are the one's calling the brother an asshole.
are the one's calling the brother an asshole.
This. I've done the same and my friends for me.This is a don't hate the player, hate the game situation. His brother didn't do anything wrong and it's not like sex from strangers just rains from the sky for straight men. I was in a similar situation with a friend, had spent most of a party chatting someone up and she expressed interest in my friend. I took the L and was a good sport and introduced them. They went on to date for years, shit happens.
Honestly, that's usually how it happens.I gave up looking for a partner too. Never had a relationship in my life. Everything sucked...
The day after I made that decision I met my Fiance.
Shit happens when it happens. I went my entire life without anyone and then suddenly there she was. Best advice I can give you is stop caring about it so much. There's hundreds of other things out there you can do and spend your time doing. When it happens, it happens.
It sounds like his brother has more confidence and socializes much better. The woman wanted to sleep with the brother. She can decide that. The brother shouldn't have to worry about OP's sex life.
This. She saw a better option and chose it. This happens all the time.
So are phlebotomists...Even though GPs are more successful than 90+% of the population they are generally looked down on by medical specialists and surgeons if I'm correct.
Why? If I just met a girl and we hit it off having a conversation and I bought her a drink and then she sees you're my friend and then starts asking questions about you making it painfully obvious she's more interested in you than me? What am I to do? What are you to do? I can't wait to hear your answer.
I used to think I'd never find anyone, then I tried online dating and know it for a fact.
So yeah, I gave up too OP, mainly because I've tried just about everything (including just about all dating apps) and found either no dates or straight garbage dates that I never want experience again.
And I think I look fine and I'm in decent shape, but apparently you'd think I'm the ugliest person on the dating apps (and 5'8" is apparently "too short" for a lot of women, regardless of their height).
Sorry I couldn't give you advice or tell you to keep your chin up, lol.
It goes both ways. You don't own someone or have exclusive rights to sex just because you bought them a drink and had a good conversation.
Why?
Correct. At minimum though, OP should stop going to bars with his brother. He's not a wingman, he's competition.It goes both ways. You don't own someone or have exclusive rights to sex just because you bought them a drink and had a good conversation.
I think we need more context here before we call the brother an asshole. If his brother was specifically going out with him to be his wingman then yeah, that's a dick move. But if they just went out and OP started talking to a girl that ended up being more interested in his brother, I don't see anything wrong with that. Based on the OP, I think it was the latter.Wait so is your brother an asshole? He sounds like an asshole.
Because I am not going to tell a woman who isn't interested in you to give you a chance?
This is another one of the clichés that should die off with the rest of them. There's no such thing as "when you least expect it", especially if you've never been with anyone before. Even if you try to quell down the expectation of something happening, it's still there lingering in the back of your mind. Not to mention, wtf does "least expect it" mean? So people should just not do anything to get closer to finding someone? Sounds like drivel from crap hollywood rom-coms as opposed to something realistic.
This is another one of the clichés that should die off with the rest of them. There's no such thing as "when you least expect it", especially if you've never been with anyone before. Even if you try to quell down the expectation of something happening, it's still there lingering in the back of your mind. Not to mention, wtf does "least expect it" mean? So people should just not do anything to get closer to finding someone? Sounds like drivel from crap hollywood rom-coms as opposed to something realistic.
Wingmen can often times become competition. Not sure you can prevent that, unless you want your wingman to somehow be completely undesirable. However if it's a pattern that most, if not all, girls OP talks to shows interest in his brother then you're right. He needs to drop him as a wingman and find somebody around his level.Correct. At minimum though, OP should stop going to bars with his brother. He's not a wingman, he's competition.
Even though GPs are more successful than 90+% of the population they are generally looked down on by medical specialists and surgeons if I'm correct.
I'd like to add that since I went to school and work in a field where females are rare I never even experience casual talk with one. I don't drink so fuck all the bar, night club, strip club, sports bar, casino bullshit.Your not alone, I gave up in middle school. I remember I had a friend that was all depressed in middle school because he never had a girl friend and yet here I am at 26 with no relationship ever with a girl. He fell into peer pressure I guess.
I get what the idea is but I don't like it either.This is another one of the clichés that should die off with the rest of them. There's no such thing as "when you least expect it", especially if you've never been with anyone before. Even if you try to quell down the expectation of something happening, it's still there lingering in the back of your mind. Not to mention, wtf does "least expect it" mean? So people should just not do anything to get closer to finding someone? Sounds like drivel from crap hollywood rom-coms as opposed to something realistic.
Do you mean to say you didn't look at all? Cause at most that anecdote just means you got lucky, which is good for you but it's not exactly good advice.It is a cliche but it's a real one. Sometimes, when you don't go looking for something it turns up on your doorstep. I've never been in a serious relationship before and while I wasn't looking for anything particular "serious" I ended up in a long-term relationship. I think it's always better to limit your expectations also.
The dude is still a DOCTOR, anywhere besides probably Cuba, that's a big fucking deal. (Saudi Arabia could be different but I'd imagine you're still an upper echelon profession who makes a lot of money) You should be getting women interested in you on your profession alone, have some confidence and you'll find someone.
It means stop being a try-hard, it comes across as desperate and that's not attractive and in the worst case scenario creepy. For examples, don't try to get the number of every woman you have a casual situation context conversation with in public IE waiting for public transport. Don't go to bars/clubs solely with the intention of meeting someone, go because you want a good time.The idea, I think, is not to be so single minded and focused in your pursuit for a romantic partner. I think that's good advice. Work on yourself, be happy with yourself, etc.
Yep. Well said.I've been bald since I was like 20 breh, your loss of hair ain't got much to do with it. My best advice is that if you have to force it, it isnt worth it. Focus on your interests, and bettering yourself. Women care far more about an interesting person than they do an attractive one. Just maintain your hygiene and find some productive hobbies and you'll have women interested in you before you realize it.
Better yourself for you, not someone else.
He didn't know I was hitting on her .
I am trying to be carefree about it but it's a tricky process.
Is this gaming side rating system? Because, if so......I am not that ugly ( 188 cm ) like a strong 6 or a soft 7 .
Non taken, people are free to be attracted to whoever they want . Like I know rejection shouldn't be a big deal , it's just like the straw that broke the camel back.
This is trueI speak from experience, it's incredibly hard to find authentic connection if you're feeling somehow fundamentally unhappy with yoursel
I'm with you. OP needs SPLASHDesperation is a stinky cologne. Just be you and maybe one day you'll find someone.