Nah you've still got two years to go kiddo.
Nah you've still got two years to go kiddo.
Eh not sure I agree 21-23 are not biologically adultsThis isn't even controversial, but it has come up in other threads too, and I'm always surprised that people react so strongly against it. Sure, from a cultural aspect we are used to viewing an 18-year old as an adult, but that's a norm, and nothing else. It doesn't mean that the brain will be biologically fully mature at that point.
I don't view anyone under 25 as fully adult, because biologically they aren't. And yes, there are some very mature 18-year olds out there. It still doesn't mean they're finished yet.
Either that, or your self awareness still isn't fully developed.🙃
Yeah I'm just not okay with an adult that's interested in dating a teenager that's barely entering adulthood. Sorry about that. There's a fundamental power dynamic imbalance that's just not right.
This isn't even controversial, but it has come up in other threads too, and I'm always surprised that people react so strongly against it. Sure, from a cultural aspect we are used to viewing an 18-year old as an adult, but that's a norm, and nothing else. It doesn't mean that the brain will be biologically fully mature at that point.
I don't view anyone under 25 as fully adult, because biologically they aren't. And yes, there are some very mature 18-year olds out there. It still doesn't mean they're finished yet.
I refuse to believe you literally believe this.
Unless you believe a 19 year should not be tried for murder.
Unless you believe a 19-year-old who lost their parents should go to an orphanage
Unless you believe a 19 year old needs to be accompanied by a parent or guardian in order to get a passport.
you do not believe that a 19 year old is a Children.
You think people outside this forum would think this is normal? If anything OP has MORE support here.
Omg I'm deadOP, pursue a relationship that could make you happy.
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Get the approval of the 43% of Era who might think you're a creep, without knowing anything about you or your life. A forum which has frequent threads with people trying to figure out the proper way to wipe their ass.
I guess we should also have issues with people under the age of 25 marrying other people under the age of 25 because science shows they clearly don't know what they are getting into. The world would be a very different place if people waited until the age of 25 to make those kinds of decisions. I'd argue many of us wouldn't even be here.
The funniest thing about ERA is how sometimes, one side of an issue thinks they're the normal side as opposed to ERA personified.
It takes a mere few seconds to Google and find out things like "most couples have smaller age gaps" and "couples with smaller age gaps are likely to report more satisfaction," but no.
Like, feel free to do what y'all want that's not illegal! I've really just been on here correcting misinformation & providing evidence because it's entertaining; my first post was the main thing I think about the subject.
That said, being pedantic: It's just a pet peeve when the weird side thinks they're not the weird side.
It's also a forum where 30 year old adults ask if it's ok to date teenagers.OP, pursue a relationship that could make you happy.
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Get the approval of the 43% of Era who might think you're a creep, without knowing anything about you or your life. A forum which has frequent threads with people trying to figure out the proper way to wipe their ass.
He's like the 20th person in this thread who has said this. These people have no reality. 19 is an adult. They can do whatever they want in life on their in the US except drink alcohol. Anywhere else in the world that doesn't even apply.I refuse to believe you literally believe this.
Unless you believe a 19 year should not be tried for murder.
Unless you believe a 19-year-old who lost their parents should go to an orphanage
Unless you believe a 19 year old needs to be accompanied by a parent or guardian in order to get a passport.
you do not believe that a 19 year old is a Children.
If both have more or less the same age they are growing together, one doesn't has a big advantage over the other.
And the majority of marriages end in divorce anyway, so yeah, most don't know what they're doing.
I'm not talking about the law I'm calling out your belief that a 19 year old is a child.People under 18 are tried for murder all the time. But I don't think your examples are good metrics for determining whether or not someone is an adult, because of what I said previously.
This is not about legality it never was. Is about the poster beliefs. If the poster literally believes a 19 year old to be in their own words a Child. Then the poster should not draw the line at age gap when dating. But should also be advocating for 19 year olds to lose all of the adult privileges and responsibilites.What is legal and what is moral are often not necessarily the same? And it's not like every person has a switch in their brain that magically flips on their 18th birthday. The law is just a shorthand that applies to people broadly because it has to, but different aspects of development mature at different ages. Recent studies show that rationing parts of the brain don't complete development until 25, for example.
All this research people throwing around about brains at 25. Men aren't fully mature until 30. Women are generally 10 years ahead of an equally aged man in maturity.
Even people at the same age can come from very different backgrounds and have different life experiences. A 20 yr old that grew up in a warzone probably has a different life perspective than a 20 yr old that grew up in Orange County. They still might hit it off regardless. Another 20 yr old might have skipped college to start their own business and now is a billionaire. Are they then not allowed to date the 20 yr old they met that was working at the local grocery store? Two people being on equal footing probably isn't all that common regardless of their age.
Threads like this make me question everything I thought I knew about Resetera.
Thank you for making mine and my wife's day with this post.OP, pursue a relationship that could make you happy.
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Get the approval of the 43% of Era who might think you're a creep, without knowing anything about you or your life. A forum which has frequent threads with people trying to figure out the proper way to wipe their ass.
OP, pursue a relationship that could make you happy.
