Oh dear. That's DEFINITELY not what I mean (which it sounds like you know). I guess it's the trouble with speaking to my small audience and having them "know" me so well. Do you have suggestions on how I could craft the same message for a wider audience?
Rather than how to word the message, I'll ask you to consider some things, Greg. This is along the lines of privilege; not something you necessarily did wrong, but unfortunate reaities that you might want to consider and learn from.
I don't now about you, but there was a lot of rhetoric against things like affirmative action floating around when I was a kid. Things like the old snark of "why is there a Black History Month but no White History Month?" Now, I'm not white myself, so I think white supremacy is probably a danger to me; I don't think I was particularly racist as a kid and I think it was in my interest not to be. But I still bought into these messages for a time.
Black History Month exists because it's correcting a problem. History as taught by Europeans and their descendants have traditionally focused on white people - and white men more specifically - at the expense of buring the contributions of others. White history doesn't need highlighting because white history has been the norm.
The problematic message works because because it sounds good if you don't think about it critically. It seems like it's about equality, but it's not actually as fair as it sounds. It serves to maintain historical inequalities by burying the problems that exist in reality under an idealized image.
In the same way, some messages sound nice to the ear, but they aren't actually as benign as they appear to be.
If you've heard the terms "negative peace" versus "positive peace", they follow along similar lines. Negative peace is where there is no disruption. Positive peace is where there is no mistreatment, and so no need for anyone to cause a disruption. They both might sound good, but in one case, people are suffering in silence.
In the face of white supramacy, non-white people are endangered. In the face of misogyny, women are endangered. In the face of transphobia, trans people are endangered. "Be nice to each other" sounds like a good message. I think you intend it to be a good a message. But when malicious actors exist in society who abuse others, is it actually fair for it to be so general? What do you do when there are individuals who have no desire to listen to calls to be nice, and in fact, are willing to weaponize those calls as a way to silence those they intend to abuse?
If I'm not mistaken - I'm admittedly not personally familiar with your work - your product is your message. If people find you entertaining and come to listen to you, you're doing a good job. If they aren't interested and leave, you're doing a bad job. It's your responsibility to try to craft your message to try to gain the reaction you want. If you want people to have a certain idea of how you look at social issues, than that's also on you to think about how to craft your message to get the desired response.
I hope that helps, and again, thank you for listening and responding.