How old were you when you lost your virginity?

[Paroni]

32+ if ever. I suppose it taking so long is combination of being pretty awkward, anxious and prone to social exhaustion even with friends and family (I was diagnosed with Aspergers as a kid so that's probably a big factor too). It's hard to imagine actually ending up in a relationship, as well as to imagine managing an one night stand, even when I managed to get on couple of dates in my 20s it all just dried up into just chatting and I never got idea how to make social interactions romantic or sexual. In all honesty it does depress me quite a lot, but can't really figure out any other solutions than just hoping for luck in the future.

 

[Tryphosa]

34 still a Virgin I've never been in a relationship of any kind its been years since I've even talked to someone face to face I enjoy the peace of being by myself.

 

[RecLib]

20. It was rough out there for a gay girl in high school as far as finding other girls to date. I was out to all my friends and stuff, but I never felt comfortable being THAT fully out to the whole school where someone might approach me, and I didn't know any other out lesbian or bi girls either. I'm sure they were out there, but we were all hiding in our own little shells not finding each other.

So I didn't have ANY romantic firsts until my second year of college where I met a really cool fellow lesbian, its been going really well with her too I'm very happy right now.

 

[Aeron]

Around 27, It is crazy how much of a big deal it seems like beforehand but once it happens it's just "eh.. it's just sex? what's the big deal?"

 

[rokkerkory]

I was 19 but messed around a lot when i was 17-18

 

[KingFrost92]

16 with my 15 YO gf at the time. Literally in an empty rental house after her parents moved all the furniture out. She initiated, a little bit against my wishes. We dated another year and then had a hugely dramatic break up. She was not very nice to me.

Since then I had a few other partners until I met my wife, who I've been with for 11 years.

 

[Dandy]

15 with my best guy friend(we did everything we could think of for a year+), and then 16 with a girl because I was in denial.

 

[Magnus]

25. Combo of social anxiety, being gay, being hyper introverted etc, caused the delay.

 

[MoG EclipsE]

15. We're now married with kids 15 years later.

 

[Dice]

Lmao

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[Elfgore]

27 and counting! Blew any chance I had back in high school and zero chance since then!

 

[Gambit61]

Did not expect to see so many other 32+ virgins. My serious answer is I just realized this year I must be Demisexual and Demiromantic because I've only ever felt interest in starting a relationship / being with three - four women. I can tell they liked me back but they were all currently in long term relationships from before I ever met them so I basically never had a chance to lose it. Maybe I'll get lucky someday 🤷🏽‍♂️

 

[PresidentRose]

26. I was a late bloomer. Deep introvert. Never hit it off with a woman before. Turning 36 this year.

 

[The Namekian]

18

 

[PeakPointMatrix]

19 (on my birthday lol), first committed relationship.

 

[l2iv6]

genuinely can't remember whether it was 16, 17, or 18 but yeah one of those

 

[Witness]

19 with my high school/college girlfriend.

 

[MIMIC]

33. Late bloomer but whatever.

 

[Gaardus]

A mix of introversion, social anxiety, and life circumstances are putting the answer... north of 30. ¯\_ (ツ) _/¯

 

[Droidian]

17
Sharing the experience was what earned me the right to become a member at the old forum

 

[Dandy Crocodile]

20. It was really slim pickings in a tiny rural farm town for a gay nerd.

 

[PeakPointMatrix]

33. Late bloomer but whatever.

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Going by your thread history, you've certainly made up for lost time 🥵

 

[Perfect Chaos]

22. It was kind of wild. I was out of the country and starting talking to my now-wife on OkCupid. We had our first date the night I flew back and uhh, things got hot and heavy pretty quickly. That was also my first date date. Where I wasn't like "ugh, what am I doing? Why are we here??"

Had a weird sexual encounter when I was 15, that, in retrospect, really fucked me up. (consensual, no age gap or anything, just touching, but I just was not ready). Also had friends/acquaintances in middle/high school who teased me pretty relentlessly for the girls I had crushes on, which again, in retrospect, probably fucked me up! I really did not have a healthy mindset to approach sex and dating until I was out of college and into a career.

 

[starpower]

27

I let myself down putting so much weight behind it that by the time I finally had sex it wasn't as great as I imagined it would be. Wish I did it when I was younger, I believe my mental health would have benefited and my relationship skills would have improved or at the very least not stagnant

 

[noomi]

I think I must have been 14 or 15 at the time, my girlfriend 15/16. Was incredibly nervous and probably lasted like 30 seconds.

 

[Wil Grieve]

Maybe but my 2 points remain. I wouldn't know where to look and I'd feel bad for the lady for having to be with someone so unattractive.

