Yeah, this.
OP could want an equal number so that the bridesmaids aren't walking down the aisle alone.Do you need more groomsmen? What would be the point of adding people you are not close with?
It's not really an issue of wanting an even number. It really comes down to the expectation and societal norm that the bride and groom each have 8. But personally I don't think it's that important. I just wanted to have a good amount, and due to social anxiety I was worried about people judging me when I'm up there.OP could want an equal number so that the bridesmaids aren't walking down the aisle alone.
Ah ok. I feel you. I'm pretty sure my bride would have more bridesmaids than I would groomsmen. At the end of the day, this is ya'lls special day. What others think doesn't really matter. Just try to have as much fun as possible.It's not really an issue of wanting an even number. It really comes down to the expectation and societal norm that the bride and groom each have 8. But personally I don't think it's that important. I just wanted to have a good amount, and due to social anxiety I was worried about people judging me when I'm up there.
Just don't do wedding parties. Plenty of weddings forgo bridesmaids and groomsmen altlgether.
It's not really an issue of wanting an even number. It really comes down to the expectation and societal norm that the bride and groom each have 8. But personally I don't think it's that important. I just wanted to have a good amount, and due to social anxiety I was worried about people judging me when I'm up there.
Well she's kind of been going ham at everything with the wedding and I haven't really thought about it too much yet because it stresses me outThe reality is people are going to wonder much more why the bride has eight. That's an absurd amount.
Did the two of you discuss this at all beforehand? Usually you figure this out before asking anyone.
Well she's kind of been going ham at everything with the wedding and I haven't really thought about it too much yet because it stresses me out
Have you talked about budget yet? I know it is stressful, but you cannot put this off.Well she's kind of been going ham at everything with the wedding and I haven't really thought about it too much yet because it stresses me out
The problem isn't you only have 2 groomsmen. That's a normal amount of groomsmen.
The problem is your fiancé has 8 bridesmaids. That's a large, some might say excessive, amount.
My initial take as well, though I'm not judging your fiancé for having so many bridesmaids - I've been to quite a few weddings with 10+ groomsmen/bridsemaids, but always equal amounts for each side.The problem isn't you only have 2 groomsmen. That's a normal amount of groomsmen.
The problem is your fiancé has 8 bridesmaids. That's a large, some might say excessive, amount.
Yes of course. I'm mainly just talking about stress related to inviting peopleHave you talked about budget yet? I know it is stressful, but you cannot put this off.
Have you talked to your fiancee about this? My wife and I didn't really want a wedding. Her parents are traditional Portuguese and wouldn't let it go so my wife eventually gave in. Everything stressed us out because it was all too much and not really what we wanted. The thing that saved us was talking about everything that bothered us, figuring out what we did want and how to make the best of a bad situation.Yes of course. I'm mainly just talking about stress related to inviting people
Did she not realize she can invite friends without them specifically having to be in the wedding?? I'm trying to imagine how long it took for 14 different anecdotes about the bride
My takeaway. 2-4 is common. 8... I've never seen 8.
I'd rather have no wedding than that many bridesmaids in the wedding party. God damn. That's lunacy.