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Get the approval of the 43% of Era who might think you're a creep, without knowing anything about you or your life. A forum which has frequent threads with people trying to figure out the proper way to wipe their ass.
I know this is blunt but this thread has gotten kind of uncomfortable and I'm tired of people glossing over why they would think this is a good idea.
I'm not talking about the law I'm calling out your belief that a 19 year old is a child.
If you personally believe that a 19 year old should not drive, smoke, live alone, If you believe that a 19 year old criminal should go to Juvie. Then yeah YOU believe that a 19 year old is just a children.
If you are going to call someone a child then consistent think of them as children in every aspect not just in judging their dating lives.
This is not about legality it never was. Is about the poster beliefs. If the poster literally believes a 19 year old to be in their own words a Child. Then the poster should not draw the line at age gap when dating. But should also be advocating for 19 year olds to lose all of the adult privileges and responsibilites.
The funny thing about this post is:OP, pursue a relationship that could make you happy.
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Get the approval of the 43% of Era who might think you're a creep, without knowing anything about you or your life. A forum which has frequent threads with people trying to figure out the proper way to wipe their ass.
It's truly bizarre and disturbing seeing the disingenuous whataboutism being used in this thread to try to deflect from the creepiness of dating a teenager in your late 20s.
Yeah, it's weird.This thread has only made me more confident that most people absolutely shouldn't do this shit.
I know you may not be specifically responding to the OP in this case but do keep in mind the OP is ace and stated there's gonna be no fucking going on.It's uncomfortable to see some posters go this hard in defense of why 30-year-olds should be able to fuck teens.
The funniest thing about ERA is how sometimes, one side of an issue thinks they're the normal side as opposed to ERA personified.
It takes a mere few seconds to Google and find out things like "most couples have smaller age gaps" and "couples with smaller age gaps are likely to report more satisfaction," but no.
Like, feel free to do what y'all want that's not illegal! I've really just been on here correcting misinformation & providing evidence because it's entertaining; my first post was the main thing I think about the subject.
That said, being pedantic: It's just a pet peeve when the weird side thinks they're not the weird side.
Mentioned it a few pages ago, but I think OP's scenario is a lot less problematic than the "She's 18 so she's legal" and "grooming is just a buzzword" opinions some people have shared.I know you may not be specifically responding to the OP in this case but do keep in mind the OP is ace and stated there's gonna be no fucking going on.
I'm asking them personally if they believe a 19 year old should drive. I'm not asking a broader question if a 19 year old person should drive.Within the same post you're saying "this isn't about the law" and "so a 19 year old shouldn't be able to drive?"
Yeah? and how would you measure mental competency and maturity? At some point we have to take a leap of faith and assume that people past a certain age will MOST LIKELY have enough competency and maturity to deal with strong responsibilities and the consequences of their actions.The law ideally s shouldn't hate the ability to drive beyond age but instead be based on competency and mental maturity. Similarly with legal responsibility and everything else. But that's too much work on the government's part, which is why they just set an age limit to make things simple.
Yeah lolI know you may not be specifically responding to the OP in this case but do keep in mind the OP is ace and stated there's gonna be no fucking going on.
I don't see how this matters. Coples with the same religious beliefs are most likely to succeed and guaranteed to have less friction in their marriage. Yet I doubt anyone here would use statistics to try to dissuade a person from dating someone from a different religious background.It takes a mere few seconds to Google and find out things like "most couples have smaller age gaps" and "couples with smaller age gaps are likely to report more satisfaction," but no.
Wait.... so now is wrong for a consenting adult to have sex with an older person?It's uncomfortable to see some posters go this hard in defense of why 30-year-olds should be able to fuck teens.
And any time you start talking about "oh she's so mature for a 19 year old" or "we have so much in common" it's just….what? People literally only say these things to justify wanting to bang a teenager. Are people in this thread stupid?
I'm not talking about the law I'm calling out your belief that a 19 year old is a child.
If you personally believe that a 19 year old should not drive, smoke, live alone, If you believe that a 19 year old criminal should go to Juvie. Then yeah YOU believe that a 19 year old is just a children.
If you are going to call someone a child then consistent think of them as children in every aspect not just in judging their dating lives.
This is not about legality it never was. Is about the poster beliefs. If the poster literally believes a 19 year old to be in their own words a Child. Then the poster should not draw the line at age gap when dating. But should also be advocating for 19 year olds to lose all of the adult privileges and responsibilites.
What if an 19 year old hires a 30 year old prostitute (assuming they live in a place where it is legal) should they refuse their services to adults with too big of an age gap?
My dudeWhat if an 19 year old hires a 30 year old prostitute (assuming they live in a place where it is legal) should they refuse their services to adults with too big of an age gap?
Who is supporting that?No, not really. If anything I'd peg the people who are arguing in support of an 18 year old dating a 14 yr old as the ones that probably fit in that camp.
No they are not.
I mean yeah that's forcing a child into a marriage.For all the "it's fine because it's legal" people, how do you feel about child brides in the states where that is legal?
What if one is an 87-year-old Dúnedain getting together with a 2,700-year-old elf?What if a 100 years old prostitute has a 57 years old client, though