I don't see how in anyway shape or form this relationship can last. It was built on a foundation of mistrust. You're better off just ending it and moving on.
Then i think I will ask her if she ever hears from people she used to talk to that she agreed to block or if she has considered re adding those people to her life.
Nah, I'd say 90% of Era relationship threads result in people chastising/dunking on OP for being insecure and invading their partners privacy. The OP's are usually so cagey and obviously one sided.Every relationship thread on ERA is the same.
"My SO said something mildly concerning the other day, what gives?"
"SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU!"
"SHE FOUND NEW DICK! HIT THE GYM!"
I'm glad this is no different.
Honestly, OP relationships are hard. Five years is a long time, sometimes your relationship will hit a valley and feel like it isn't going anywhere. Sometimes it will seem like you or your partner don't have the same feelings for each other. You just have to talk about it, be open. Communicate. If something is bothering you bring it up and work it out. That's how you start to fix all these things, don't go straight to the nuclear option.
picture of the girlfriend's old friend. added to the pictures they have of themselves on the side table.
If she gets mad at you when you ask (don't accuse), get out of the relationship.
I'm heading home right now and I think I'll ask her how shes feeling about our relationship in general and what she thinks has gotten better and what has gotten worse. Then i think I will ask her if she ever hears from people she used to talk to that she agreed to block or if she has considered re adding those people to her life.
"If"???
Dude she's gonna get pissed the moment he brings it up because she'll know he was snooping. You don't just bring that shit up out of nowhere.
The fact that you already crossed the line to snooping, means that no matter what it is done. Whether she is or isn't A) you will never believe it or trust it and B) you will always know that you crossed that line. There is never ever ever an excuse. You will not just talk to her straight out about your concerns which is very telling yet you come on here knowing how most of these threads go.I've been with this person for nearly 5 years. In the first year of our relationship we had trust issues that needed to be ironed out. We made a mutual decision to remove anyone that we've had any romantic connection or interest in from social media.
Well I've noticed my partner is a little more emotionally distant than usual. I logged into instagram and noticed that someone she had agreed to unfollow and did all those years ago was back on her list and she was following him back. I also noticed there were other men there that she had untagged photos of herself in Facebook with him in it. She had unfriended him on Facebook and instagram and yet, here I see that hes back on her Instagram and shes following him again. Same with another guy.
I've been cheated on before in another relationship and I'm getting the same feeling I had back then. Am I just over reacting? I'm genuinely having a hard time concentrating. It seems so trivial, but I cannot shake this bad feeling and I cannot concentrate.
Edit: I had also noticed before I left for work this morning that she had left herself logged in on facebook and I clicked her recent searches tab and it was empty. I clicked to see the search history and it seemed quite obvious that she'd been clearing her data. Something she actually accused me of doing years ago and I had apologized and stopped doing. I felt bad for looking and promptly logged out, but it didnt do any thing to assuage these feelings.
And that will be a classic deflection move."If"???
Dude she's gonna get pissed the moment he brings it up because she'll know he was snooping. You don't just bring that shit up out of nowhere.
maybe it's just me but if my partner ever did something like this it would be a huge red flag to me that they were the one up to something.
This is hyperbolic. So far nothing has happened that is cause to instantly dust a 5 year relationship.The fact that the trust is completely gone and you're checking their history without permission means it's over either way.
This is hyperbolic. So far nothing has happened that is cause to instantly dust a 5 year relationship.
It could be the beginning of the end, but they need to discuss it.
She will obviously deny it, as you said its been 5 years she probably sees OP as the person who will always be there no matter what, a backup in a sense.
Yes he should, pretty sure relationships have survived worse than that before though.He should bring up the fact the he's checking her history.
Let's see how that works out.
Ignore people like this who can't see anything but their own projections, though.She will obviously deny it, as you said its been 5 years she probably sees OP as the person who will always be there no matter what, a backup in a sense.
What you described is a huge red flag, I feel you OP.
Good luck.
in a thread of bad advice, this has gotta be the worseStart following your ex flames again. If she's cheating, she's probably snooping on you.
Relationship threads on Era really shouldn't surprise me any more, but they still usually find a way.in a thread of bad advice, this has gotta be the worse
a lot of y'all seem to be getting relationships mixed up with, like, one-on-one cold wars
Damn it aint THAT SERIOUSThe fact that the trust is completely gone and you're checking their history without permission means it's over either way.
Damn it aint THAT SERIOUS
Motherfuckers will KILL someone if they hit fucking ctrl+h on accident on their browser
Yes he should, pretty sure relationships have survived worse than that before though.
Ignore people like this who can't see anything but their own projections, though.
in a thread of bad advice, this has gotta be the worse
a lot of y'all seem to be getting relationships mixed up with, like, one-on-one cold wars
did i say you were being sincere?Yeah genius, I am being completely sincere in my relationship advice concerning two people I've never met.
In the first year of our relationship we had trust issues that needed to be ironed out.