I thought this was a fairly recent thing for me, but I've realized I've been practically doing this all my life ever since I gained access to a computer/phone.
Any time I've needed to confront someone, I'd either do it entirely over text/some sort of online messaging (like social media message, email, etc.), or I'd at least initiate it that way.
"Why?" You may ask.
1. I like giving people the time and space that they need. "But what if they don't reply?" Well, no reply communicates more than enough, IMO.
And if they do reply, they at least don't have to say something out of their ass right then and there. For example, if I want to confront my mom about something, I don't want to do it when she's home from work and watching TV or talking to her friends. Out-of-the-blue? How can I expect a satisfying response if there's no warning beforehand? Or for her to not be pissed or anxious? Same with phone calls. IMO someone is far more likely to communicate the way they intend to via text (again, if it's dishonest? Then that communicates necessary information in and of itself!), rather than phone or in person with no warning as they're more likely to say whatever to get you to shut up.
2. I have ADHD, and I'm not the best with on-the-fly thinking even with medication; something I know I should work on. But for me, I best articulate my thoughts via writing. If I feel pressured, my brain kind of partially shuts off and I'll maybe forget important details, maybe be more impulsive, etc.
3. People may say "oh it's easier to lie over text." And?
Basically, I'm of the opinion that you can't really force anything. If someone wants to communicate, and if someone wants to be honest, they will be. So in that case, via text, if they want to communicate and be honest, they at least have time/space. Plus, for me, I can jot all my thoughts down, I'm not in a rush, and I can make sure that I'm presenting my thoughts/feelings/info the way I intend to.
I'm expecting ppl in here to overwhelmingly say "wow the age of technology is killing human interaction," but I disagree. I just like not bothering ppl :-(
Side note, I absolutely hate phone calls and 99% of the time I don't pick them up, even if it's a friend. I'm terrible at lying on the spot and I don't want to be pressured into hanging out or whatever if I don't want to. I have a friend who used to just call me because she wanted to vent, but then she understood how I operate, and now if she wants to vent via phone call, she'll text me first and ask me if i can set aside 15/20 mins to vent via phone, which makes me a much happier camper.
Any time I've needed to confront someone, I'd either do it entirely over text/some sort of online messaging (like social media message, email, etc.), or I'd at least initiate it that way.
"Why?" You may ask.
1. I like giving people the time and space that they need. "But what if they don't reply?" Well, no reply communicates more than enough, IMO.
And if they do reply, they at least don't have to say something out of their ass right then and there. For example, if I want to confront my mom about something, I don't want to do it when she's home from work and watching TV or talking to her friends. Out-of-the-blue? How can I expect a satisfying response if there's no warning beforehand? Or for her to not be pissed or anxious? Same with phone calls. IMO someone is far more likely to communicate the way they intend to via text (again, if it's dishonest? Then that communicates necessary information in and of itself!), rather than phone or in person with no warning as they're more likely to say whatever to get you to shut up.
2. I have ADHD, and I'm not the best with on-the-fly thinking even with medication; something I know I should work on. But for me, I best articulate my thoughts via writing. If I feel pressured, my brain kind of partially shuts off and I'll maybe forget important details, maybe be more impulsive, etc.
3. People may say "oh it's easier to lie over text." And?
Basically, I'm of the opinion that you can't really force anything. If someone wants to communicate, and if someone wants to be honest, they will be. So in that case, via text, if they want to communicate and be honest, they at least have time/space. Plus, for me, I can jot all my thoughts down, I'm not in a rush, and I can make sure that I'm presenting my thoughts/feelings/info the way I intend to.
I'm expecting ppl in here to overwhelmingly say "wow the age of technology is killing human interaction," but I disagree. I just like not bothering ppl :-(
Side note, I absolutely hate phone calls and 99% of the time I don't pick them up, even if it's a friend. I'm terrible at lying on the spot and I don't want to be pressured into hanging out or whatever if I don't want to. I have a friend who used to just call me because she wanted to vent, but then she understood how I operate, and now if she wants to vent via phone call, she'll text me first and ask me if i can set aside 15/20 mins to vent via phone, which makes me a much happier camper.