I keep reading that if a woman provokes a physical extreme altercation, she is still immune to getting hit back. While I agree with this, 99% of the time, there are instances where it is justified. I will give one example, a personal one:
My mother was a drunk, did drugs (the hard shit), and sexually abused my brother and myself. She also brought other men over and cheated on my father in front of my brother and I. One of these friends sexually molested my brother in front of me, and we told her about it, and she stuck our hands in boiling water as punishment for "lying". Not to mention, prior to all of that, she baked our parakeets alive...thinking she was baking cookies (yes, she served the birds to us and expected us to eat them). She was constantly drunk, and drugged out of her mind.
There's a little bit of context for you. Now my dad wasn't winning any dad of the year of the awards. Never home (2 jobs, plus side jobs to stay away from home), but when he was home, he was like a mountain my brother and I hide behind. Well, one day, my mother hauled off and punched him (she did this often, and for no reason, kept calling him a pussy when she hit him), went to the kitchen, grabbed a knife and went at him. He disarmed her, she got a a few more shots in, and then he clocked her. I do not know if it was a punch or a slap, but that put an end to that altercation for sure (my brother and I were also taken away from our home for 7 years after that night).
I cannot speak how I would feel about it now, as I have made peace and parted ways with both of them, but in the moment, as an 8/9 year old, I know I was thinking she got what she deserved, and I was glad for what my dad did that night. An extreme case for sure, but as a kid, I believed my mother deserved what she got at that moment, as it was more of a "wake the fuck up" hit more than anything else (that's how I view it now). It lead to her cleaning her self up, which took 7 years.
However, what the guy did in the video was not an extreme case in my opinion, but rather a person who cannot control their anger. Also, what the asshats in the comments section are suggesting, is more like keeping a women in check with physicality (because har har equality). I feel that's totally different, and shit like that should never be encouraged.
No matter the parent, or parents, this deeply scars the children and how they will view people growing up. In this case, the children will view men differently, and there will be trust issues for sure. I know I had trust issues toward women for the longest time, before I met my wife (who had trust issues toward men...imagine the dialog we had lol). It sucks, because in the moment, I do not think most people think about how this psychologically fucks with their kids. This truly angers me the more I type about it.
But yeah, I'm sure there are other extreme examples out there. On the whole, I agree, quit resulting to physical violence, especially if there are children involved. That shit has such a profound impact on their life as a whole, and it hardly even results in something positive.
Sorry for the random post, which is all over the place and emo as fuck. I generally avoid these topics because they hit way too close to home. However, I had to share the story where my dad clocked my mother, and it was for the better. Again, I realize it's an example that's outside the norm.
