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Is it weird to speak too formally?
- Thread starter Umbrella Carp
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If you speak a different native language than english: have that on a high proficiency level but follow the KISS rule for english. Keep it simple, stupid.
You can raise your conversation level anytime if you notice that the other persons are also communicating on a higher level, otherwise: KISS.
You can raise your conversation level anytime if you notice that the other persons are also communicating on a higher level, otherwise: KISS.
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I have been known to use "whilst", but not in spoken terms. "Methinks" not in a million years.
Let me stop you right there, agree to disagree that "your family members are idiots" is a "perceived" insult, and go our own separate ways. OK?
Scruples have more to do with ethics and morals. Meticulous is a word with pretty specific meaning. Fastidious comes close, but isn't the same thing, and is also just as verbose.
Anyway meticulous is a pretty common word.
He made this thread asking for input. It's not that deep.
See, this is yet another example of your defensiveness and inability to acknowledge your own fallibility.
Of course that person was going to say it the way you did... look at all your dismissal and posturing ITT after ASKING for feedback.
Throughout this thread you have been posturing and dismissing honest attempts to explore this with you, an
They asked for feedback... and didn't like it when their own fallibility was highlighted.
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I made this thread asking for opinions, not to be diagnosed with autism by some rude armchair psychologist.
jfc... you ASKED us for feedback, but you really didn't want it.
And PLENTY of us did that honestly, and you just arrogantly dismissed it.
Most people don't use a diverse lexicon of english words, so if every time they see you, you are spouting off words they need to take a thesaurus out for, they may think you are condescending or pretentious or something. It is an uncommon thing, so first judgements will not be in your favor most of the time.
Think of it like when you talk to someone who understands (example) music theory vs someone who doesn't and so would be unfamiliar with a lot of the lingo. It is off putting to have someone rattle off things you have little understanding of, and can even feel alienating as they don't know how to engage with you.
Think of it like when you talk to someone who understands (example) music theory vs someone who doesn't and so would be unfamiliar with a lot of the lingo. It is off putting to have someone rattle off things you have little understanding of, and can even feel alienating as they don't know how to engage with you.
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Look, you don't know me, so lets not pretend that I have to agree with you. And frankly I don't. So I'm not sure what you want me to say to you. This is ResetEra, not a committee meeting at Oxford.
That's not what I said btw. I said they must be stupider or less well read than the average person if they are impressed by the word meticulous. OP has already stated they are less well read/intelligent than he is, and he doesn't seem more intelligent/well read than the average person, so again, I don't see the problem. Maybe stupider isn't the best word choice because it has a negative connotation, but the intent of my post was to point out I don't think OP is as smart as he thinks he is, not that I'm trying to insult his family, who I don't even know. I have nothing to go on other than the fact that they have trouble with words like inebriated and meticulous, and endocrinologist.
Let me stop you right there, putting quotation marks around something doesn't make it a quote....it's not what was in the post was it?
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Pretty sure people only asked if you happened to be on the spectrum except this person who supposedly came to your "defense"
But here's my opinion: it has nothing to do with your vocabulary. You're arrogant and think you're smarter than others. The people coming to your defense identify with this, and I can easily see why judging from their posts in this thread. Birds of a feather.
You have PROVEN these things via your own responses ITT.
You don't have to agree with me... all you have done is dismiss my points arrogantly and defensively and not engage in any kind of critique. There has been no ROOM for disagreement, lol, you haven't even given us the chance to.
Also this forum is more than adequate to discuss these things, suggesting it's not is more of your weird posturing.
There's been dozens of threads where the same user gets called out for their pretentious, the last one was this one:
It's crazy how often it happens. lol
Like, just read through these.
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How am I supposed to critique something like that right this moment? It is hardly a simple issue clearly. One persons vocabulary is another persons annoyance, even if you didn't mean it that way.
And we've already covered that, but the fact is it also came with critiques of your own infallibility which you didn't like very much at all.
Input =/= help. He asked for input, and was given input. What he does with that is his own business. Assuming he needs "help" is quite a leap.
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Exactly, and it was actually said politely and succinctly.
Welcome to my personal hell as a young adult in Hungary.
Where some 50 year old you just met will get offended if you won't address him/her casually but you must address your university instructor formally even if they're just a couple years older and you even share other classes as students.
