Whelp; your already dad, you have very little to say in the matter; she has the final say in whether you keep the baby or not. Though if it's just finances that are the problem you should at talk about the freeloading mother of hers.
ABORT. Seriously. It's been 6 months, you barely know her. Evidenced by the fact you didn't even know about her financial situation.
Because she wants to get married? Did you read the OP?Why are her financials or what she does with them even in consideration
Support your kid if you've the means
Hell it wouldn't matter if she's rich or your rich or either of your parents are rich
Support your kid
Good point. In most cultures with the "parents should freeload off their kids ASAP" BS tradition, the trade off is that the grandmother takes care of the children.
Damn, wtf. Someone probably already said this, but he has no choice in the matter. The fuck?ABORT. Seriously. It's been 6 months, you barely know her. Evidenced by the fact you didn't even know about her financial situation.
6 months? If she isn't aborting, then this is only going to end with you having to pay her child support
Good point. In most cultures with the "parents should freeload off their kids ASAP" BS tradition, the trade off is that the grandmother takes care of the children.
Yeah it's not part of my culture either (though I'm 25 so don't even have a spouse yet) but it's not uncommon... there's different degrees of it of course. Some parents expect to live in your house once they're very old (but will take care of kids and the house for you), some are true freeloaders like OP describes, some work till they can't and live independently, some retire.I'm glad we didn't have to support the Mother in Law, even though she is watching our children
Sorry OP, your life is over for the next 18 years, hope the unprotected sex was worth it.
Sorry OP, your life is over for the next 18 years, hope the unprotected sex was worth it.
I agree with this.Tell her mom to go fuck herself and get a job first before you listen to her "get married" advice. The fuck is that? I'm really sympathetic to others like myself who have issues with working due to mental or physical restrictions, but if she's able mind and body and is simply choosing to not work, and you guys are going to keep this kid, then you don't need to look after two children, AND carry some of the weight of you GF (which would be fine if that's all it was).
It's her choice to have an Abortion and by the looks of it, she wants the full package, the op is pretty much screwed here.
Do you really think that basing these decisions on fear is a wise choice??FYI, abortion/termination is not legal in our country. There are still ways of course, but me and my gf have not discussed it yet. I fear that If I tell my gf that I do not want to get married, she will freak out as well. In that scenario, I do not know if she will carry our child to term or look for ways terminate.
You actually think a dude that goes to an online forum for advice about this situation is ready to have kids. Also abortions aren't just for the most extreme scenarios.Seriously... I'm supportive of abortion rights in general, but getting an abortion when you just fucked up and the financial situation will be fine, but maybe not the ideal picture you had in your mind? I'd understand if the kid would be homeless or something, but how is this a situation to push for an abortion?
You actually think a dude that goes to an online forum for advice about this situation is ready to have kids. Also abortions aren't just for the most extreme scenarios.
I fear that If I tell my gf that I do not want to get married, she will freak out as well.
You actually think a dude that goes to an online forum for advice about this situation is ready to have kids. Also abortions aren't just for the most extreme scenarios.
Does your girlfriend want to get married, or is her mother making the decision? You're both adults (I hope) so the mother shouldn't dictate what course the two of you take, especially if her daughter is providing for her.
You're still asking for it and no offense but money ain't all you need to raise a child. Do you even have a place ready and a car that's good for a child? You talk about your girls savings situation but she isn't the one that fucked up here and you know that.Yes, because Era is the only place I asked advice from. Seriously bruh.
FFS I'm not telling him to lock his gf in the abortion clinic. Dude gets in-depth about the situation without mentioning discussing the option. I see a hesitant father, a financially unprepared mother, and a toxic grandmother. Not having the conversation is how you potentially ruin 3 lives, the child included. Spare me your indignation.Damn, wtf. Someone probably already said this, but he has no choice in the matter. The fuck?
It's her choice to have an Abortion and by the looks of it, she wants the full package, the op is pretty much screwed here.