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How old were you when you lost your virginity?
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Can anyone else just not remember? Not as if I've had 100s of experiences but I genuinely have no idea when I first had sex.
I was 18, they were 21.
My Resident Assistant. A mutual friend gave me the link to their Xanga, where they had apparently been writing about me all first semester. Got to the entry about them liking me more than their favorite cheese, and I'm telling you the draws melted off.
My Resident Assistant. A mutual friend gave me the link to their Xanga, where they had apparently been writing about me all first semester. Got to the entry about them liking me more than their favorite cheese, and I'm telling you the draws melted off.
31 - with the woman who would end up being my wife.
Taking so long was a combination of me being extremely picky, and a few unfortunate life events causing me to have severe insecurity issues and issues with trusting others.
I've found out over the years that there were many girls who were interested, but my issues prevented me from seeing it at the time. Not that I'd change anything if I had the option. It took a long time, but I'm very happy with who I am and who I'm with.
Taking so long was a combination of me being extremely picky, and a few unfortunate life events causing me to have severe insecurity issues and issues with trusting others.
I've found out over the years that there were many girls who were interested, but my issues prevented me from seeing it at the time. Not that I'd change anything if I had the option. It took a long time, but I'm very happy with who I am and who I'm with.
I was 19 she was 17. I dunno fairly typical for a guy I guess.
Had opportunities in high school but I was always chasing a hotter chick and I was terrible at initiating any kind of sexual contact. Most women in the 90s wanted men to initiate basically everything. Probably why I lost my virginity to a girl that didn't exactly beat around the bush.
Had opportunities in high school but I was always chasing a hotter chick and I was terrible at initiating any kind of sexual contact. Most women in the 90s wanted men to initiate basically everything. Probably why I lost my virginity to a girl that didn't exactly beat around the bush.
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I know nothing about you but if you feel you're ready and depending on what kind of social life you have (i.e., if you go out to places where you can meet people or not), probably apps. All depends how you feel about your readiness.
I know nothing about you but if you feel you're ready and depending on what kind of social life you have (i.e., if you go out to places where you can meet people or not), probably apps. All depends how you feel about your readiness.
I dunno, I mean, it's a little on the early side but as long as it was consensual and with someone in your own age group, it's not a big deal.
15. I lost it during the worst year of my life, when my parents separated and I was going through a depression.
It cost me my longest and closest friendship with my best friend, my mental health and the relationship left me with trust issues that linger to this day.
Had I known what I know now, I would have put it off for the next person. As wonderful as the sex felt at that time, the price it cost me emotionally was not worth it in the long run.
It cost me my longest and closest friendship with my best friend, my mental health and the relationship left me with trust issues that linger to this day.
Had I known what I know now, I would have put it off for the next person. As wonderful as the sex felt at that time, the price it cost me emotionally was not worth it in the long run.
I think for most people it's enough of a milestone life event that it's very easy to remember. I don't remember the exact date, but I know the month/year, and I can generally recall everything about it. And this was a long time ago, I'm freaking old. I can't fathom forgetting it.
23 (penetration) wise.
Messing around (BJs, etc.) my late teens if that counts.
I had TONS of opportunities between 14-18, but I was a "good" kid and never went "all the way".
Not sure if stupid or smart. I feel like it was stupid...so many opportunities. No accidental kids though I guess.
I don't know how I made it that long. I'm insanely sexual. Would be up to it every day of the week, and I'm 40.
Messing around (BJs, etc.) my late teens if that counts.
I had TONS of opportunities between 14-18, but I was a "good" kid and never went "all the way".
Not sure if stupid or smart. I feel like it was stupid...so many opportunities. No accidental kids though I guess.
I don't know how I made it that long. I'm insanely sexual. Would be up to it every day of the week, and I'm 40.
Had opportunities from 15-17. But I grew-up in a conservative area and went to a Christian private school, so I was taught to value virginity. I wasn't one of those "saving myself for marriage", but I chose to hangout at 3rd base for awhile until I felt I was ready. There were plenty of people around me having sex at that age, but I'm pretty much immune to peer pressure, so I just went at my own pace. Got to 3rd base a ton in mid-teens and some of the girls wanted more, but I declined. Eventually did the deed at 18 with a serious girlfriend.
I think it's important not to rush into it where you feel uncomfortable. You should do it when you and your partner feel ready, whenever that is. And at the same time, sex and virginity shouldn't be put on a pedestal. It's something you should do responsibly (irresponsible sex can lead to STDs, unplanned pregnancies, mental stress, etc). But driving a car is also something we should do responsibly, so we handle all kinds of responsibilities every day. Unless you have specific religious or personal reasons why you want to remain a virgin, if you're over the age of 25, I'm a believer in just finding a "professional" and just doing the deed. Just so you realize that sex isn't some ethereal event and help reduce some of the pressure and anxiety. A long time ago, I had a co-worker who was 23 and struggling with anxiety and everything when it came to women. He saw an escort and he was a completely different person afterwards. It didn't solve all his problems or anything, but he was just way more relaxed and confident around women now that he wasn't putting sex on a pedestal anymore. That said, don't take some random Internet forum poster's advice, therapy is always a great option if you're a late-bloomer. Just food for thought.
I think it's important not to rush into it where you feel uncomfortable. You should do it when you and your partner feel ready, whenever that is. And at the same time, sex and virginity shouldn't be put on a pedestal. It's something you should do responsibly (irresponsible sex can lead to STDs, unplanned pregnancies, mental stress, etc). But driving a car is also something we should do responsibly, so we handle all kinds of responsibilities every day. Unless you have specific religious or personal reasons why you want to remain a virgin, if you're over the age of 25, I'm a believer in just finding a "professional" and just doing the deed. Just so you realize that sex isn't some ethereal event and help reduce some of the pressure and anxiety. A long time ago, I had a co-worker who was 23 and struggling with anxiety and everything when it came to women. He saw an escort and he was a completely different person afterwards. It didn't solve all his problems or anything, but he was just way more relaxed and confident around women now that he wasn't putting sex on a pedestal anymore. That said, don't take some random Internet forum poster's advice, therapy is always a great option if you're a late-bloomer. Just food for thought.
24, she was 26. We were both college students in the same major and had a lot of courses together. Ended after less than a year because she was graduating and was not a US citizen so she wasn't planning on staying, so it never got very serious.
Was a really good first time though (and subsequent times). Still probably the most conventionally attractive woman I've ever been with. And the French-African accent was very much a turn on lol.
Was a really good first time though (and subsequent times). Still probably the most conventionally attractive woman I've ever been with. And the French-African accent was very much a turn on lol.
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It's a gouda thing you put them behind you. Can't imagine what it would brie like to date such a person.
I was 16 and i dit it with an older woman, i guess it could count as sexual abuse, as i think back to that episode it probably was.
It was at my house, my mother used to rent rooms for female students and this one night we were hanging out by the pool. She was around 25 or so and she has been drinking, she then started asking about my sex life, if u was a virgin and such, at some point we got into the pool and she grabed me and started making out, there was penetration but i was nervious/freaked out so i didn't actually finish, she promised to tech me how to do it but the next day it was really ducking awkward even looking at her so it was never mentioned again by any of us.
It was at my house, my mother used to rent rooms for female students and this one night we were hanging out by the pool. She was around 25 or so and she has been drinking, she then started asking about my sex life, if u was a virgin and such, at some point we got into the pool and she grabed me and started making out, there was penetration but i was nervious/freaked out so i didn't actually finish, she promised to tech me how to do it but the next day it was really ducking awkward even looking at her so it was never mentioned again by any of us.
