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Is it Appropriate to Wear Traditional Indian Dress (e.g. Sari or Sherwanis) to an Indian Wedding as a Non-Indian?
- Thread starter FliX
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In my experience, first-gen Indians (immigrants) are really enthusiastic about non-Indians showing up to weddings in Indian dress. You'd only maybe get side eye from second-gens, but that's very unlikely at a wedding especially.
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Because you don't want to piss off strangers from the internet instead of actual people from that culture.
I guess.
Yeah I'm brown, go for it and have fun. Kurta's more comfy than suits.
Practice holding your clothes up when using the bathroom lol
Practice holding your clothes up when using the bathroom lol
I mean, the bride and groom being okay with something isn't necessarily a guarantee that this something is okay. (Imagine if you were invited to a wedding of Trump supporters. Would you really seek their opinions on things?)
BUT, in this case, it is indeed okay.
BUT, in this case, it is indeed okay.
I can't speak for the OP, but it seems like it's an attempt to understand what other guests at the wedding may think/feel, so as not to make life more difficult for the bride and groom if it was contentious.
I have never seen this gif. His mannerisms scream "50 something uncle"
Probably the same people offended by Mario wearing a sombrero.
you dont think im more important that the bride and groom on their wedding day? they should be asking me permission to proceed with the entire event
Yes
Expertise: have attended 3 Indian weddings, wore formal Indian clothes to two of them, I am not Indian. The one I didn't wear formal Indian clothes to was their 'American wedding,' where they wore "American clothes" as did all of the guests minus handful of American relatives relatives. They then went back to India to have their "Indian wedding." Rentals were fucking expensive. ~$700 outside Boston from ... I don't even know, a person's house in Waltham. I don't know what it's called, but I rented slacks, and a long decorative men's jacket, shoes, under shirt.
Expertise: have attended 3 Indian weddings, wore formal Indian clothes to two of them, I am not Indian. The one I didn't wear formal Indian clothes to was their 'American wedding,' where they wore "American clothes" as did all of the guests minus handful of American relatives relatives. They then went back to India to have their "Indian wedding." Rentals were fucking expensive. ~$700 outside Boston from ... I don't even know, a person's house in Waltham. I don't know what it's called, but I rented slacks, and a long decorative men's jacket, shoes, under shirt.
If you're asked to, it's definitely fine. I think it is likely fine even if you aren't because of the occasion but I would just double check first.
I'd relax and enjoy. It is the bride and groom's day and if they are okay with it, that is all that should matter.
Every single part of this post is correct, especially the last bit.
This, It's appropriate and if you have any questions a brown friend can guide you through what to get/wear. I've been to brown events/ceremonies where non brown friends came and asked me what to wear. It's not a big deal at all and happens all the time.
I'm Indian from India...yes do it.
Unlike a lot of other cultures, Indians like it when others dress in our clothing. Even as a daily wear. I know this white English girl who wore Salwar as a daily wear for like 4 years while we were in uni in UK, no one took offence and people liked it...and she looked beautiful!
Until she stopped wearing it one day and when I asked why she told me that another girl (a white girl) told her that she was appropriating and found it offensive..And I was like...lol.
Unlike a lot of other cultures, Indians like it when others dress in our clothing. Even as a daily wear. I know this white English girl who wore Salwar as a daily wear for like 4 years while we were in uni in UK, no one took offence and people liked it...and she looked beautiful!
Until she stopped wearing it one day and when I asked why she told me that another girl (a white girl) told her that she was appropriating and found it offensive..And I was like...lol.
As South Asian (not Indian), I see absolutely no reason not to wear or ESPECIALLY SINCE THE BRIDE AND GROOM ARE OK... Enjoy the wedding.
Maybe they don't like Indian dress even on Indian people lol
We were in the same position and had the same dilemma and the bride and groom were the ones who let us borrow theirs and taught us how to wear the garments. What anyone else says in this event makes no difference.
Would you mind if I ask why? I'm not really familiar with either garment (had to google panjabis and lungi before knowing which type garment was which) but why is one frowned upon and one not? The lungi looks decidedly less formal to me, but why is it then frowned upon when non Indians use it as compared to the more fancy garments? Is it a class thing or is there a more historical reason? The overwhelming consensus in the thread seems to be positive towards formal wear, but it seems the lungi is a definite nono? .
Indian here.
Depends on the family. Close friends and family? They'll love it. My aunt married a white guy and his family totally got into the indian outfits. It's whatever YOU feel comfortable wearing.
Depends on the family. Close friends and family? They'll love it. My aunt married a white guy and his family totally got into the indian outfits. It's whatever YOU feel comfortable wearing.
Whatever the bride and groom want is the answer.
Their wedding, abide by their customs.
I agree. I can think of several times in my life when someone wanted to share their culture with others, then some random white person felt like they had to step in and gatekeep for them. It was bizarre.
