You'd feel the same no matter what age your dad was. Uncles and Dads are different like that.I just know I won't do what my parents did to me. I don't want to blame my parents. When I saw my father as a child I saw an older man. I always wanted to hang out with my younger uncle. I was sort of embarrassed of my dad.
I suppose he could seek help for his depression, improve his mental health and get to the stage where he was able to raise kids successfully, learning from the mistakes that his parents made? Dunno, perhaps it feels like that could be a more constructive line to take with someone suffering from depression rather than just telling them that they are fucked and will inevitably pass on their issues to any kids they might have? Not quite as pithy a response, sure, but perhaps a bit kinder, more sensitive and less pessimistic approach.Pretty self-explanatory really. The OP is depressed and is now thinking about being too old to have kids.
Lol I had my first daughter at 19. Been tired since then. My kids aren't suffering.I'm 29, but I saw firsthand how I suffered in being raised by thirty year old parents. I don't want to have a kid that will suffer due to my always being tired.
Dude you need to get some professional help.
Your issues run deeper than age, kids and money.
I'm sorry but being poor has nothing to do with going out (or not) with girls.I have always been so poor that I've never really even approached a girl. The few times I've asked a girl out, they eventually turned me down when they realized how poor I am.
Wait dude 23 talking about can't have kids?!? When I was 23 I was working a dead end job and felt rather hopeless. It just seemed too big. How can I make enough money to pay a mortgage, car note, bills when I'm working retail and making shit?
My solution was to just get out of retail and adjust. Build job experience just focus on the day. Nothing else. It took years but by the time I approached my 30's I was good.
It takes time. Yall young bucks need to stop falling for the hype. You're not worthless cause you ain't a rockstar at 23. It's a grind most of us need to go through.
Agreed. IMO, we need to start banning people/locking and deleting topics when people have obvious issues and suicidal ideation so people do not pile on like this. Era is not a therapist and it shouldn't encourage people to treat it as such."haha what an idiot" "get help op you attention seeker!!!" "just think positive moron" "you just want sympathy"
ignoring the thread topic entirely, this is NOT how you talk to someone who is clearly experiencing depression. seriously, what the fuck, era? do you people think that this doesn't count as bullying just because it's the internet?
op, the way you phrase things and seem to experience things indicates to me that you would benefit greatly from talking to a mental health professional. i know that money is tight for you, but please go to your doctor and talk about this. for example, in australia, you can get up to 12 sessions with a psychologist free a year. good luck and please try not to take the responses in this thread to heart.
agree wholeheartedly. aside from providing links to mental health services and professionals I don't think much can be accomplished in a thread like this. at this point people are jumping into the thread, zipping to the end, and just responding "no you aren't"Agreed. IMO, we need to start banning people/locking and deleting topics when people have obvious issues and suicidal ideation so people do not pile on like this. Era is not a therapist and it shouldn't encourage people to treat it as such.
35 was my cutoff and I've blown past that, so that means no kids for me.
Dammit, I'm 34... I don't NEED kids, but you know, maybe? I wanna keep my options open in case I happen to meet someone I really love in the next few years. So I'm gonna give myself until 40.
Ok just keep wallowing in self-pity instead of doing something about it. Life isn't fair, it never will be, we can try to make it more fair, but it will never be completely fair.I'm 29, but I saw firsthand how I suffered in being raised by thirty year old parents. I don't want to have a kid that will suffer due to my always being tired.
Additionally, it's not realistic due to how poor I still am. I'm like a 20 year old poor college student at 29.
Yesterday my boss offered me chicken scraps to take home due to my poverty.
Oh my, you can't find anyone worthy enough to have your kids, huh?36 here and have the same cut off. Might stretch to 41 depending but currently not seeing anyone worthy of kids so who knows.
don't like to do this but the mods really should lock this thread