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My ex-roommate was not a very attractive man. His teeth were all discombobulated, he was balding aggressively, and his general shape could be described as "pear." He always had a girlfriend, and 9 times out of 10, she was very physically attractive.

He wasn't wealthy. He didn't have a giant penis. He never had a great job. But that never held him back from having a girlfriend and having sex.

 

[big_z]

for those of you feeling a burden or crippled by anxiety I agree with the escort idea others have recommended. Just tell them you're inexperienced and nervous before meeting and they'll guide you. Some even advertise first timer friendly. You might end up disappointed in the end but if it gets rid of that virgin burden you have in your brain you still come out ahead.

Just don't do push-ups in a food court, blow your load walking through the door and end up spending the time crying from embarrassment like some guy on ign did.

 

[Sunster]

Took Chef's advice.


View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylkHE1k64gs

 

[Cosmic Bus]

31, in a very drunken gay threesome.

 

[Judau]

I was 34. I haven't had sex since because I haven't really put myself out there, mainly due to some of the same reasons Gaardus listed above. Actually, I really only lost it because this girl was really into me. She was gorgeous (she looked like she could be a non-celebrity relative of Selena Gomez). I was hesitant at first, though, because as gorgeous as she was, I had someone else in mind. But if she wasn't into me, I'd definitely still be a virgin.

 

[CatAssTrophy]

15 and luckily it was with a really great person so I don't regret it at all.

Still a little bit it being when I was that young, but ah well.

 

[Maligna]

18, with my girlfriend I had met on the internet. We dated over a year online, then her family came to my province to visit just by happenstance and we somehow convinced our parents to let us have a "sleepover". We were supposed to be sleeping in seperate rooms, but... Nope.

 

[Royalan]

33. Late bloomer but whatever.

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Welcome back, you.
Be good now. ❤️

 

[Cyrus_Saren]

22.

 

[DemyxC]

..........

 

[StrykerIsland]

16, it lasted about 15 seconds lol

 

[Jogi]

I was 16 she was 15 and in my mom's basement 😂

 

[Fiction]

First consensual time was 17

 

[SlasherMcGirk]

Sex? I'm still trying to get a date at 36.

 

[Kevers]

I was 34 and it was really bad.


I had been over 300 pounds since I was 17-18 and completely lacked any self confidence and was socially terrified to even talk to a girl. I always felt uncomfortable and out of place when friends talked about sex and I always tried to steer the topic away because it bugged me so much. I eventually got insanely depressed and lonely and eventually got gastric bypass surgery to help with the weight.

It took a couple years but I felt confident and happy enough with myself to start using the apps for the first time as a 34 year old which was insanely weird for me. I met a girl we had a few dates, I was too scared to tell her I was a virgin so I just rolled with it. My antidepressants and the anxiety of the situation made for an absolutely terrible first time. I was so self conscious the entire time I didn't even enjoy it. She broke up with me a few weeks later after only ever having sex 1 other time.

I met my current GF a few months later and everything has been such a world of difference with her in every regard.

 

[KillLaCam]

16 but it was just like 30 second lmao . I don't even really count that one . 2nd time was muuuuuch better

 

[IDreamOfHime]

Not long after my 18th

 

[Cheesy]

Think I was 20 at the time to a friend of mine who had just recently broken up and wanted me to "cheer her up". I'm 29 now and so far it's been the only time I've had sex.

 

[Hilarious_Bearious]

It's so wonderful hearing stories of people blooming late and finding their footing, or people working out their sexuality later on and feeling OK.

Could we team up people who haven't had much luck in the love department but want to with somebody who could "She's all that" them if interested?

 

[GuitarGuruu]

16, fun times

 

[Praxis]

14 with my gf of the time and it wasn't great, used a condom and had the opposite reaction to what you'd expect. I just couldn't feel anything and couldn't finish for a long ass time.

 

[mrmickfran]

19

While I was playing Catherine of all things

 

[the lizard]

17 I think

 

[Thewonandonly]

Well lost mine to a stripper at 23 😂😂 don't know if it counts cause I tipped her 700$ dollars but it is what it is haha

25 now and havn'd had the real thing with a girl I didn't pay which is a bummer but I'm working on it hard. Hitting the gym and become a lot less awkward then I was while I saw a stoner from 17 to 24. Now 3 months sober releize how depressing it is to be single so really trying to get out there haha. Went from 125 to 162 in 3 months so the body's getting there just need the confidence!!!

 

[Tokyo_Funk]

16 with an 18 year old chick who was held back a year in school due to a sickness when she was younger.