I had my first Tinder Match message me first and...

[Menchin]

 

[Falchion]

Why would they even send that? That's so fucked up......

 

[Ruisu]

I don't know if this is better or worse than just the usual "girl stops responding completely or never answers your first message".

 

[JuicyPlayer]

I'm so glad I'm married. I never want to date again. It's worse than a job interview.

 

[Fisty]

"I was hoping I did when I matched with you"

Come on OP, step up your game

 

[Galkinator]

I'm so glad I'm married. I never want to date again. It's worse than a job interview.

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They're both terrible lol
But yeah dating for the past few years is fucking awful. People have zero empathy and regard to one another nowadays.

 

[Brawly Likes to Brawl]

what the hell lol, why even preemptively send that

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People on dating apps are audacious as hell. Part of the reason why I stopped using them. Too many people on apps are either being silly or outright rude.

 

[captive]

I'M SAYING! The instant negative reads on this are driving me bananas.

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Exactly. I hate when people do this overused phrase but literally "tell me the door is open without telling me the door is open." Why are we overlooking that the statement was filled with physical and personality compliments then ended with an open-ended statement of hope? Professor X wouldn't even need his powers on this one.

If this was the opener the person is staring at their phone right now like... "Did I fuck up? OP didn't take the hint. Shit."

If OP left out that this was the ender then RIP.

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idunno this seems over the top hopeful.

your making it seem like this is one of those instances that men totally miss out on blatently obvious signals put out by women, like that thread we had a month or two ago, or several twitter threads ive seen where men look back and are like oh shit she totally was coming on to me.

 

[Landy828]

Why are we the only ones getting that she's possibly fishing for a positive reply?

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I just saw this for the first time, and my immediate response was "So the OP responded right?" "Right?!"

Why would you not respond with something inquiring if she wants to talk or possibly be that person? Nothing changes if they say no/don't respond.

It may just be an honest observation, or it could be an attempt to see if there's a response. It doesn't mean they're interested, also doesn't mean they aren't.

 

[JigglesBunny]

God damn, man. That's fucking brutal.

Wishing you the best, OP. That'll sting for a while.

 

[Shadow of the Void]

Damn, dude. Responding just to tell you she's not interested is... yeesh. I think I'd rather just hear nothing instead of seeing something that got my hopes up just to be disappointed five seconds later. Dating can be awkward and rough. I wouldn't even know where to start and this day and age as so much has changed last time I dated someone. But keep at it. You'll eventually find someone that's actually interested in going out with you.

 

[stn]

I'm sure that sucks and is a blow to the ego, OP. But it's okay. Next time, use a similar opportunity to respond with some humor or even attempt at flirting. Rejection sucks but it's better to try than not.

 

[Ra]

idunno this seems over the top hopeful.

your making it seem like this is one of those instances that men totally miss out on blatently obvious signals put out by women, like that thread we had a month or two ago, or several twitter threads ive seen where men look back and are like oh shit she totally was coming on to me.

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It isn't about stereotypes between men and women, to the best of my knowledge the OP never said they were straight, or identified their sex.

It's about reasoning why a person would match with you then out of the blue start with that message as an opener. You have nothing to lose in seeing it from positive angles, as a person fishing for a response, and playing into it.

Confirming the loss can secure the win. Assuming the loss is just taking the loss.