If a friend asks you what you think of their baby's name, and you dislike it, do you tell them the truth or do you lie?

[AuthenticM]

So in this scenario, the people in question are your friends or colleagues. You have some relationship with them, and you see them regularly or semi-regularly.

They just got a new baby, and they gave it a name that you find ugly, an opinion that of course, you keep to yourself. But THEN, to your horror, they ask you directly: "What do you think of this name? Is it a good name? Did I mess up?" You think the name is ugly and you think that they messed up.

Are you honest or do you lie?

 

[Okabe]

I just say oh that's a unique name.

 

[julia crawford]

You calling me a liar sir

 

[abellwillring]

You gotta lie. The die has been cast.

 

[nsilvias]

be honest. they'll not like the response but they asked you a question

 

[Sanka]

I don't give much of a shit about names. It's like who cares. But if it actually is an ugly name that would make me question their sanity than I would tell em. Cause that would have to be a weird fucking name.

 

[Tuorom]

Depends on the name.

Is it like, their kid will be bullied? Then yea I'll say something

If I just don't like it, then I don't care I won't say anything.

 

[PopcornMegaphone]

If asked, I might give a tactful opinion BEFORE the baby is born, but there is no way I would criticize the name AFTER the baby is born. What's done is done.

 

[Swiggins]

Lie.

It's not like their gonna change the kids name. Also, names typically grow on you over time.

 

[Spring-Loaded]

"We're thinking of 'Rectum.' What do you think?"

 

[Seesaw15]

If its just a matter of taste I lie. If its absurd I'll say something.

 

[Deleted member 27938]

"ohhhh, so cute!"

response for any name given, regardless

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If its just a matter of taste I lie. If its absurd I'll say something.

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good point I didn't think of that. yeah if it's absurd or potentially problem causing, I will say something

 

[Coen]

I would be, and have been, honest without being downright insensitive. Nothing wrong with politely telling someone you don't really like the name. We've named our daughter 'Ida' and multiple people have stated they feel its old fashioned. But that's exactly why we like it.

 

[CapNBritain]

Jesus I just revealed my upcoming baby's name on our virtual baby shower over the weekend...

 

[Powdered Egg]

I have seen someone bust out laughing when an expecting parent asked them this question. LOL it pissed the hell out of the new parent.

 

[Deleted member 721]

I use the Tell tale option to stay quiet.

 

[SilkySm00th]

We named our youngest Riot and my parents had like the two polar opposite reactions while still being great parents:
Dad: "Well she'll never get confused with anyone at school! I like it! You know you're dooming yourself to a crazy kiddo right! hahaha anyways how are you..."

Mom: "Oohhh Riot? That's so unique. So we also liked Sarah's idea of Eden or Rusa...."
Me: "Pretty sure we settled on Riot, mum."
Mom: "Well whatever you pick i'm sure it'll be just perfect, i'm so excited!!"

LoL like ok lady i hear you. Still named her Riot :-D

 

[Maxim726x]

"We're thinking of 'Rectum." What do you think?"

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Damn near killed im.

 

[Messofanego]

People not being honest is how we ended up with Elon Musk's, West's and other dumb celeb's kids names.

Don't you want to prevent disasters?

Of course if they've already made the name legal, then it's much harder to change.

 

[El_TigroX]

Unless there's some direct thing like their initials say CUM or ASS, you smile and go "Oh, is it a family name?" and then you keep moving.

 

[Human Resources]

if it's already on a birth certificate or is shared with a dead relative, lie

and make sure to give little Turok all your love and support

 

[hjort]

I lie. Unless they name their kid Hitler or Metal Gear Rising: Revengeance or some shit there's no reason for me to voice a negative opinion on what they choose to name them.

 

[Couleurs]

If they're asking, they're obviously insecure about the decision and nothing good will come out of saying you don't like the name. Especially if the baby is named after a dear relative or someone equally as important to them.

 

[Zombine]

 

[Jedi2016]

I would probably only go as far as saying "Eh, it's a little weird", and leave it at that. If it's something that might cause problems for the kid later in life (school, etc), I might mention it. I couldn't really see myself saying it's outright "ugly", though.

 

[Pein]

I wanna say I'd tell them but my cousin went with aiden as a name and the other went logan and basically everybody goes with bland ass popular names.

my cousin is pregnant and she's going with mason, like wow, so creative and different.

 

[Rosebud]

I lie because it could be his grandma name or whatever, you never know.

 

[fluffydelusions]

 

[ascii42]

I'm having trouble imagining someone asking me my opinion on a name that's already been finalized.

