Been thinking about making this topic for a while because it's something I think about quite a lot.
I think in general I find the fascination with "family is everything/blood is thicker than water" just a bit absurd.
I love my parents and siblings, but they can be frustrating at times and ultimately they're not people I chose, so why should they be the most crucial thing? Surely those I actively choose to be with, whether romantic or friendship, is more deep and meaningful?
You see family, family, family shoehorned into movies (Fast and the Furious to a near-parodic degree, and all the forced familial links in Star Wars/MCU etc) and especially in sentimental advertising, but I suppose I just don't think family is the most important thing in the world. When it's shoved down my throat in media it just feels incredibly pandering and lazy.
Not trying to be an edgelord with this post, so sorry if it comes off that way. But I know people who will put up with toxic shit from their families because "family is all we have" and other such truisms, and they'll strive for the white picket fence existence because "that's what you're supposed to do." I find it baffling.
We all bring our own experiences/prejudices to the table of course - my parents had a bitter divorce that changed my view of them for a long time, and I don't have any desire for kids - while I suppose I can see how those who have large close-knit families might view it a bit more favourably.
I think in general I find the fascination with "family is everything/blood is thicker than water" just a bit absurd.
I love my parents and siblings, but they can be frustrating at times and ultimately they're not people I chose, so why should they be the most crucial thing? Surely those I actively choose to be with, whether romantic or friendship, is more deep and meaningful?
You see family, family, family shoehorned into movies (Fast and the Furious to a near-parodic degree, and all the forced familial links in Star Wars/MCU etc) and especially in sentimental advertising, but I suppose I just don't think family is the most important thing in the world. When it's shoved down my throat in media it just feels incredibly pandering and lazy.
Not trying to be an edgelord with this post, so sorry if it comes off that way. But I know people who will put up with toxic shit from their families because "family is all we have" and other such truisms, and they'll strive for the white picket fence existence because "that's what you're supposed to do." I find it baffling.
We all bring our own experiences/prejudices to the table of course - my parents had a bitter divorce that changed my view of them for a long time, and I don't have any desire for kids - while I suppose I can see how those who have large close-knit families might view it a bit more favourably.