This will always baffle me. I know a lot of people send money to obvious grifters who say "God" enough times, but Trump barely even does that. He is famous for being an awful person, famous for cheating on his many wives, famous for stiffing blue collar people for work they did for him, famous for his many bankruptcies... always on the golf course instead of church on Sundays... and they still somehow see God in him? How?
Yeah, and it's yours, dude.I think they are more misguided than they are horrible people.
It would take a lot more for me to cut out my right wing family members than just them liking Trump.
It's one thing to cut someone out of your life because they are overtly racist and horrible. If they just happen to like Trump and turn a blind eye to his bullshit that's not great but not anything to ruin family over.
Some of the reactions in this thread are extreme YIKES
Yeah, and it's yours, dude.
Turning a blind eye to overt racist and horrible behavior is, in fact, overtly racist and horrible.
Do whatever you want, but criticizing other people for not tolerating hatred and bigotry is a real bad take.
I'm sure your black, LGBTQ, and disabled friends think that's totally cool of you.But I still love them and it would take a lot more than my dad watching Fox news to cut them out of my life.
But I still love them and it would take a lot more than my dad watching Fox news to cut them out of my life.
Yup.Trump is a big litmus test over whether or not you're a piece of shit.
Our closest family friend is middle eastern. They are still close friends. Because hey, not everything is about politics. There's more to life than that.I'm sure your black, LGBTQ, and disabled friends think that's totally cool of you.
You just come off as a privileged white dude. Sorry. To constantly downplay how important politics are is an almost uniquely white thing, because for you and a lot of your friends and family, they're more academic than things that really impact your quality of life one way or another. But for the disenfranchised, it's literally their lives on the line. Police brutality, erasure of trans folks, demonization of immigrants, and so on.And I think cutting out your family for voting for Trump is a bad take.
I'll mention that the only family members I have that like Trump are my dad, uncle, cousin (and I assume his dad but honestly don't know) Out of all of them my Cousin is probably the worst one since he posts about Trump all the time on snapchat. I don't talk to him at all but if our families were having a get together I wouldn't go out of my way to avoid him. We'd probably avoid politics but if it came up I woudn't shy from calling him out. I'd rather do that than just actively ignore him or refuse to go to the event.
For my dad and uncle, 99% of the time they don't talk about anything political. They come from a religious, rural upbringing in Poland. They work manual labor as carpenters/contractors. My dad said he didn't see a black person in real life until he moved to the states in 1992/1993. No college education, just whatever school was in his hometown.
Him being a carpenter, it makes sense that he would support a candidate in favor of removing undocumented workers since it does actually affect him. The social issues on the left are largely a mystery to him BECAUSE of his upbringing. Honestly I think the only reason he leaned to the right is because he grew up in communist poland. To him, capatlism seems like a dream. That being said, he still supports free college and healthcare since Poland has that now.
I think everyone is looking at these issues WAY too Black and White.
You can challenge your family members on these issues when they come up. But just cutting them out of your life seems insane to me. And I'm not even that big of a family guy either. My mom and dad are begging me to come visit them but to be honest I just don't want to spend the money + time off to do that when I can do more fun stuff.
But I still love them and it would take a lot more than my dad watching Fox news to cut them out of my life.
I think they are more misguided than they are horrible people.
It would take a lot more for me to cut out my right wing family members than just them liking Trump.
It's one thing to cut someone out of your life because they are overtly racist and horrible. If they just happen to like Trump and turn a blind eye to his bullshit that's not great but not anything to ruin family over.
Some of the reactions in this thread are extreme YIKES
He's not a "liberal".This will always baffle me. I know a lot of people send money to obvious grifters who say "God" enough times, but Trump barely even does that. He is famous for being an awful person, famous for cheating on his many wives, famous for stiffing blue collar people for work they did for him, famous for his many bankruptcies... always on the golf course instead of church on Sundays... and they still somehow see God in him? How?
FWIW, I had an great aunt and great uncle I stayed with after school and loved a lot as a kid. Unfortunately, they were racist AF. It was a small town in the 80's and no way was anyone going to call them out (plus, they were part of a big, extended family who were all pretty much on the same page as them on everything).
But one person who was NOT on the same page as them was my dad. And he gave me a talk once when I was around 7 that basically boiled down to that while we loved them, not everything they said was right. And it kinda clicked something in my head that made me grow up seeing them and their ways as fallible and in question. I grew up not sharing their views at all, and even arguing against them sometimes. It's not like I ever changed their minds or anything, but my cousins (their grandsons) are very progressive adults now.
But her (my aunt's) mom, My Great Grandma, died when I was in my 20's. I probably talked to her about it the most over the years- she was old school, rural, racist too (not that that's an excuse at all- there have always been progressive rural people if you look closely). In her final living weeks in the hospital, I visited her quite a bit, and during one of those final visits she finally cracked on the subject and told me I was probably right all this time, that she wished she had changed her mind about things but felt like she couldn't have, and that she was proud of me for always refusing to budge on that with her.
