

alexi52

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Oct 28, 2017
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The amount of false allegations or people who it turns out are lying is far smaller than the number of people who either never come forward or come forward and have zero available proof other than their word. To not believe an accuser is dangerous.

You can also believe the accuser while also not trashing the person being accused on the way out.

Anything further and I feel like I'm slipping into meta commentary and I'm unwilling to go there.
Yeah but in this situation we weren't believing a accuser, Depp was saying he was the victim from the start
 

Renna Hazel

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Oct 27, 2017
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The amount of false allegations or people who it turns out are lying is far smaller than the number of people who either never come forward or come forward and have zero available proof other than their word. To not believe an accuser is dangerous.

You can also believe the accuser while also not trashing the person being accused on the way out.

Anything further and I feel like I'm slipping into meta commentary and I'm unwilling to go there.
Are we including historical (and current) race based accusations here? If so, not only is what you said inaccurate but it's really dangerous to just condemn the accused without any evidence of even hearing their side of the story.

I guess your perspective is based on your experiences and the things you've witnessed.
 
Nov 14, 2017
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Wow. That transcript captures it perfectly. "Just because I've thrown pots and pans does not mean you cannot come and knock on my door". That's absolutely what abusive people do - they make it your responsibility to make up with them, and then it's your fault that you didn't make the effort to come to them to patch things up. It's part of the ongoing abuse.

Glad he's out of that situation and that people are being made aware of this.
 

spootime

The Fallen
Oct 27, 2017
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Discussion ebbs and flows and can go in any direction. If the thread is about a comedian being accused of rape (for example), you can talk about other similar cases, how bad rape is, how you didn't expect that comedian to be involved (or how you did), advocate for rape victims, share news about it happening, there are any number of things to talk about that does not downplay or dismiss the issue at hand.

Stating that there isn't enough information to make an informed opinion isn't "downplaying or dismissing the issue at hand". It is, by definition, an opinion.
 

subpar spatula

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Oct 26, 2017
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Wasn't she arrested for domestic violence with a previous partner too?
I don't understand why people sided with a previous abuser, over someone who hasn't (to my knowledge) been accused of anything in that domain before.
Because domestic abuse and abuse against women in general don't have a good track record with the law so people now err on the side of caution and believe them which is a good thing, but there are rare cases like this. It's why even though Depp has character witnesses, no history of abuse (except self inflicted drug and alcohol), he was the abuser.
 

Deleted member 17402

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Oct 27, 2017
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Calling Heard just an "abuser" for this shit and what happened to his finger doesn't seem like enough. The word isn't loaded enough.
 

Aureon

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Oct 27, 2017
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Rethinking this, i'm not sure this wast a post well thought enough. Maybe another day.
 

RedMercury

Blue Venus
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Are we including historical (and current) race based accusations here? If so, not only is what you said inaccurate but it's really dangerous to just condemn the accused without any evidence of even hearing their side of the story.
I don't think there'd be much application within this context to current society discussing historical cases when we're in the age of social media and that's how most of this is brought to our attention (though historical instances are also incredibly important and should be studied and learned from, especially race-based accusations and the effect that's had on minorities). If we want to be more accurate, we can say allegations by minorities are largely accurate (see statistics on sexual assault/rape allegations for example). However I'd be willing to bet out of the public accusations most of us are familiar with or that gain traction, the vast majority have been accurate. Also, I don't think posting on a hardcore gaming forum necessarily condemns anyone.
 

ry-dog

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Because domestic abuse and abuse against women in general don't have a good track record with the law so people now err on the side of caution and believe them which is a good thing, but there are rare cases like this. It's why even though Depp has character witnesses, no history of abuse (except self inflicted drug and alcohol), he was the abuser.

Oh I understand that. But this was an unusual case from the start, because of her prior arrest. And while it's obviously possible for a past abuser to be abused, I don't people should have been so quick to jump on Depp, given he was alleging the opposite.
 

Zulith

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Really unfortunate how long this took to come out. Maybe Depp doesn't care because he's incredibly rich already, but he must have missed out on tons of job opportunities in the last 3 years after their split because of the abuse allegations, and something like this would have helped balance opinions out. Regardless of who you believe or what you think is actually going on here, this audio goes a long way towards adding perspective to both sides.
 

B.O.O.M.

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Oct 25, 2017
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You can take things seriously and look into them without jumping to conclusions.

THIS. Like how is this such a crazy concept to some people. Fucking hell

OT: That was hard to read and I feel so bad for Depp. Guy got dogpiled on and he didn't deserve it at all. This shit is scary...glad the tape came out at least
 
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#JusticeForJohnnyDepp is now trending #1 worldwide. I seriously hope this and the defamation lawsuit clears his name, or at least mend some of the damage already done.

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vestan

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Some more stuff from the Tara Roberts deposition.



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This is seriously sickening.
 
Oct 31, 2017
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From the sounds of the fights... possibly Borderline PD. I've been through that with someone with it. It sucks.

Borderline, Anti-Social, or Narcissistic or a gradient of all/some/etc. Hard to say not being a mental health professional. I have first hand experience to this kind of thing too. The stealing of the keys, recording, triangulation all happened to me. It got to where I felt I had to record things and that was messed up. Phone/laptop ripped out of my hands, you name it.

His career-ruination/the WaPo letter are the exact kind of things I very seriously started to fear in my own situation before I fled. Not to mention fearing for my physical safety, something akin to what happened to his finger.

Whew @ the physical blocking of movement... yeah...
 

Deleted member 11413

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Oct 27, 2017
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shit man, I'm sorry but I'm glad you made it out with your sanity and self-esteem in tact.