Don't even get me started on guessing how to say hi to which cashier based on time of day, their age and gender.
Where some 50 year old you just met will get offended if you won't address him/her casually but you must address your university instructor formally even if they're just a couple years older and you even share other classes as students.
Don't even get me started on guessing how to say hi to which cashier based on time of day, their age and gender.
You didn't read my posts properly at all.
Again, I don't deserve a response. You're free to ignore them.
Your arrogant dismissal of points and refusal to explore the very thing you asked for feedbacdk on is the issue here.
I'm genuinely confused as to what the point of making the thread was, then...
Except they have, more than once if you actually go back and read the thread.
In any event, I'm not accusing the OP of being on the spectrum. (I'm not accusing the OP of anything, as others here are, except of being misunderstood.) I am, however, accusing people of responding out of pique rather than empathy. For why else instantly and automatically judge the OP as some snobbish asshole vs entertaining the possibility that he is neurodivergent? (Ass)umptions are flying right and left in this thread, purely from insecurity, rather than making the tiny effort of putting aside ego for a minute in favor of a little empathy.
IMO, more than a little disingenuous of you, one of the people belittling the OP accusing me, practically the sole poster coming to his defense, of doing same. Not cool. 👎
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Discussion? Does it need to be anything else on a discussion forum?
I mean lets be real here. This is a play by play of the thread.
Ask's question about use of language, provides examples that reflect more on social circles intelligence than their own
People tell you as much
Some people (WHO ARE ON THE SPECTRUM AND CAN RECOGNIZE SYMPTOMS) suggest the possibility maybe you could be.
You double down with how superior your average intellect is
Get called out again
Get mad and hostile towards members
Tell mods to lock thread because "attacks" on your families intelligence is somehow worse than you categorizing the masses as low intellect
Get angry and hostile again at people because "ets not pretend that I have to agree with you"
Honestly it seems you wanted your ego stroking for using "inebriated"....
Bad luck I guess. You clearly don't want talk about it.
Something you have dismissed the opportunity to do at almost every turn.
Right...
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Okay, so this has all been an elaborate troll.
Jfc... well played.
OP how did you think a thread like this was going to go? You had to have some inkling that people were going to be rubbed the wrong way lol
It's because you're arrogant, ignorant, dismissive and hostile
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Unbelievable, I respond to hostility with hostility and automatically become the problem.
It's all about context. Who you're speaking to, for what occasion, matters. Spoken and written language are fundamentally different. If you always speak formally, it'll communicate formality. No one will ever get the sense that you feel familiar with them if there isn't some vernacular in there. Uncommon words have more impact if they remain uncommon, used when their difference from the most common phrasing makes some actual impact on meaning beyond just sounding fancy.
The problem with adding critique is that it can be construed as condescending, and that is not conducive to discussion. I think the OP is smart enough to evaluate his own habits. He just wanted opinions on how it can come across because it is hard to tell some times how you yourself appear to others.
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I don't know, I guess I expect a more, and I'm terrified to say the word, mature conversation? Rather than just shit slinging and hurt egos. I didn't start any of this.
Language isn't really ever good or bad. It's more a question of effectiveness.
academic English is a specialized means of communication that is not effective in many social or informal settings
(I teach college composition)
academic English is a specialized means of communication that is not effective in many social or informal settings
(I teach college composition)
You can't be serious....if not, good troll. If you are genuinely stumped as to how this has gone the way it has I don't know what to tell you
If you're not trolling, you are not as smart as you think you are, and you are very arrogant and incapable of taking honest feedback.
And you really need to take that on board.
It's less about your word choice and more about your tone and presentation. You can speak however as long as you don't come off as awful to be around.
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Let me latch on to this one cause this is interesting, cause I sometimes feel like saying "Yeah, my Dad was like..." rather than "Yeah, my Father was like..." would feel really awkward. Is there something to that?
Reading comprehension is not your strong suit, is it?
Actually, I'm sure in most cases, you read and comprehend just fine. Just not when you're feeling your ego tweaked by how someone happened to awkwardly phrase their remarks.
In any event, I have already addressed your bullshit accusation above.
For the record, I don't ever set out to live rent-free in anyone's head. Although it's quite flattering when I manage to anyway, lol.There's been dozens of threads where the same user gets called out for their pretentious, the last one was this one:
It's crazy how often it happens. lol
Like, just read through these.
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