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I had my first Tinder Match message me first and...
- Thread starter DragonSJG
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The correct response to that is "Thank you. You look like you'd made an excellent cut corner inverted square bell. We should discuss your preferred wattage over drinks."
If someone matched and never messaged you, I don't really consider that ghosting you. Probably just one of those people who swipe on everything. I think we're all assuming this was the first message from this match. Just seems unnecessary even if the sender had good intentions.
I'm going to start all my convos on Tinder with Try Finger, but hole.
Why are we the only ones getting that she's possibly fishing for a positive reply?
DragonSJG say something back like "I'm hoping you could be that person"
I had someone match with me just to tell me I was lying about my age, thought I was way younger.
Ooooof
Back when I was in tinder and the lady I matched up with messaged me first I always assumed it was a bot or someone trying to sell nudes on their Snapchat lol
Back when I was in tinder and the lady I matched up with messaged me first I always assumed it was a bot or someone trying to sell nudes on their Snapchat lol
It's really strange how some people will go out of their way to put someone down. I guess it makes them feel good about themselves? Like it's fine to reject someone, but only after if they ask you out or something.
Wha... why? Its like shooting someone but deliberately choosing to shoot them in the gut to make them die as slowly and miserably as possible instead of just putting one in the brain and ending it painlessly.
Wait. What? Why would she even swipe right on you if she wasn't interested. It's like she does it just to see which guys are swiping on her so she can just tell them she's out of their league.
This is why I don't bother with dating apps anymore.
This is why I don't bother with dating apps anymore.
Seriously, does no one think that the person on the other end might be just as awkward about these things as they are?
Perhaps you're right. Reading people is tough, especially online, so maybe there is undetectable sarcasm at play.
Thats when you say "You would light up my life" and see where the convo goes
Coulda been worse, my first tinder experience was a girl telling me I looked like a murder hobo who makes people into lampshades.
Couldn't even form a response, just had to unmatch and hold the L.
It's really not as ruthless as most of you are making out, and on the off chance she's one of those indirect people who prefers to fish for a response where the other person has to be the one to make their intentions clear, you might as well reply with something to the effect of "I swiped your profile hoping I already had"
Get in amongst it, lad.
Get in amongst it, lad.
Sorry that you went through that. If you are looking for a long term partner maybe Tinder isn't the way to go.
I'M SAYING! The instant negative reads on this are driving me bananas.
I just re-read the OP. If that's the opening message, it's definitely an invitation to initiate small talk about the Tinder grind.
Exactly. I hate when people do this overused phrase but literally "tell me the door is open without telling me the door is open." Why are we overlooking that the statement was filled with physical and personality compliments then ended with an open-ended statement of hope? Professor X wouldn't even need his powers on this one.
If this was the opener the person is staring at their phone right now like... "Did I fuck up? OP didn't take the hint. Shit."
If OP left out that this was the ender then RIP.
Sure you almost certainly got bombed in a preemptive strike but go ahead and go for it and another helping.
OP
OP
She probably felt embarrassed you didn't pick up what she put down. It happens, but I'd at least follow up with something.