Seems like there are more domestic abuse survivors here than it appears.
There are a ton of domestic violence survivors and sexual abuse survivors on this forum. Sexual abuse rates for men are 20%, for women they are 25-30%. Domestic violence is equally common if not more so.
 

deadbass

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Oct 27, 2017
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This thread is real weird, but I just want to point out that he admits to pushing her and throwing something at her in these tapes.
 

game-biz

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Oct 25, 2017
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Fucking hell this makes me nauseous. What a complete psychopathic piece of shit Amber Heard is. Happy that Depp has been publicly exonerated.

As for Heard....her ass needs to be in prison. What a horrible human being.
 

Renna Hazel

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Oct 27, 2017
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I don't think there'd be much application within this context to current society discussing historical cases when we're in the age of social media and that's how most of this is brought to our attention (though historical instances are also incredibly important and should be studied and learned from, especially race-based accusations and the effect that's had on minorities). If we want to be more accurate, we can say allegations by minorities are largely accurate (see statistics on sexual assault/rape allegations for example). However I'd be willing to bet out of the public accusations most of us are familiar with or that gain traction, the vast majority have been accurate. Also, I don't think posting on a hardcore gaming forum necessarily condemns anyone.
I wonder why you feel the need to downplay what is said on Era so much. This is a large and influential forum. If what we said here didn't matter, then why can't people say they want to wait for more information? It seems like anytime this site collectively gets something wrong there are people that point out that it doesn't matter what we say here. I think it does, which is why certain things should be banned. This forum does have some impact on popular opinion, even if it's small.

Many of the public accusations I'm familiar with have been questionable. Which is why I think it's best to wait for proof before condemning someone. Apparently we aren't going to agree on this.
 

KingTrainJumper

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Jan 10, 2020
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I've always loved Depp. Hope Disney lets him return to the pirates franchise after all is said and done. Can't really imagine anyone else as jack.

I have great symptom him as my ex wife was also very abusive to me. Throw a remote control at my forehead causing me to bleed, throwing the cordless phone at me, yelling and screaming every day, accusing me of fucking my mother if I said I wanted to go visit her, etc.
Sorry you had to go through that, man. :/
 

Violence Jack

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Oct 25, 2017
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So I take it that WB is going to get someone else to play Mera in the next Aquaman movie? Because I know I don't want to see her in anything for a very long time after hearing about this.
 

Deleted member 11413

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This thread is real weird, but I just want to point out that he admits to pushing her and throwing something at her in these tapes.
Not sure why you think this thread is 'real weird'. Yeah I'm sure he did, victims of domestic violence are often pushed to either physically defend themselves or even lash out after suffering so much abuse for so long.
 
Oct 28, 2017
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Not sure why you think this thread is 'real weird'. Yeah I'm sure he did, victims of domestic violence are often pushed to either physically defend themselves or even lash out after suffering so much abuse for so long.

This is true. I went thru it for six months, even though I never hit her. I sometimes think she wanted me to so I'd go down for something she started.

Made me think everything was my fault. Eventually lost my job, my credit, my apartment after all that.

That was 12 years ago. I'm much better off now. But that was the absolute worst time of my life. And I can wholeheartedly defend Johnny. I went thru the same shit.
 

Keikaku

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Oct 27, 2017
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Really unfortunate how long this took to come out. Maybe Depp doesn't care because he's incredibly rich already, but he must have missed out on tons of job opportunities in the last 3 years after their split because of the abuse allegations, and something like this would have helped balance opinions out. Regardless of who you believe or what you think is actually going on here, this audio goes a long way towards adding perspective to both sides.
I think he lost most of his money. Hopefully he gets something back at least.
 

TheGhost

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Oct 25, 2017
28,137
Long Island
This thread is real weird, but I just want to point out that he admits to pushing her and throwing something at her in these tapes.
Self defense is a thing, someone starts hitting you, you're instinct is to defend yourself. There comes a point where you have to put your hand up to either block blows or at least deflect them away from you. No one should be a punching bag in a relationship
 

RedMercury

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Dec 24, 2017
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Many of the public accusations I'm familiar with have been questionable. Which is why I think it's best to wait for proof before condemning someone. Apparently we aren't going to agree on this.
Probably not but I do want you know I really appreciate you being civil and sharing your opinion, and I hope you don't think I'm saying you're empirically wrong and I'm right or anything, just coming from different perspectives.
 

aerts1js

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May 11, 2019
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Yeah, there's a definite problem with cancel culture in our current society. Hope Depp recovers from this.
 

Lulu

Saw the truth behind the copied door
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Oct 25, 2017
26,680
Believe victims like Depp clearly was. Fuck off with both side shit.
 

MAK11

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Oct 29, 2017
473
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She took a shit in his bed...wut! .
PornHUb & Brazzers are already scrambling to sign her for her carreer reconversion..
 

Renna Hazel

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Oct 27, 2017
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Probably not but I do want you know I really appreciate you being civil and sharing your opinion, and I hope you don't think I'm saying you're empirically wrong and I'm right or anything, just coming from different perspectives.
Nah, it's all good. We don't always have to agree to get along. I don't think your heart is in the wrong place or anything.
 

Lulu

Saw the truth behind the copied door
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Oct 25, 2017
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Self defense is a thing, someone starts hitting you, you're instinct is to defend yourself. There comes a point where you have to put your hand up to either block blows or at least deflect them away from you. No one should be a punching bag in a relationship
Exactly
 

Rosebud

Two Pieces
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Apr 16, 2018
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Well, his role at Fantastic Beasts ruined the movie to me at the time.

How could she lie that way without express any remorse? Crazy.
 
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