I'm curious about the limits of this sex positive inclusivity. Say a cishet dude shared weekly humorous anecdotes about visiting prostitutes, would that be ok or not?
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I'm curious about the limits of this sex positive inclusivity. Say a cishet dude shared weekly humorous anecdotes about visiting prostitutes, would that be ok or not?
Stop making threads about getting with people who have partners, it's fucked up and feels like bragging about causing pain
I mean, I guess I don't think "yo how often do you get tested?" is all that much of a sex negative question given the number of these threads we get and OP's... pattern of sleeping with different people (many of whom have other partners)?
Society, in general, is sex negative. But we shouldn't treat asking someone how often they get tested as negative or shameful. Like if we do that, what is it going to accomplish? We just... don't talk about it? We need to normalize talking about this kind of stuff. And I think that if OP is going to come here and spill his dirty business several times a month, that hey, it's probably good to have a discussion about this. Especially if OP is truly only getting tested every 3 months. That's not nearly frequently enough for just the number of posts they make.
The "I'm surprised you don't have an STI" type posts? Those are sex negative. "Did you bare back?" That's invasive. "When were you last tested?" is asking about the actual test, not the sex. Would I interrupt someone telling this story next to me at the bar to ask if they got tested? No. If I saw the same guy posted up at the bar all the time telling these stories? Yeah, I might.
Ya the sex stories w/e, but the "oh tehe they were already in a relationship, but I don't care, and would even like to push their boundaries"
I used to hate these threads but now I love the pattern that emerges in these threads every time.
1. MIMIC makes some thread about him having sex with someone, usually married.
2. Posters either cheer him on or get upset at him.
3. The people from part 2 just argue with each other and it devolves into insults & shaming.
4. MIMIC sits back and enjoys the carnage.
My weekends are less joyful without the MIMIC thread pattern emerging.
1. MIMIC makes some thread about him having sex with someone, usually married.
2. Posters either cheer him on or get upset at him.
3. The people from part 2 just argue with each other and it devolves into insults & shaming.
4. MIMIC sits back and enjoys the carnage.
My weekends are less joyful without the MIMIC thread pattern emerging.
I should start making threads every time a guy ghosted or ignored me, but I'd probably get banned for spamming so much.
I agree with most of your post, but in this hypothetical if I went to the bar every week and the dude I know at the bar who is telling of a new adventure with a new partner every week, I'd probably mention it after the first few times.
My only issue with this is that, unless you have a personal or professional (in matters of health) relationship with someone, what someone chooses to share with you about their sex life does not entitle you to further information they have not shared. Because it still comes down to a base assumption: "You're having what I deem to be a lot or too much sex, so I'm going to assume you are unconcerned with your sexual health and inquire accordingly." But hey, a question is a question, so go ahead and ask. But some questions are rude.
If I'm having sex with you, or if it's even a possibility, oh I definitely am going to ask about your sexual history. If we're having a general conversation about sexual health and all that entails, then yeah absolutely an environment should be fostered where people feel encouraged to share without judgment. But in this context, when what's stirred the discussion is the call being made that someone's having a lot of sex, then it's iffy for me. Because the judgement is being implied. Because, frankly, most people who are sexually active should be getting this question then. But pay attention to who tends to get asked "...do you get tested?"
Why? All that should matter is 1) have you been tested, and if so what are the results, and 2) are we monogamous?
History shouldn't matter.
Sorry, I should have been clearer.
I meant history in regards to testing. Far be it from me to question the number of partners someone's had.
Not the best post in this topic for this number to land on, but not the worst either.
Why was he banned again?
I always had him as a mascot member like Fat4all or something so was shocked
He def made this because of people tagging him and thinking it's his thread lol
The more sex threads the better
You'd be surprised how much of a ho you can be in the gay community and still be clean.
LMAO. I enjoy the chaos.
These threads are great because it's fun to just laugh on Era every week, given the nonstop gloom that seems to be pretty much a permanent factor all over the world. Keep it up MIMIC!
Im on this line, keep em coming, these threads are always fun.
you can get sex daily on Grindr if you want honestly lol multiple times a day too
One of my friends record is 4 guys in one day haha
When I lived in Atlanta, I had a gay roommate. We lived in a pretty gay area (midtown, near Ansley mall area if you're familiar).
His stories would make mimic blush. Which kind of makes these threads sad.
As someone else has mentioned, the gay hookup scene, especially with apps like Grindr, is basically like those hunting retreats where they put you in the middle of an enclosure with a bunch of unsuspecting deer.
Yeah, 4 does seem like a logical maximum, at least to me - I haven't be able to do more than that anyway!
I don't know why there is such a compulsive need to share (not just the OP FWIW). If the same ratio of straight folks felt compelled to constantly post their sexicapades here it'd be a problem.
I say this as a gay dude, for reference. I just don't get it, I guess
And on another tangent, this shits so vanilla, MIMIC. You're going to have to up your game.
I say this as a gay dude, for reference. I just don't get it, I guess
And on another tangent, this shits so vanilla, MIMIC. You're going to have to up your game.
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See this is why we need forum tags. Only just tag this users threads so we can all easily find it and enjoy the ride
Okay, so I am unlucky
