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I was sexually assaulted last night
- Thread starter Nothing Loud
- Start date
Terrible to hear and it sounds like a mean violent rape here. About the consent education, that's a problem but also some people certainly find their pleasure in assault and "stealing" someone else, and even violence. You're not going to educate those ones. This is basically evil sex.
The show "I may destroy you" talks about different kind of rape, when this can be more ambiguous let's say. I'm sure tones of shit happens between guys with problem regarding consent at different levels. That's on education then probably.
As a top i learned to be careful about that cause in horny situations there is some sort of natural role play involved and you're meant to show some determination at some point. The other guy expect that, BUT you always always want to be sure your determination doesn't pressure him into doing it. That's why i don't like to plein ask for it, cause, even if it's not going to be seen as rape, you can really easily have a guy being like "ho ok let's go haha" cause he doesn't want to break the flow or he wants to please you. He may also not like it at all after that and being like "haha sure no prob go on haha" so really it's always about being super careful about that and asking sometimes many times and all that. I find the best is still to wait for the bottom to initiate.
Anyway i hope it's not tone depth to talk about those issues there. Cause OP's incident is not about consent culture i think it's plein evil barbaric shit.
The show "I may destroy you" talks about different kind of rape, when this can be more ambiguous let's say. I'm sure tones of shit happens between guys with problem regarding consent at different levels. That's on education then probably.
As a top i learned to be careful about that cause in horny situations there is some sort of natural role play involved and you're meant to show some determination at some point. The other guy expect that, BUT you always always want to be sure your determination doesn't pressure him into doing it. That's why i don't like to plein ask for it, cause, even if it's not going to be seen as rape, you can really easily have a guy being like "ho ok let's go haha" cause he doesn't want to break the flow or he wants to please you. He may also not like it at all after that and being like "haha sure no prob go on haha" so really it's always about being super careful about that and asking sometimes many times and all that. I find the best is still to wait for the bottom to initiate.
Anyway i hope it's not tone depth to talk about those issues there. Cause OP's incident is not about consent culture i think it's plein evil barbaric shit.
It took a lot of courage for you to share this OP. There is nothing anyone could do to justify this behavior. I hope that guy gets what he deserves very soon. I also hope you stay safe medically.
I'm so sorry this happened to you, OP. The guy sounds like a real monster. I'm really glad you had the courage to speak up about it and that your partners have your back.
You'll get through this and we're all here for you too if you need any help.
You'll get through this and we're all here for you too if you need any help.
This makes me physically ill but I'm glad you were able to share your story with us OP. Please let us know if there's anything we can do to help.
I'm so sorry OP. You're extremely brave, and I hope the bastard gets a big serving of justice. {hugs}
Ditto. I'm so sorry this happened to you, OP.
I wouldn't fault you at all for just wanting to move on from and not relive the trauma again by reporting it. So thank you so much for reporting it OP, there is no doubt you are saving other potential survivors from this awful person.
That is terrible and I hope that the guy gets arrested ASAP. I am so sorry for what you are going through and I truly hope that the authorities charge this dirt bag. You were very strong and brave to take this to the police.
That being said, your partner needs to be really careful before posting things like:
I know the anger that your partner is feeling right now. I know how I would be feeling if it was my son or daughter in your situation. But, the last thing that you want to happen is for this piece of shit to turn around and sue you or your partner for some sort of bullshit defamation claim. I'm an attorney and you just don't want this to get "turned around" and have you defending yourself and your partner in some sort of civil suit. On that point, you should speak with an attorney to see about going after the rapist civilly in the event that criminal charges are not filed against him. Make this guy suffer.
Hang in there.
That being said, your partner needs to be really careful before posting things like:
I know the anger that your partner is feeling right now. I know how I would be feeling if it was my son or daughter in your situation. But, the last thing that you want to happen is for this piece of shit to turn around and sue you or your partner for some sort of bullshit defamation claim. I'm an attorney and you just don't want this to get "turned around" and have you defending yourself and your partner in some sort of civil suit. On that point, you should speak with an attorney to see about going after the rapist civilly in the event that criminal charges are not filed against him. Make this guy suffer.
Hang in there.
