Been dating my gf for about 6 months now. We're a pretty good match and there are a lot of things I like about her. About 3 weeks ago, we found out she was pregnant (unplanned). Since then, I have done everything I can to prepare and to make sure I will be ready for my responsibilities (financial, being there for my gf and our kid, having an ok to good home for the three of us even if it's just renting for the time being, etc.).
Unfortunately, me and my gf have not talked about finances prior to finding out she was pregnant. I found out that she makes significantly less than me (but still enought to support herself and have a bit of savings) but she has no savings because she is supporting her mother (who can still work but has chosen not to work since her daughter starting working). She is paying for absolutely everything and her mom is just freeloading off of her. I understand her wanting to support her mother, but having to basically pay for everything is quite horrifying for me (as my parents never asked me to support them - only that I do well and support myself). What's worse is that she told me she already talked to her mother about her expenses and her mom just tried to guilt trip her.
Now her mother wants us to get married (because she is quite traditional and because my gf is 7 weeks pregnant) but again, the thought of marrying someone with no savings and has a freeloading mother is something I didn't see for myself (It would likely get worse if we get married as I will likely be forced to pay for almost everything for our family. I am not sure what to do at this point. I am trying to hold it together and prepare as well as I could (with my gf) for our kid, and my gf wants to get married as well (as she is also quite traditional) but again, this thought of marrying someone with little financial capability (instead of the financial side of our marriage being a partnership or at least close to it) is making me sick.
Unfortunately, me and my gf have not talked about finances prior to finding out she was pregnant. I found out that she makes significantly less than me (but still enought to support herself and have a bit of savings) but she has no savings because she is supporting her mother (who can still work but has chosen not to work since her daughter starting working). She is paying for absolutely everything and her mom is just freeloading off of her. I understand her wanting to support her mother, but having to basically pay for everything is quite horrifying for me (as my parents never asked me to support them - only that I do well and support myself). What's worse is that she told me she already talked to her mother about her expenses and her mom just tried to guilt trip her.
Now her mother wants us to get married (because she is quite traditional and because my gf is 7 weeks pregnant) but again, the thought of marrying someone with no savings and has a freeloading mother is something I didn't see for myself (It would likely get worse if we get married as I will likely be forced to pay for almost everything for our family. I am not sure what to do at this point. I am trying to hold it together and prepare as well as I could (with my gf) for our kid, and my gf wants to get married as well (as she is also quite traditional) but again, this thought of marrying someone with little financial capability (instead of the financial side of our marriage being a partnership or at least close to it) is making me sick.
