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Girlfriend's Mother Is Asking Me To Secretly Send Her A Copy Of GF's Signature
- Thread starter kai3345
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Umm, no. As a matter of fact I would be telling my girlfriend. That is simply not a reasonable thing to ask for.
This. Also talk to your gf man. This is an insane thing to ask someone you don't really even know.
Come on. This is past any level of shady. Don't do it and tell your gf. not knowing the situations but assuming the worst.
I'd even consider looking into identity theft protection at this point, the mother may still find a way to get access to the signature..
I'd even consider looking into identity theft protection at this point, the mother may still find a way to get access to the signature..
I have a difficult relationship with my parents, and I would never, ever, under any circumstances, provide them with my signature.
The fact that you mentioned how she disregarded something her daughter was proud of tells me she's probably not the sort of person to actually do something as sentimental as this tattoo dealy.
The fact that you mentioned how she disregarded something her daughter was proud of tells me she's probably not the sort of person to actually do something as sentimental as this tattoo dealy.
OP
OP
Like I said, they talk pretty regularly, and my GF says that her mom is always posting on facebook (to what my GF says is an excessive degree) about how much she misses her daughter. So just as much as I could see this being fraud I could also just as easily see this being some awkward sentimental gesture.
Nah she's busy with friends tonight.
Yeah I don't know if I would sleep on that one. If it's a fraudster they could be asking other people as well.
My mom faked my brothers signature to take out a loan in his name. Was reminded of that from the topic title, I don't buy the tattoo story one bit.
All I can say is this is very familiar behavior to me. I am even more doubtful now.
Absolutely don't do it. Now, as far as telling your GF, that's a different question. I don't know if I would.
But I would definitely not give the signature
But I would definitely not give the signature
If her mom is trying to pull something, then the OP's girlfriend deserves to know imo.
Don't give it to her, OP. Just tell her that you will help cover the cost of the tattoo but leave the final authorization with your girlfriend. If the mother freaks out just tell her that you are honestly a little uncomfortable because a signature can be used for a lot of things and that you are not comfortable with giving away your girlfriend's signature without her explicit consent.
Also, like, Who in the actual fuck gets their personal signature tattooed on their body? These people also tattoo their Social Security number on them as well? It's 100% shady.,
Also, like, Who in the actual fuck gets their personal signature tattooed on their body? These people also tattoo their Social Security number on them as well? It's 100% shady.,
You've never met this person and 1) you think she trusts you enough to include you in her mom/daughter birthday plans and 2) you think your girlfriend won't be weirded out about you chatting with her behind her back.
If y'all were all friends and you saw her mom weekly/monthly this would be no big thing, with the way you describe their relationship it would be a huge breach of trust for you to go behind your gf's back for anything. Especially if your fraud sense is tingling.
Think about it, in a best case scenario, if they don't have her signature anywhere - no birthday cards, Christmas cards, childhood photos or essays, an old library card or ID - how weird do you think it would be to have this estranged person show up with her name on their arm?
Worst case scenario you fucked your gf's credit and your credibility in one shot. Don't do it.
If y'all were all friends and you saw her mom weekly/monthly this would be no big thing, with the way you describe their relationship it would be a huge breach of trust for you to go behind your gf's back for anything. Especially if your fraud sense is tingling.
Think about it, in a best case scenario, if they don't have her signature anywhere - no birthday cards, Christmas cards, childhood photos or essays, an old library card or ID - how weird do you think it would be to have this estranged person show up with her name on their arm?
Worst case scenario you fucked your gf's credit and your credibility in one shot. Don't do it.
OP
OP
Called my girlfriend. She said her mom has mentioned to her wanting to get that exact tattoo before so she thinks the request is legitimate. She said her mom just has boundary issues lol. GF said she's gonna let it sit for a bit and then talk to her mom about it.
You aren't dating her mom. So go with the previous recommendations of telling her, maybe even just showing her the message text. She can feign surprise if this is legit, and you can always claim you either didn't see the message or thought it was spam and her account had been hacked.
Edit: Glad to see this was resolved. Still a really weird tattoo. I personally wouldn't want either of my parents to get anything like that. My initials would be more appropriate, or my birth date.
Edit: Glad to see this was resolved. Still a really weird tattoo. I personally wouldn't want either of my parents to get anything like that. My initials would be more appropriate, or my birth date.
Okay, under no circumstance should you be the one to give her that signature.
It's more a stalling tactic than anything. Saying you would like to be more intimately involved in the process as opposed to blindly just fulfilling a request is often enough to fluster the person requesting something that is inherently shady.
Obviously the whole point is if this request is setting off alarm bells and his girlfriend is hesitant, than no money spent at all.
Good for you for communicating it with her clearly! As long as she understands what The implications are of someone else having a photorealistic copy of her signature are, and she implicitly trusts her mother with it, then all is good.
Wait, so everything worked out really well? And the story is kind of sweet?
Why am I so disappointed? I need to reevaluate some things.
Why am I so disappointed? I need to reevaluate some things.