I dunno. I guess what I'm saying is that my dad started it all by just telling me to question the community and system I was in, and you shouldn't underestimate how smart the next generation always is. Tell your kids that grandma and grandpa are wrong about their intolerance (or whatever other crazy belief they have) and they'll hear you.
At least that was my experience. And trust me, the world (or mine at least) was much less ready to hear messages of tolerance then than it is now. (Even if the last couple of years make it seem otherwise).
That's kind of shitty, it wouldn't be her fault if they were. What if her parents were something worse, like abusive?I honestly don't think I could marry a girl if I found out her parents were right wingers.
No idea if you're racist but you sure as hell are privileged and completely without actual empathy for what minority folks go through due to Republican-led and sponsored racism.Our closest family friend is middle eastern. They are still close friends. Because hey, not everything is about politics. There's more to life than that.
All these responses tell me is you guys really need to get out of this damn echo chamber bubble. Democrats and Republicans coexist ALL THE TIME. My mom hates trump but she's not divorcing my dad over it. I went on a river float with my gf's sisters fiancé who is a republican. We drank some beers, had some laughs, argued about guns, and then had some more laughs.
Not every republican is a damn MAGA charicature.
But now I guess Era thinks I'm some racist for not cutting these people out of my life. FOH.
I do understand the privilege part. I can definitely see how people of color could feel more strongly so I definitely can't speak for how they would feel if they had a family member or friend that voted for trump. It's a good point to bring up for sure.No idea if you're racist but you sure as hell are privileged and completely without actual empathy for what minority folks go through due to Republican-led and sponsored racism.
If your family's Middle Eastern friend is fine with them supporting a racist bigot, that's up to them. However, other ethnic minorities are not in the position of being white folks of Polish ancestry who are immune to the worst impacts that Trump, his administration and Republicans in general are having on their day to day lives.
To use an example, my parents and I are Indian. We've lived in the US since 1997 and been US citizens since 2008. My parents have lived in the same house in the same nice neighborhood since 2001. Since 2016, the levels of harassment my family has had to endure has increased dramatically. Shitty letters shoved in the mailbox, petty vandalism to the house, people yelling "go back to your country" at my parents when they're out on their nightly walks. My mom has stopped going on walks with my dad in their neighborhood because she doesn't feel safe. All of this behavior is happening in San Jose, CA, an otherwise very liberal and generally diverse city.
You, as a person who is likely white or white-presenting do not have to engage with this so you have no idea what it's like to see behavior like this target you and then see the sentiments that spawned it parroted back by the Republican President and politicians who hold sway over large parts of the country.
Congrats on maintaining your relationship with your father but he's definitely enabling and complicit in the behavior of these politicians. Whatever the reasons he's had for voting conservatives in, the impacts on minority people like my family are immense. That doesn't even include stuff like:
- children in fucking cages at the border
- non-white immigrants dying in ICE/CPB custody
- a dramatic rise in white nationalism and racism
- a dramatic rise in anti-semitism
...and many other negative impacts to minorities.
You're essentially looking at people being hurt and then saying "But he's my father so I gotta respect him and his views!" That is absolute horseshit and people are absolutely going to call you out on it.
Your father or other members of your family who voted for Trump may not have wanted anything in that list to happen but their continued support of Trump/Republican politics absolutely enables that sort of horrendous shit to keep happening.
If you choose to maintain the peace and not actively challenge and push back his views, you are to some degree complicit in allowing these things to happen to minorities and not doing anything about it. All so you can maintain a friendly relationship with people who would happily throw minorities under the bus because of their political leanings.
So between the sexual assault, the homophobia, the racism, the friendliness with white supremacists, the caging of children and separation of families, the exploitation of low-income communities, the apathy towards people in the wake of disasters, etc., what is the line you draw in which someone supporting Trump might be a toxic influence?I think they are more misguided than they are horrible people.
It would take a lot more for me to cut out my right wing family members than just them liking Trump.
It's one thing to cut someone out of your life because they are overtly racist and horrible. If they just happen to like Trump and turn a blind eye to his bullshit that's not great but not anything to ruin family over.
Some of the reactions in this thread are extreme YIKES
I agree with you however, I think it's important to keep in mind the levels that people go to, to rationalize supporting him. To us we see supporting him as being a piece of shit. Others will tell themselves anything to justify supporting him as being ok. I'm not saying that's ok and you are probably mostly right.Trump is a big litmus test over whether or not you're a piece of shit.
My cousin cut my mom off for this reason, though I personally think that's a bit harsh (so far, we'll see how bad it gets). Her response: "could you believe he'd do that just cause of a difference of opinion? That's what's wrong with the world, no one respects anyone's opinions anymore."
Unfortunately mother, your opinions are a reflection of who you are.
But I still love them and it would take a lot more than my dad watching Fox news to cut them out of my life.