 

[Grapezard]

No judgment unless it's something the kid would get teased over. My childhood friend was named Cactus, so I know it's a thing.

 

[Tobor]

The people voting 'tell the truth" are lying. Come on, get real.

 

[Deleted member 21709]

Tell us the name OP.

No judgment unless it's something the kid would get teased over. My childhood friend was named Cactus, so I know it's a thing.

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Thats a really cool name actually!

 

[Aurica]

I don't lie. I haven't lied in many years, and I would only consider lying if it were to protect someone from serious and undeserved harm. I'd tell them if I didn't like it, but I doubt I'd have strong feelings about it to the extent that it would hurt them, anyway.

The people voting 'tell the truth" are lying. Come on, get real.

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Nope.

 

[sir_crocodile]

If it's like Kale Brecken or something I'd just laugh in their face

 

[thecowboypoet]

A few years ago, my friend Josh told me he was naming his song JJ, as in, Josh Jr. I had a good laugh and we moved on. In the weeks before his baby was born I asked if they had settled on a name and he said "yeah I told you, JJ". I told him "no come on, what's the name?". Again, he said "JJ". I felt a bit like a jerk. My advice to anyone is to just say "Oh that's so interesting" and move on. Unless it's family, maybe.

 

[Deleted member 21709]

I don't lie. I haven't lied in many years, and I would only consider lying if it were to protect someone from serious and undeserved harm. I'd tell them if I didn't like it, but I doubt I'd have strong feelings about it to the extend that it would hurt them, anyway.

Nope.

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Surely you lie! I don't think I can trust someone that doesn't lie.

 

[Tobor]

I don't lie. I haven't lied in many years, and I would only consider lying if it were to protect someone from serious and undeserved harm. I'd tell them if I didn't like it, but I doubt I'd have strong feelings about it to the extend that it would hurt them, anyway.

Nope.

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I still don't believe you. Lol. More power to you though.

For me, life is too short to piss people off for something that doesn't matter.

 

[Weltall Zero]

All my friends know not to ask me questions if what they're looking for is insincere validation, so it's unlikely I'd be asked this about a name that's already set in stone. I'd probably make upon hearing it anyway:

... so any further explanation would be redundant. :D

 

[CopyOfACopy]

 

[RiOrius]

I'm gonna be tactful, but I'll express some reservations. Something like "eh, not my favorite" or "honestly, it's a bit old-fashioned, IMO."

 

[AndyD]

I think it depends on name. I maybe don't call it an "ugly" name like you said, but perhaps mention why it bothers me. This is one I heard recently: "Rafe, interesting name. Not sure I like it, it sounds too much like rape." Easy, honest, done. It's not being ugly about it, it's being honest and constructive as they may not think about the implications.

 

[GK86]

 

[TheMadTitan]

I'm the asshole they keep around, they'd expect me to tell them the truth, so they'd hear it if I thought the name was shitty.

 

[Haunted]

Ugly is so damn subjective, who the fuck are you to say that the name someone else chose is "ugly".

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?

Like yeah, Strunk is a bit out there, but "ugly"?

C'mon.

 

[Skies]

I'm a parent of two children. If I directly asked you what you thought of a name, I would imagine I wanted an honest answer.

Now if you asked me what my one of kid's name were, I said "blank" and you replied with "that's an awful name" or "you should have named him/her..." then that would be insulting.

 

[Grapezard]

Tell us the name OP.



Thats a really cool name actually!

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Lol, unfortunately not to the middle schoolers who wouldn't let it go. 'Cac' almost sounds like another word, if you get me.

 

[NickatNite]

If I dislike it, I wouldn't say anything. But, if it's something stupid, then I would speak up.

 

[T-800]

When people ask for your opinion in my experience they never mean it. They just want you to agree with them.

 

[kirby_fox]

"I wouldn't use it for my kid, but if you like it and it doesn't hurt anyone, who cares?"

But I also have boring friends who would choose common names.

 

[Aurica]

Surely you lie! I don't think I can trust someone that doesn't lie.

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Haha. I rarely tell people irl that I don't lie, because nobody believes it, ironically enough.

I still don't believe you. Lol. More power to you though.

For me, life is too short to piss people off for something that doesn't matter.

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This is exactly why I typically only tell close friends that I don't lie. Nobody else is likely to believe it. The thing for me is that I don't have a lot of thoughts that would hurt people, so I don't have to worry too much that speaking my mind will upset them (unless they're shitty people, in which case I don't care). I doubt I'd be bothered enough by a name to care.